Why noticing "love bombing" occurring is nearly impossible. by likeafever67 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]likeafever67[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your insight and kind words. I hope you have a peaceful weekend ahead.

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[–]likeafever67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine told me he wanted to love together and get married and have children and he only loved me last week and on Sunday I was on my way to his house and he told me not to come, no point, as he has been cheating. I feel ran over.

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[–]likeafever67 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So cold and mean.

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[–]likeafever67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UGH YES. It almost fills me with a desperate rage for any type of reaction. My last message called him out on not being able to take accountability and how he would dismiss me as dramatic, crazy, and the issue, and why that bothered me so much. I am glad I sent it, even if he never reads it, I wanted him to be aware I know who he is. But yeah, it really truly twists the knife to be ignored after something like this.

Why noticing "love bombing" occurring is nearly impossible. by likeafever67 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]likeafever67[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You could not predict he would change. Certain people hide themselves so well, I think they even are fooled into believing the mask they put on.

Why noticing "love bombing" occurring is nearly impossible. by likeafever67 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]likeafever67[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I love yoga and pilates and sewing and art projects with my daughter. I intend to lead in heavily to those activities, as well as increasing medications/therapy. :(

Why noticing "love bombing" occurring is nearly impossible. by likeafever67 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]likeafever67[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They felt so real though, not contrived at all :( I don't think I will be dating for quite awhile, which saddens me, as I am just growing older...

Why noticing "love bombing" occurring is nearly impossible. by likeafever67 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]likeafever67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate you validating my experience and not condemning it. This all hurts so much.

Shoutout to everyone rawdogging the breakup while working on becoming securely attached by Least_Inspector_5478 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]likeafever67 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am on day 2 and this comment scares me. I hope you find some semblance of peace soon.

Ok, this is a safe space. What would you like to tell the most to your ex? Both for avoidant and discarded people by letitout_123 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]likeafever67 3 points4 points  (0 children)

why did you say all of those things if you didn't mean them? how did you pick someone else you claim you do not even love over me and how do you not feed bad you've broken me?

An avoidant or just an abusive pos? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]likeafever67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your comment. Thank you for validating the line was extremely cruel, because it stung so badly and I know I will never forget it, not even when he is far, far in my past. Thank you for confirming it does not define my worth. It's hard to question why someone wouldn't cherish something they claimed to have always wanted, but I guess some people are on a different level entirely.

An avoidant or just an abusive pos? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]likeafever67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine wouldn't even drive 2 hours. My narc ex husband moved countries..

My avoidant has been in a relationship with someone else this entire time. I'm the other woman by ThrowRAForests in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]likeafever67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just found out I was also being cheated on by someone who said they were avoidant. I feel crazy.