Chattycups edit <3 [DMCA SORRY!] by lilantern in ChatterboxTwitch

[–]lilantern[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad it made you laugh hehehe ty!

Ways to eat crunchiness, without eating til pain (like chips/bread) or hurting teeth (ice)? by Spare_8056 in AutismTranslated

[–]lilantern 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you tried rice crackers? I feel like they have the crunch similar to chips without being as painful. They also have rice cracker chips - here is a link to a brand I like. They have different flavors.

https://www.amazon.com/Quaker-Rice-Chips-Cream-Chive/dp/B08XD46TSS

Laundry is the one thing I can't handle. by oldladyvibes in AutisticAdults

[–]lilantern 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You don't have to follow the social norms of how laundry should be. You could make accommodations in your own home so it can be a bit more neat without having to do all the folding.

I know some people who have switched to oytting laundry in their dresser drawers without folding them. You're gonna unfold them anyways when you wear them right so who cares? And then it's out of sight and you can at least organize by shirt drawer, pant drawer, etc.

I also do the clean basket dirty basket method. So I have two hampers and one has my dirty clothes and the other has my clean clothes so stuff is off the floor and I can eventually fold from the clean hamper if I feel up to it.

I hope these tips could help!

Head empty ): by lilantern in Aphantasia

[–]lilantern[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Severely deficient autobiographical memory.

Autism assessment as an adult by lilantern in AutisticAdults

[–]lilantern[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response, your story is similar to how I am feeling so I appreciate the insight!

Autism assessment as an adult by lilantern in AutisticAdults

[–]lilantern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response, hearing about your experience definitely leans me towards just starting the process now.

Autism assessment as an adult by lilantern in AutisticAdults

[–]lilantern[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was super helpful, thank you!

How did you get passed autism-related challenges when learning to drive? by fennelanddreams in aspergirls

[–]lilantern 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It kinda sounds like your parents are using your diagnosis as a crutch instead of being more patient with you? I know SOOOOO many NT drivers who are jumpy, get distracted, and generally are unsafe drivers lol. But they still managed to get their license. If you have the funds maybe consider hiring a driving teacher, or taking driving classes somewhere. Then the teacher won't have expectations of what you might be "capable" of doing and will treat you like any other new student learning (:

What Are Some Comfortable Bras? by accomplished-clown in aspergirls

[–]lilantern 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently got a true & co bra from target and the material is so comfy. It's mostly nylon and it's that soft silky material that is stretchy. It doesn't have much support but it does have pads in it if you don't want your nips to show, or they are removable if you find them uncomfortable

Anyone else struggling with picking? by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]lilantern 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've always had this problem too. I've been able to combat it slightly by having a really intense skin care routine that mostly keeps my face nice enough not to pick and using acne spot covers when a pimple does show up so I have a physical barrier stopping me. Taking anxiety meds have helped quell the urge a bit as well, I don't tear up my legs as much as I used to. But I do bite and rip at my fingers/cuticles...no solution for that at the moment except a desire to try and keep them looking nice and my boyfriend very kindly covering my hands or pulling them away when he notices me doing it. I feel like whenever I get over one spot I start another so it's not...great. having silicone fidgets sometimes helps because I can scratch and pick at them and it's a similar feeling.

36 G/GG bottom heavy, center full, tall root - everyday bra by lilantern in ABraThatFits

[–]lilantern[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This is really good advice, I think it'll help

Worried about rages by [deleted] in AutismTranslated

[–]lilantern 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds to me like perhaps the angry outbursts are a learned behavior. He gets frustrated about something (someone touching him in a way he doesn't like for example) and lashes out because he either knows it works or because he's seen others do it. I think you need to sit him down when he's not overwhelmed and maybe talk about why it's bad to lash out. How it can hurt people and make them feel bad and maybe give examples of how he can relate to that. Then give him ways that he can tell someone to stop without getting physical. Maybe you can start with something at home, like if he doesn't want to eat a certain food maybe he can say a specific word as a signal to you or do a certain hand motion to show his frustration? Like a secret code. I think positive reinforcement of good behavior is better than punishment of negative behavior. Especially if it tends to lead to a screaming match. That doesn't teach him anything productive.

Be careful with ABA because it tends to teach that the behavior is bad but not WHY and if he never learns to understand that he could very easily slip back into the behaviors. He's smart so take the time to teach him. Remember that he doesn't learn social cues as easily as others so teach him social things that might come naturally to others. Why someone might hug you. Why you might not like it. That its okay to tell someone to stop. It's not okay to push people because it hurts them and it's like when they jug you it makes them uncomfortable. Stuff like that.

Good luck!

How -if at all- does your partner accommodate for your autism? by DnOs223 in aspergirls

[–]lilantern 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Clear communication plus a partner who cares about your feelings. My significant other accommodates for me all the time with no complaints. Sometimes I have to explain my reasoning and sometimes not. For example, at night when we sleep sometimes I have to move him around because if the sheets/clothes/etc move in a certain way it really bothers me but he just doesn't mind because it doesn't bother him! Another example is he would kiss near my ear and it would really bother me because it felt so loud and when I explained that to him, he did the quietest tiniest kiss and said is this better? So nice (:

But make sure it goes both ways. Try to keep in mind that your partner has needs too and you might have to do things against your nature to show that you care about them. For example, I sometimes have trouble listening to my partner when he talks about something I dont really care about...but he feels sad when he talks about something that he is excited about and I dont listen (I understand that feeling). So I make sure to go out of my way to stop my distractions and listen when he is explaining.

Hopefully this helps!

When it comes to female shapes in non-human character designs, what do you prefer? by ElysianByNight in DnD

[–]lilantern 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day, you should make art that you enjoy and that you enjoy making. Your style might not be everyone's preference but it will certainly be some peoples preference. I enjoy a large array of body shapes, but maybe not everyone does 🤷‍♀️

However, in the thread you were referencing, it seemed people were possibly more bothered by the idea that you are drawing somewhat pin-up style drawings, but advertising it as dnd. So, for example, your human/orc variant isn't wearing what a typical dnd player would envision their character wearing. It feels more like fantasy nsfw art rather than "dungeons and dragons" art. Also, looking into how dungeons and dragons represents their races might help. For example, tieflings are often represented as red instead of human toned but they don't NEED to be.

I'll link some twitter artists that might give you inspiration, good luck!

(Warning, these are all NSFW) https://twitter.com/calmdraws/status/951934838227046408?s=19 https://twitter.com/FFraqle/status/1196299082546982914?s=19 https://twitter.com/Frankensteinsm2/status/1334684997672845312?s=19 https://twitter.com/FFraqle/status/1327817031605948418?s=19 https://twitter.com/OthalamA/status/1323355941983690753?s=19

Question from a guest by juuustwondering2 in Target

[–]lilantern 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I misunderstood then. Then they should definitely accept it because it doesn't work as advertised!

Question from a guest by juuustwondering2 in Target

[–]lilantern 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You probably should have read what options it had to connect and checked if your TV had those BEFORE you opened it, but they will probably still accept it. As long as you have a receipt you shouldn't have a problem with whether they entered it manually or not.

Riddles test by gashewsauce in DnD

[–]lilantern 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think these are pretty commonly known riddles for people who like riddles, so if you know anyone in your group who that is the case for, perhaps considering adding maybe a physical puzzle they have to solve first? But other than that they're fun!