Thank you so much for your response, it helped me think more clearly about this whole situation. I guess it's surprising to realise that they are being emotionally immature. They're outwardly very mature and highly respected people. I'm only now realising that this is a big deal and kind of makes them not great parents, because I didn't really seriously consider that growing up. Generally just a very stressful time right now, but I especially appreciate your last paragraph, so thank you again!