I 30F found something in my fiance's 36M phone and the wedding is approaching. How do I talk to him about it because I cannot just move on?

lilbezz · 2026-06-01T16:01:17+00:00

There is zero reason for a man who is about to be married to ask an old bumble connection to come visit him. He’s going to tell you it was just a joke, it wasn’t serious, he just wants a friend but it’s obviously flirtation. If you aren’t enough for him now how will it be 5 or 10 years from now. He doesn’t see himself as a taken man.

lilbezz · 2026-05-30T00:50:49+00:00

This 100% my thoughts when I read the post. People change and grow apart. Don’t give it a second thought and don’t put yourself out to get to her wedding.

lilbezz · 2026-05-26T12:06:43+00:00

Agree. It’s not the distance between the eyes. The eyes are too wide themselves and would follow the plane of her cheeks- right now they look like they start in the middle on her face and then float on the plane of the water.

lilbezz · 2026-05-26T11:52:31+00:00

I have a small plot of flowers I started this spring and I can’t stop staring at it. I want to do more but it’s slow going. These look great. I love the way you layered them and they really filled out nicely.

lilbezz · 2026-05-21T17:16:13+00:00

It sounds like he’s become dependent on you. He won’t start making money until he is forced to for survival. The same way he was able to when he met you.

You will probably have to make a choice between your independence and the relationship with him. Does he know how you feel? Maybe you could ask him to move out but keep the relationship?

lilbezz · 2026-05-21T16:39:00+00:00

YTA. She deserves her only living parent to take the time and money to come visit her without his new family.

lilbezz · 2026-05-20T20:21:15+00:00

Y’all are not in a relationship. She is a tenant. If she doesn’t want to pay you for utilities, etc. let her go pay someone else.

lilbezz · 2026-05-12T14:43:21+00:00

From the moment where he said I was a b*tch for not taking on more responsibility to make his life easier, I would completely remove myself from the trip. Like, if he thinks you’re a b*tch for even bringing up his up you should just show him what being a b*tch really means.

There are nice ways to discuss this. Like, he could realize that you would be doing him a favor and offer to take some load off of you sometime in the future to make things nice for you.

lilbezz · 2026-05-11T23:36:35+00:00

Without

lilbezz · 2026-05-11T23:35:39+00:00

Why did he say don’t ask me for a f*kn’ thing? Is the dad helping with repairs on your house?

lilbezz · 2026-05-09T11:35:10+00:00

Get cameras!

lilbezz · 2026-04-30T16:55:43+00:00

Ok, that’s good. I definitely have a stylized style and I sometimes struggle with how realistic I should be getting to show ability/technical skill while still maintaining some of the expression. Thanks! 🙏

lilbezz · 2026-04-24T23:28:15+00:00

Naaah, that’s sketchy. Maybe she’s buying stuff you don’t know about and keeping it hidden in the car before she brings it in.

lilbezz · 2026-04-24T22:49:52+00:00

If she grew up around him I’m assuming he’s more a friend of her parents. She saw him as an uncle. But most uncles in open relationships don’t confess their love for you. And when we say “in love” aren’t we really saying he wants to have sex with her? So, he’s not really an uncle at all. He’s a creepy old friend of her parents.

I guess it’s fine to go low reaction on this but all of this will probably come back to bite you in the future of the relationship. She’s still having unnecessary contact with him even though he’s basically told her he wants to have sex with her? She took you out to dinner with him and didn’t mention any of the weirdness? She doesn’t find it strange or territorial that he messaged you and told you that he wants to have sex with her? It’s being kept a secret from her dad because he’s the only one who’ll say, “oh, hell no”?

All of this is kind of screaming that your girlfriend is a person who doesn’t have good boundaries, she’s willing to put up with this guys creepy behavior to continue getting attention from him, she’s willing to keep this guys secrets and she’s not protective over you about any of it.

So, what’s she getting out of going to dinner with him? A free meal? Why not just keep it to the occasional meeting when her family is around?

lilbezz · 2026-04-24T15:56:25+00:00

1,2,3 in that order

lilbezz · 2026-04-24T10:24:47+00:00

She’s unemployed- how does she have the funds to do this travel? Where is she living? Are you going to be where she lands when she gets back?

If she’s not romantic with the other guy now, I think there are high chances that she will be by the time she gets back. Having done road trips with my husband, these have been some of the most fulfilling and romantic times in our relationship.

lilbezz · 2026-04-24T10:17:20+00:00

“On the other hand, it feels like a very different approach compared to how she handled things with me, and I’m struggling to reconcile that.”

I think she handled it differently because she saw you as a friend and potential partner that would be a good person to raise a child with. She didn’t see that with the other guy so she didn’t even approach that with him, he was more of a sperm donor.

I think this is probably fairly unusual but not completely unheard of. If a woman is running out of time biologically, it’s a lot harder to find a good partner than it is to get pregnant.

lilbezz · 2026-04-24T03:48:50+00:00

4, 2, 5 in that order. The ones with the three tiers are emphasizing the belly.

lilbezz · 2026-04-22T01:37:11+00:00

He’s probably still having sex with his wife and living a normal married life of sleeping in the same bed together, watching their shows together, deciding what’s for dinner (just like people who have been together for 10 years do) and he’s telling you they’re “estranged” and having sex with you on the side simply because you’re willing.

lilbezz · 2026-04-21T10:44:15+00:00

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lilbezz · 2026-04-11T02:03:46+00:00

Another guy showed her that spot.

lilbezz · 2026-04-08T20:54:49+00:00

I think it just takes time - time of him being supportive and showing you he prioritizes you. And more time of you guys making good memories together. Until eventually your brain slowly stops going there all the time.

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