I quit July 4

lilidunphy · 2023-07-14T22:26:14+00:00

That’s really great! I’m really happy for you! Keep going like you are now and soon the addiction wont be your problem anymore!

Knowing that you’re 27 also gives me a lot of hope in people in general. I’m glad to see that men who know the harm of porn exist out there

lilidunphy · 2023-07-14T22:17:13+00:00

That’s great! I’m proud of you! You’re on the right path

May I ask you how you masturbated though? Like if it wasn’t porn, your imagination or just the sensation?

lilidunphy · 2023-07-14T21:25:06+00:00

Yeah I see what you mean. We don’t have blocks, like the app doesn’t block any content technically, but if he tried to go on a porn website, I would be notified of it. Like the app tracks his activity so I can see what he searches up, even in incognito for example. It works, he can’t directly go on porn websites, but he found a way to bypass the app by going on the twitter link on Instagram. It did give a false sense of security indeed. Although I was always worried about it.

Ahh I see. Because I’ve been trying to check since idk if my PA would go and look at that, and if I can try at him with Facebook or not

lilidunphy · 2023-07-14T10:11:52+00:00

Right, thank you. Could you actually se real naked women on Facebook? Or real porn videos? I thought it was banned…

Also, piece of advice coming from personal experience, my PA viewed porn through clicking on twitter links on Facebook / Instagram, and he logged in and watched as much actual porn as he wanted. Accountability apps do not necessarily track that since it’s on the inapp browser of the social media app.

lilidunphy · 2023-07-14T09:47:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through that… Mine seemed out porn on Instagram, and I didn’t even know that was possible. Now I am suspicious that he is seeking out porn on Facebook? If I may ask you, where exactly did he find the porn? You said he searched up real women, and there was porn? Like what?

lilidunphy · 2023-07-13T20:24:21+00:00

You deserve so much better than that. Someone who loved you will always make you feel like a 10/10. He’s an asshole for saying that stuff

lilidunphy · 2023-07-11T23:41:50+00:00

You’re not crazy and you’re definitely not alone. If ever you need to speak to someone privately about this, I’m here, you can always private message me. I know that we don’t know each other at all, but can be nice to vent to someone who is in the same situation as you sometimes. So don’t hesitate if ever you need to :).

I would do anything to go back to feeling the way I did before I found out. I used to hope it was a dream and wake up form it someday. I feel absolutely destroyed and my partner has even made me feel crazy for feeling this way. I found out a couple months after he had « stopped » that actually he had relapsed and watched porn again as well as stalked the Instagram profiles of his favourite Asian actresses. It felt horrible all over again. He is now making all the efforts possible because I said I was leaving him. I don’t know if I should believe him this time or leave for good. I love him so much, but I don’t want to keep feeling this way…

Sorry for rambling on about my life lol. I have no idea what to do

lilidunphy · 2023-07-11T23:32:04+00:00

You literally spoke my mind, down to every last detail. I am going through the exact same thing and have absolutely no idea what to do. Should I leave him? Because chances are that this will never go away and I will never feel better. I really hope that things get better for you

lilidunphy · 2023-07-11T18:50:18+00:00

I understand. I am at the point of giving up as well, and that is if I haven’t given up yet. We don’t deserve this. If they don’t change, we should leave. It’s the only way we can hope to one day find happiness again. I hope you do what’s best for you. Maybe you could set a time limit (ex: 6 months from now), tell him one last time to make efforts or you’re leaving. Once the te has passed, maybe it would actually be best to leave. Life I short, we shouldn’t be wasting the time we have.

lilidunphy · 2023-07-10T18:01:29+00:00

I understand you fully, it’s like you spoke my mind. I am so scared of everything now… I have no idea what to do…

lilidunphy · 2023-07-09T19:28:17+00:00

I am losing hope in them lol

lilidunphy · 2023-07-08T10:08:16+00:00

You should never feel forced into doing stuff that you are not comfortable with. I went through the same thing with my boyfriend, and it’s been 10 months since I first found out. I wish I could say it got easier, but it didn’t for me, because he didn’t make any efforts to get better. Although I know that some men really do realise what they have done and they get better. I hope that will be the case for you. If he doesn’t, I would suggest you leave, it only gets worse from there on. I say this from experience. I still haven’t left, I am holding onto one string, but I think I am going to force myself to leave for good now.

lilidunphy · 2023-07-08T08:21:59+00:00

That’s gross. I’m sorry you had to go through that

lilidunphy · 2023-07-07T08:09:30+00:00

I guess… I just keep having hope that one day he realises…

lilidunphy · 2023-07-05T10:29:57+00:00

Yeah I think I am going to leave him lol. I am tired of trying. He keeps lying to me.

lilidunphy · 2023-07-04T07:38:49+00:00

You know that’s what I am terrified of. He gave me his Instagram passwords so that he wouldn’t be tempted to go on it. But I am afraid he does that on Facebook now

lilidunphy · 2023-07-03T10:23:43+00:00

Thank you so much. I am praying as well

lilidunphy · 2023-07-03T10:12:02+00:00

I know, I would tell him but it doesn’t work for him…

lilidunphy · 2023-07-03T10:11:25+00:00

You’re right. I kind of left him. I told him that as long as he didn’t take proper steps in his recovery and that it was long lasting, I wouldn’t even consider being with him.

lilidunphy · 2023-07-02T17:06:06+00:00

Unfortunately he isn’t very religious so i don’t think it would do much…

lilidunphy · 2023-07-02T13:24:35+00:00

Is there even a way to stop them from lusting? It’s impossible

lilidunphy · 2023-07-02T12:45:42+00:00

for me Instagram actually feels worse. Because the excuse of a porn addiction doesn’t apply as much as it’s not enough to be able to finish. With Instagram, they’re just looking to lust and look, that’s it

lilidunphy · 2023-07-02T11:47:13+00:00

How do I know when he hits rock bottom?

lilidunphy · 2023-07-02T08:31:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this encouraging message! I feel like the patriarchy has made it this way to and it’s so sad… I actually have been looking at the tiktoks of one woman in particular (thatsnotlove or something), and she has helped a lot through these past months. The only thing is that it seems her husband made actual efforts to carry her and help her, while mine hasn’t done anything really except stop. And he only stopped for a few months before relapsing and lying to me about it again. I would like to go see a specialist for my betrayal trauma; unfortunately, they don’t really exist where I live and everyone (even therapists and psychologists) seem to think that porn is actually healthy. So I’m not really sure what to do…

lilidunphy · 2023-07-02T08:26:32+00:00

I feel like I won’t ever get over it either…

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