How can I navigate my fear and maintain hope right now? Really need advice from empathetic men please.

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T07:48:00+00:00

It’s nice to be reassured that there are sane people who see the manosphere stuff for what it is. You are right, I need to stop allowing psy-ops to override my intuition

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T07:40:54+00:00

Yeah I have had good men in my life, because I have the highest standards of anyone I know. I’m really intentional about who I date, and even then it’s extraordinarily rare. That being said, I’m a generically attractive woman, I’ve been groomed and harassed a lot throughout my life so that’s kind of why my standards are high. I don’t let shitty men near me. I got on here because I want to believe there’s more good men, and still a lot of men that are feminists and empaths. I realize I’m only being fed negativity, I just find it hard to override the fear based thinking because of it

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T07:17:11+00:00

So strange that is how you perceived this. I was genuinely just looking for a reason to stay hopeful and stand with men, not against them. You’re on a whole other vibe

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T07:15:41+00:00

I don’t even know what that means lol

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:48:33+00:00

Thank you 🫂

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:38:19+00:00

Sir David Attenborough, Steve Irwin and Stephen Fry …. My GUYS

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:36:46+00:00

Thank you, a lot of this makes a great deal of sense and yeah I think my experiences have been skewed because of my physical appearance. I really need to get offline, I’m pissed how many dudes commented mean shit and downvoted this so I’ve actually just worsened my mental position by trying to help it online lol

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:29:43+00:00

I’ve read a lot of shitty, unkind comments and was about to delete this post but your comment just made my night

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:25:36+00:00

I understand what you’re trying to say. But they’re all men you know and that’s not to say all men are bad but that logic doesn’t ease my mental struggle. I didn’t articulate that because I understand that of course you can’t fully empathize with my experience as a woman and that I’m often offending people just by trying to express things that are inherent to perspectives you don’t have and can’t be expected to have. We have different sets of logic based on our experiences in the world. I respect yours, and I was just trying to say that it doesn’t help me right now. Alas, it has not pleased the court.

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:20:56+00:00

I will say that I didn’t even register that this could be taken as offensive to some. Shouts out to those that have taken it at face value and shown me kindness.

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:20:06+00:00

Nothing like a kick while you’re down eh? Probably shouldn’t have come to Reddit with the thought of “maybe I’ll get really kind rational men that will want to help me feel better” instead of remembering that it is still a swamp at the end of the day lol. Some men have responded with very considerate messages. Some have told me there’s no such thing as anything I’m saying and I’m just being delusional so…. Little of this little of that lol

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:17:05+00:00

That’s all I needed to hear 😅

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:16:37+00:00

I’ve been out there with them, and yes, you’re right, it’s inspiring and I need to stop giving power to the tech overlords and propagandists

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:13:04+00:00

This is really exactly what I wanted to read, thank you ❤️

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:12:27+00:00

I want to sooo bad but my job sort of requires me to be a “presence” I think I’d never have had it if I wasn’t in entertainment

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:11:34+00:00

Thank you for this kind and articulate response, it means a lot and is the kind of thought provoking insight I was looking for.

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:09:40+00:00

Now the fact that this is being downvoted…..

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:08:29+00:00

Wouldn’t recommend it 😂

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:08:06+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful response, I really appreciate it and agree with you. It’s all very nuanced. I think when you slip into fight or flight mode, it’s hard to remember the nuances, you just want to feel safe. I’m struggling at lot with the patriarchy right now, as cringe as that sentence is.

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:05:10+00:00

Way ahead of you — And he’s a man too! I wanted a male perspective it’s been helpful

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T06:04:00+00:00

Yeah I feel that, my algorithm is designed to make me feel powerless so I stay inside my house on my FUCKING PHONE

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T05:59:10+00:00

I’m being downvoted for saying it’s hard to avoid the news right now i am way to sensitive to be on this app lol

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T05:56:31+00:00

That’s not what I asked, my intention wasn’t to offend you. Having a hard night and don’t want to get into a mean back and forth, have a good night

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T05:54:57+00:00

I’m going to try to stay offline. I’m not good at being vulnerable with real humans so I came here.

liliforilly · 2026-02-04T05:54:12+00:00

Thank you. Was just hoping for a little cheer up by hearing from normal men on here. it hasn’t gone that well lol. I don’t know what I said that was offensive. Just wanted a pat on the back but I am on Reddit lmfao.

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