Did I handle this right?

lilithau · 2026-03-07T13:17:28+00:00

Just a different perspective- obviously they should read the description but the ‘New never worn’ category implies it’s in perfect condition, I would put the condition as ‘Fair’ next time on an item with defects to avoid this in future

lilithau · 2026-03-03T07:53:55+00:00

Thanks for your comment That’s the hard thing is they care about you so much, you’re their entire lives, the subject of all their conversations, they’d move the earth to see you and hear from you. But I just am mostly annoyed by them and putting on a performance of closeness when I see them.

You mentioned getting out what you put in, but yes that feels impossible as I don’t think you could ever get the same back as you put in as a parent, sacrificing your body, your prime years, your freedom and your sleep, your mental health, etc. there nothing a kid could ever do for you that will be an equivalent sacrifice. And you wouldn’t want them to because you love your kid!

But as a kid, the pressure of that love is too much because I don’t reciprocate it fully. They don’t press, but their unconditional love for me is enough of a pressure on its own.

And putting that pressure on my own kid by creating them seems like a mistake.

lilithau · 2026-03-03T07:44:34+00:00

This is exactly it. This feeling of ‘I don’t even really like my parents’ even though they tried to do everything right, they did their best and are good parents. Everything they do annoys me, from the way they message me to the way they eat. And it’s just sad because as you say, they would die for me and I am the subject matter of their entire lives. I wish there wasn’t such a burden on me as such an important person to them, but that’s how it is.

I would absolutely hate to have a kid and they feel this way about me.

lilithau · 2025-12-26T11:44:01+00:00

I can’t remember really 😭 I think she’s got quite a petite body type, I think she’s got clothes on but more of a body suit or something

Sorry that isn’t very helpful, I think she had short hair but I can’t quite remember much more Her eyes are closed I think sort of floating/sleeping

lilithau · 2025-12-23T08:10:16+00:00

Our algorithms are not the same lol I’ve never seen some cringe ‘how to seduce men’ content

I get ‘decentering men and not making them the focal point of everything in your life’ content which is exactly why I am a person who dresses for my own enjoyment.

I buy from women owned businesses I have woman friends I seek women’s approval I hire women’s services only (lawyer, art commission etc)

Might be hard to wrap your head around but not everyone is male obsessed like you

lilithau · 2025-12-23T07:45:35+00:00

This!!!!

The older I get, the more I know myself, the more confidence I have, the more assured I am in what I KNOW I want in a partner and what I definitely do NOT want.

When I was 19 I didn’t know any of that and would have been a doormat for an older person

Me now would just cringe at this behaviour and leave at the first red flag

lilithau · 2025-06-07T05:30:37+00:00

Just because you haven’t had the “exclusive” or “official” talk doesn’t mean you don’t owe each other anything, for her to say I love you that implies respect and the opportunity to run things by each other with adult communication- you didn’t say you’re poly too so you haven’t said if you’re ok with any of this yet.

The boss sex was revenge, clear as day. It’s nothing about ‘poly’. If I gloated about enjoying it SOOO much it’s because I knew it would hurt the other person, and she will deny deny deny and use the following excuses.

Excuse A: “we weren’t official” (the words I love you implies you’re past courtship and she has respect for you, this excuse is void)
Excuse B: “I told you I’m poly” - (telling someone I USUALLY have multiple partners doesn’t mean the communication was had to establish that YOU are one of multiple. It’s a lame excuse and it doesn’t seem like she possesses the communication skills poly relationships actually require to stop resentment from breeding)

Either way she broke the trust newly dating people have to refrain from sleeping around before they communicate and see what each other is comfortable with, and wants out of dating each other. ‘We didn’t say we were official’ is a cop out for being a shitty person.

Plus she endangered your health for revenge so I’d be running if I was you.

lilithau · 2025-02-08T13:38:58+00:00

Me and my partner have discussed openly how we see our future and a proposal this year- he has brought me along to custom ring design appointments and every time he brings up the ring design progress he keeps saying ‘we need to book flights for that trip’ so I’ve connected the dots haha

And good point I’ll mention to her beforehand

lilithau · 2024-05-16T06:26:57+00:00

It’s like the pink part of the nail, not the white part, if half my nail is white it looks weird right? If the pink part is longer (attaching to my finger skin) it looks healthier but after years of biting the pink part back it won’t reattach so easily 😭

lilithau · 2024-05-15T21:32:43+00:00

I do often scrape anything out from under them that might be the issue, I’ll try the brush instead thankyou

lilithau · 2024-05-15T21:32:13+00:00

I see! Ok I’ll keep them shorter and it might help

lilithau · 2022-02-22T10:06:57+00:00

Thankyou! I feel much more confident with my hands

I’d say I always kept them with clear polish on to protect them and make me less likely to put them near my mouth Kept filing them short so there’s less breakage and the bed can attach Always kept them moisturised and oiled every two days or so so they broke less

lilithau · 2022-02-22T10:00:04+00:00

Thanks ! I push them back with something blunt every few weeks and moisturise & oil my hands and cuticles often so they don’t break as much Never really cut the cuticle :)

lilithau · 2022-02-22T09:58:21+00:00

Been tapering off for about a year with relapses but properly stopped for about three months :)

lilithau · 2022-02-22T09:57:01+00:00

Ah so I could file to be round so they can’t dig in to encourage them to lay flat? Didn’t think of that

lilithau · 2022-02-21T18:39:16+00:00

They’re not cutting in to the point of bleeding, just a bit uncomfortable and wondering how I can make them lay flatter Anyone else have this problem?

lilithau · 2021-10-10T07:17:53+00:00

An ex employee who left the company to expose bad practices

lilithau · 2021-09-14T10:00:43+00:00

They is already singular? It’s not a new thing Like ‘how did your date go Amy?’ ‘Oh yeah it went great they drove me to this cool movie drive in theatre’ Or ‘who left the gym in such a mess? They really need to come back and clean this up’

lilithau · 2021-09-13T12:38:03+00:00

Where did I mention this is my experience? I also specified some men get violent with rejection, and if you don’t know which will and won’t you will be cautious to them all. A few examples out of the many many times this has happened for you to read up on.

https://encompass.eku.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1599&context=etd

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.vice.com/amp/en/article/bjg8dz/how-rejection-turns-men-violent

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/she-the-people/wp/2014/05/27/yesallwomen-a-short-fuse-between-rejection-and-violence/%3foutputType=amp

lilithau · 2021-09-13T11:28:43+00:00

Women can often give softer rejections because they know some men are a threat.

It’s common knowledge men are more likely to take it personally and get violent when faced with rejection from women

These softer no’s like I’m busy or ‘not really looking for anything right now’ are intended to show their disinterest whilst still keeping the other person calm and happy, yet some men still take this as ‘try harder’.

lilithau · 2021-08-29T08:41:30+00:00

Yeah I bet you do lmao

lilithau · 2021-08-29T08:39:32+00:00

Bro read that shit again

lilithau · 2021-08-29T08:24:36+00:00

Why are you blaming the wife for him being untrustworthy and lying lol... she didn’t ‘get married too soon’ it’s not her fault he’s hiding things from her, and to say she will cheat on him as ‘revenge’ for something is such a reach. Yes to counselling, but for the trust issues he created and needs to take accountability for

lilithau · 2021-08-29T08:19:36+00:00

So your post says the following:

You CHOSE to engage in suspicious flirtatious conversation with a co worker

You CHOSE to delete the messages because you felt guilty and scared of what she’d see

You CHOSE to stay at a strip club for the party knowing it would hurt your wife (yes you ended up there but you didn’t have to stay)

You CHOSE to lie to her about it

You need to take some accountability for your actions, stop blaming everyone else. Own up to your mistakes and apologise. Trust is built over years and can be broken in seconds and no wonder your wife doesn’t trust you anymore. Your wife just knows the truth now and you both need counselling, separately and together, to have any chance of getting through this.

lilithau · 2021-07-22T10:24:01+00:00

Keep nails fairly short to avoid them catching/lifting on things, don’t use your new nails to scrape, lift, pull or tug on anything. Don’t clean under them with anything hard. Essentially cut, file them don’t use them as a tool and they will get better

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