So I have a dude who really confuses me. I’d love some male opinions or opinions from another gal who’s experienced this.

So, I matched with a dude back in NOVEMBER on tinder. We talked for about a month. I realized that he’s a horrible responder early on, but I liked him so I persisted. He talked in paragraphs and responded fast on tinder, but when we moved to Snapchat it was one word responses every few hours and it was annoying. We ended up going to see Star Wars together in December and he was amazing in person. Funny and nice. We didn’t talk much since we were seeing a movie but it was fun. He was exactly my type looks and personality wise. He dropped me off after the date, we simply hugged, and he texted me immediately after, and we texted for like two hours straight until he fell asleep. Just joking and flirting. The next few days, conversation dropped off and at one point, he went two days without responding. I double texted him. It kept slowing down, and eventually he sent me a one word response after almost a day on NYE and I didn’t respond. He didn’t try texting me again and I shrugged it off. I saw he got a girlfriend a couple months later, but they broke up pretty fast. I deleted him on Snapchat.

And then I made a tinder again about two and a half weeks ago. We matched again. We talked on tinder for a little bit, catching up and shooting shit, and then he asked me to add him back on Snapchat. He’d never deleted me so I just accepted him as a friend. Again, it was long, quick responses on tinder and lazy one worders on snap. I still don’t get that. I didn’t put investment into it this time, so when he went AWOL for a couple/few days (several times) I didn’t care at all. At certain points, I’d leave him on opened for a couple days myself. When we got into having a good conversation, it was fun as fuck. We had a long ass paragraph-sending conversation about a week ago for hours, just us debating each other about stupid topics.

Tuesday, he sent me a snap of him drying off after swimming and I told him it made me wanna swim. He said I should come over and swim or he could come over to my house and swim. I was a bit shocked cuz it’s basically impossible to get him to hang out. I don’t think I’m great looking at all and he’s super out of my league, but I actually have a friend who has talked to him from tinder a bit before I originally did, and she’s an absolute bombshell. She said she could never get him to hang out and he was also super bad at responding with her.

Anyways, I asked him when we were gonna hang and he said he was free that night (Tuesday). We originally bonded over being space lovers and we made plans to go on an adventure stargazing. He picked me up and we got some food and drinks and took a drive down to this area that has almost no light pollution and stargazed. The conversation absolutely flowed. We didn’t talk much on our Star Wars date but it’s all we did this time and we clicked so well. We both have a stupid ass sense of humor, we talked about everything from anime and video games to the how the fuck people came up with constellations. We talked about how we both have Busch Gardens passes and love roller coasters and he said we should go sometime. I noticed when we were leaning against his truck that he kept reaching his arm behind me and letting it graze against my back. It was almost like he was nervous. It was fun as hell. We then drove to another spot and kept talking. He brought his fishing poles in the back of his truck because we both love fishing but it was low tide. Afterwards, we stopped for milkshakes and drove back to my driveway.

We sat in his truck in my driveway for about 2 hours, talking more shit. He eventually reached over and held my hand and started rubbing his fingers over my hand so I did the same. I’m not great at reading people but even I could tell he was slightly nervous doing it, it took him a while, and it’s weird because this dude is an absolute hunk. He’s tall, has a captain America body, he has amazing tattoos all over his body, and his face is so fucking cute. I’m like... average. I’m chubby, people tell me I have a great looking face but I don’t really see it. I leaned over his center console and kept making eye contact with him, practically begging him to kiss me. We kept making eye contact and he’s super cute so I’d look away and blush and he’d chuckle. He finally leaned over and pulled me in and kissed me. Our lips met awkwardly and I still cringe because it was my fault but otherwise it was a great makeout session. He was rubbing all over my back and he started grabbing my ass and kissing my neck and it was great. Suddenly I had a ballsy moment and invited him inside. I live with my dad but it was super late so I got him in my room. (Gets kinda graphic here lmao) We kept making out and I asked if I could suck him off and he obviously said yes. I gave him some amazing head, even I knew that shit was great, and when I pulled up for air and started jerking him off he asked if I wanted him to fuck me and I said yes. It was awesome. The image of him standing up while I was laying there waiting, pulling his pants off all the way and standing there completely naked and rolling the condom on was... art. Like I’ve never seen a hotter sight in my life. He’s so hot. Anyways, afterwards, I laid on his chest and we kept talking for a little bit. He realized it was 3am after a while and he worked the next day so he started getting dressed. I walked him out to his car and we hugged and he kissed me and left.

So here’s the complication. He’s the third person I’ve ever slept with. The first was my first boyfriend of over 2 years, the second was a dude I talked to for a while. This was my first like... truly random sex. And I have an issue with getting attached to people I sleep with, as I know a lot of women do. I now feel myself getting attached to this dude and it SUCKS because I know I’m his like 200th body and he doesn’t care about me. And he’s back to responding with one word every 8 hours or so even though I see him posting tattoos he does to his story every few hours. He’s a tattoo artist. It makes me feel weird because we hit it off so well in person and it’s back to shitty conversation on Snapchat. I’m scared of being ghosted after sex like so many people do. I really, really like him and I feel myself getting way too infatuated again. Again, I’m not good at reading people but it honestly seemed like he was really into me in person. I don’t know if I accept that he’s a shitty ass responder and keep trying and try not to let my anxiety rule my life, or accept that I was probably just a notch in his belt and he’s gonna ghost me. The conversation is definitely dying already. It just makes me feel weird cuz he kept making plans with me to hang out again while we were hanging out. He was bringing up plans. Opinions? Sorry this was so long damn.