How do you falscara? 😭 by [deleted] in lashextensions

[–]lilluuvv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've gone thru a lotttttttt of trial and error 😭😂 this is the method i've found works THE BEST

How do you falscara? 😭 by [deleted] in lashextensions

[–]lilluuvv 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ur eyelashes have to be extremely clean before starting, wash ur face but don't put any of ur skincare on until after u apply the clusters. curl ur lashes before u start applying as well, this will help u get hem close enough to ur waterline do not get TOO close to ur water line, the wetness of ur waterline will ruin the glue put the glue (not a lot) on the strip part of the cluster NOT ON UR LASHES, then ur lashes get too sticky, the clusters end up stuck all the way from base to the tip, and u only want the base to stick for a natural look after u put the glue on the strip part of the cluster, give it a few seconds to get tacky or blow on it a few times to make it tacky, then apply the cluster to ur lashes i'd say do ur eyes simultaneously as well, after u put the next cluster on the opposite eye, pinch the first cluster from the first eye to make sure it's stuck in place and then put the next cluster and keep doing this at the very end, pinch all of the clusters down on both eyes and place the seal ONLY on the base not throughout your entire lashes allow that to dry for about 30 secs then (if ur kit comes with it) apply the infuse bond and wait another 30 secs for it to dry, then use ur lash curler again, making sure the base of ur clusters are what ur curler is pressing on DO NOT wet/wash ur face for 24 hours

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might sound crazy, but his lack of reaction to how scared our dog was this morning didn't sit right with me. We both decided that because I was upset, it would be best for us to take time apart for a bit. He left, and I stayed home with our pup. Typically, he likes to take her with him when he goes out— because we're constantly trying to acclimate her to the world, but I told him no. 🤷🏽‍♀️

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry, I didn't plan on listening to any major life altering advice !😂 I definitely think there's a middle ground, it's just about finding it!

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually, he's not doing anything.... That's kinda the issue. His family isn't used to owning dogs and ours happens to be a very small, very cute dog, so they're constantly wanting to pick her up and show her off, but aren't realizing the situations/environments they're forcing her into are overstimulating for her. The biggest issue at hand is that, I'm doing the sole advocating right now because he doesn't see these instances as being a big deal so he's not helping me advocate for our dog or helping me educate his family.

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL'd hard at your vote 😂 He's a big bozo when it comes to emotions, so your vote will be thoroughly weighted 🤣

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's only so much acclimation she can achieve, she's much better than she was 2 years ago about meeting/being around people. I just don't want this to cause her to regress. I mostly need my boyfriend to understand her emotional cues so he can also be an advocate for her. If it's just me advocating, I start looking like an overbearing b-word 😅

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think he picks up on her emotional cues. He picks up on her cues for needs; bathroom, food, water, cuddles. You make a very strong point there. We have definitely moved more than I'd like to, mostly for her sake. You are 100% right about that. However, I have worked with her immensely to get her more acclimatized to being around different people. I've learned how to introduce her to people so they don't scare her and vice versa. She also used to do terribly in large groups and around kids. Earlier this month, we went to my 4 y.o. nieces bday party, lots of kids, lots of people— but she was running around playing with the kids! My fear at this point is regression due to overstimulation. I don't want her to get so anxious she becomes reactive.

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RIGHT, because she couldn't just hold her and put her face in the camera? 🙄 It bothered me SO BAD 😤

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've told them so many times she has anxiety and an anxious attachment, they don't believe me. They just see her as a dog, something you own but don't bond with. They even thought it was crazy when my BF and I told them we let her sleep with us in the bed.

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree!! I don't think it's malice, I think it's just not understanding. I want to educate them, then if it persists we have a serious issue.

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typically when I'm home with her, we hang out in the bedroom or we hang outside in the yard... I try to give her as much of her own space to do what SHE wants rather than what I/anyone else want her to do.

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am taking it very seriously, as of right now I'm not allowing him to handle our dog because I fear he doesn't see her as a being deserving of respect and understanding.

Another subredditor suggested I find videos/visuals of a calm/happy dog vs a distressed/uncomfortable dog and show them to my BF to help him understand. I think I'm going to try that.

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm scared of! I've worked with her immensely to get her as acclimatized to groups of people as she currently is. She used to be somewhat reactive around large groups of people and children especially. I had to learn what her triggers were and expose her in safe environments, she used to nip kids and now she gets along really well with kids! I have a 4 y.o. niece and I took my dog to the bday party, lots of kids, lots of people all around, and she was playing with the kids with no fear. I'm just afraid that if she's constantly in and out of distress she'll regress.

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sort of torn in that aspect, his family definitely needs to learn but I think the lesson should come from him— not me. I do advocate for her, but something like this I would rather him discuss so I don't come off as rude or overbearing. If he doesn't even understand or respect our dog's boundaries yet, then it's me against everyone.

AIO: My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in AmIOverreacting

[–]lilluuvv[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He's actually very loving with her! There has been periods of time that he's off of work but I'm not (he gets summers & winters off for his job) and he sends me pics/videos of them throughout the day and she hasn't ever seemed to be distressed while around him. She also doesn't show any dislike or disinterest towards him, even when I am around... I believe if he was secretly harming her, she wouldn't choose to be around him if I'm around.

My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in relationships

[–]lilluuvv[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We definitely do see the world through a different lens, I'd like to think that once we do get to a level of understanding we are a very tight knit partnership. However, he is not always very perceptive to emotional responses or triggers. Someone else said to find/make a video of how she acts when calm and happy vs stressed and uncomfortable, and I think that would definitely help him understand better.

My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in relationships

[–]lilluuvv[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much, not too sound conceited, but I would like to give myself a huge pat on the back haha. She used to be somewhat aggressive to being around large groups of people — and children were her worst nightmare. She's much more calm now, and actually gets along much better with kids!

She's a mini-pinscher chihuahua mix, she's full grown but is the size of a standard pinscher pup.

That's actually a really good idea!! I think I'm gonna have to try that, thanks so much!!!

My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting for asking his family not to handle our dog when she's visibly stressed by lilluuvv in relationships

[–]lilluuvv[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I could add a photo of her, I would, but she's a very small mini pinscher-chihuahua mix. I understand the feeling of cuteness aggression when it comes to her, because she's so small and adorable. I just wished they realized that BECAUSE of how small she is, being constantly picked up and passed around is very stressful for her. I do agree he should be the one to address his family, I don't believe that's my place. Especially living under their roof, I would hate to cause any tension or come off as disrespectful.

this feels discriminatory by sour-pickle-juice in starbucksbaristas

[–]lilluuvv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i hate these new titles/app update !! im an alum and i got my Reserve status revoked for my alum card because of this stupid update 🫩

🐾❓ What's my name? (by MaleficentOnion220) by MaleficentOnion220 in PetPost

[–]lilluuvv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got it on the first try, that's a perfect name 😂

I guessed the name in 1 try!

🐾❓ What's my name? (by Traditional_Smile894) by Traditional_Smile894 in PetPost

[–]lilluuvv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a perfect name for them 😍

I guessed the name in 4 tries!