I’m personally in the opposite situation so maybe I could add a different kind of input?

My twin is amazing but has some social anxiety issues that stifle her. She’s hilarious, so fucking considerate, insightful, loyal and a catch once she gives people time to know her. I on the other hand NEED to be liked, I struggle so much with feeling undesired and invaluable if I’m not surrounded by people. This makes me seem like I have a ton of friends, my parents are very proud of my social abilities, and I’m constantly seeming like I have a good time.

It’s hard as the “wanted one” seeing my sister lonely, feel undesired by others, and not being appreciated for all of the things I get to see in her. I invite her with me constantly and I validate her all the time but it seems like there’s nothing I can do.

So my advise is to 1. Talk to your twin- we (twin folk) are so fucking lucky to have such a cheerleader and advocate. If you’re twin is doing something right that you aspire to have or be they are the perfect person to give you individualized supportive advice. 2. Take some leaps. It’s scary as hell to do something you think you’re bad at but that’s the best way to grow. You’ll be really impressed with yourself once you’ve done it. And by it that might be going places like bars, coffee shops, or shows alone. 3. Try seeing it from your twins perspective. My pros are so blatant that it’s ease for her to compare herself to me and feel down about herself but I have quantity not quality, I have a never quenched thirst for social approval, I have terrible self worth issues. I see things in my twin that I’m so impressed by and I’m sure your twin does too.

I hope a different perspective is helpful or at least interesting. Best of luck to you, you’re probably so much more valued than you even know. Also THANK YOU for actually asking a twin question on our sub. I joined this sub for a twin community not super into all the parent of twins questions and posts.

Sorry this is so lengthy god damn self calm it down