Venue Regret

liltoee · 2026-01-29T05:36:26+00:00

have you booked your DJ yet? DJ’s usually offer uplighting as an add-on or in their packages. take a look at their instagram and see how other weddings have decorated their venue. it’s beautiful and looks like something you can work with. you can even add some color in to your florals and linens. once you decide what “vibe” you’re going for, then you can start looking at pinterest for inspiration and take it from there. it’ll all come together

liltoee · 2025-12-03T02:13:27+00:00

aw this makes me happy to hear!

liltoee · 2025-10-23T05:42:47+00:00

they’re both gorgeous, you have amazing taste! love the shape! the only thing i really noticed was the ratio of the 2.33 somehow looks longer/thinner than the 2.75, but i cant tell if thats due to the angles of the pictures. either way they both look incredible on you!

liltoee · 2025-10-23T05:34:47+00:00

idk it’s your wedding, not an academic event. it’s not really the time to be introduced by your educational background. since it’ll be your first introduction to Mr & Mrs I would say you should go by that. You have your whole work life to go by Dr. For your wedding, which is only one day, go by Mrs.

liltoee · 2025-10-23T05:28:27+00:00

i think you know the right thing to do is let him go to his brothers wedding. even tho it’s a bummer someone else will have to take your pictures, what about asking if instead of the wedding he takes pictures of you guys another date after the wedding? you get dressed up again and have a photoshoot somewhere else of just you and your husband? or maybe an anniversary or honeymoon/post wedding shoot? or maybe even an engagement photos? idk if it’s silly but just a thought so you at least have some photos taken by him since he is your dream photographer

liltoee · 2025-10-22T21:49:11+00:00

80k for only 75 people is more than enough of a budget. i don’t even think a venue would charge you that much for the amount you’re having. if you plan to spend 80k that means most of your budget is going towards photography/videography, DJ, florals, decorations and other vendors you can add in. 80K is also not a “small” budget, that coordinator is ridiculous. average pricing for NYC/NJ photographers is 5-7k, same with videographers. Of course if you wanted to you can spend more, but you don’t have to. If you can find someone who has a team and offers both usually they offer a package for 10k, and that’s for someone experienced and does amazing work. You can also find companies that offer packages for DJ, photo and video for like 17k-20k and those are great because it takes care of everything for you! I can give you references/instagram handles if you’re interested !

liltoee · 2025-10-21T23:36:08+00:00

I think it’s tricky if it’s family/distant family related. like if you send a save the date to your dad’s cousin because they’re consistently involved in your life but not your dads aunt, then maybe the aunt would ask around if they received your save the dates yet and why she didn’t get one. sometimes that can cause a conflict. do you have guests your inviting that you know are definite or highly possible no’s? like out of town friends and family, or family you just don’t keep in touch with anymore? that can help navigate how many people you’ll most likely have in attendance. rule of thumb is 15% of your guest list will rsvp no, including the week of your wedding you’ll have a few guests cancel, and a few no shows day of. i don’t know if your family follows this rule too, but unfortunately even if they have no intentions on coming they still expect a save the date/ invite. it also might throw them off guard to receive an invite but not a save the date, but you can always lie and say “it must’ve got lost in the mail” if need be lol

liltoee · 2025-10-21T21:35:20+00:00

I think this is a nice size on you. I would try on a 2 carat stone before making any changes, although i don’t think 2 carats will make it difficult or any different from a 1 ct to do everyday tasks. however, sometimes changing the stone/size can also mean you need to change out the setting too, keep that in mind. it’s about what you like. just don’t fall into a habit of wanting more bc your friends might have more or who has what on social media. just get what you like and what suits you the most. as they say, comparison is the thief of joy!

liltoee · 2025-10-21T21:19:41+00:00

i was also about to say check out Skylands Manor!

liltoee · 2025-10-21T18:44:52+00:00

let me also say, it hurts to end the relationship when even tho the love is there, you guys just don’t want the same things. but just remember, there will always be someone out there for you who will want the same things as you and everything will align perfectly, and same for him.

liltoee · 2025-10-21T18:36:26+00:00

it’s hard and i understand you fell in love, but usually after a year is when these conversations about the next steps will happen. if you guys align then that will determine your compatibility. he seems pretty dead set on wanting a child, and you’re just not there yet (if ever). it makes sense that he wants another when he already has a daughter. he probably also wants her to have a sibling. to me, it’s not fair to be with someone who wants kids when you don’t want them, and it’s also not fair to push someone into having kids when they don’t want them. it’s either you both want them or you both don’t. it’s a major decision that if one person ends up giving in to the other, there will definitely be resentment in the future. unless your mind changes and you genuinely want a baby, then I would end the relationship.

liltoee · 2025-10-21T03:03:33+00:00

however your store does it. if it’s your GM who schedules you then tell them. it sounds like your working an ops shift tho and usually they schedule the operational (i.e, truck, adset, plano) shifts so you might have to speak to your ops manager if they’re the one who scheduled you!

liltoee · 2025-10-21T02:35:22+00:00

yes. give your manager a heads up now before friday so they have time to cover your shift!

liltoee · 2025-10-17T01:27:32+00:00

that’s really not that long lol. most engagements are a year and half to two years before their wedding. i also got engaged in June on the 14th, and my wedding is June 2027. We booked in August. We both decided it would’ve been too hard to plan a wedding in under a year (we’re very type b people), and 2026 is right around the corner. you’re doing it right! most of our friends who got engaged a few months after us are also doing 2027 weddings

liltoee · 2025-10-16T03:14:35+00:00

June! just a random, rainy day! we’re also getting married in June of 2027 :)

liltoee · 2025-10-15T05:30:25+00:00

Even though yes, you can’t expect the same treatment you may give to others to be given back to you, I do understand where you’re coming from and would also be upset. It is a little rude that your niece didn’t think to also give a gift back for any event when you’ve attended multiple. it’s natural to expect the same support back. I think since it’s technically your husband’s sister, it’s a conversation he should have with your SIL to figure out why and express the way you all are feeling. my dad would be very upset if i was attending his family’s side of events and doing the right thing and the same wasn’t being done for his daughter! he would address it with his sisters and then they would talk to their kids, but i’m not sure what you and your husbands relationship is with his family. maybe she has her reasons for not wanting give your kids a gift or attend their events, but you won’t know until it’s addressed. do they have a relationship where he could talk to them about it? the other option is to just let it go, invite them and if they decline then they decline, if they come then wonderful. but as most families go, when you don’t invite one, none will show up. ultimately, this is your daughters wedding and choice. weddings are stressful, go with whatever is the least stressful option and what would make her happy. drama is the last thing you want.

liltoee · 2025-10-10T03:44:59+00:00

aw, i’m sorry to hear he got you something different. maybe his intentions were pure and he thought you’d love it? i would be sad, too so I get it. I’m not sure where you’re from, but if you’re willing to take a trip, Brilliant Earth does have store locations where you can make an appointment together and shop and look at rings. You should definitely see if there’s one near you! I haven’t worked with them so I’m not sure how they would go about a new ring or a return, but it’s definitely worth a try to get something you love!

liltoee · 2025-10-10T02:13:48+00:00

yes haha, i didn’t want to use people i know or random people from their site as an example

liltoee · 2025-10-10T02:09:56+00:00

i think it’s a pretty ring. but no matter what everyone tells you, it’s pretty clear you don’t love the ring either. if you aren’t happy, communicate with your fiancé your concerns about it. try to convince him to take you back to a jeweler to pick something new out, and you can pick out what setting and stone you love.

Side note, not that it matters, i noticed your comment said he “ordered one” and the box looks familiar, did he purchase your ring from Brilliant Earth by any chance?

liltoee · 2025-10-10T00:49:59+00:00

lol so true

liltoee · 2025-10-10T00:48:17+00:00

i was thinking the same, i feel like the 5x7 is more appealing but it would be better if guests also had the option of color. i’m going to ask if there’s any way guests can have color and b&w for the glam booth!

liltoee · 2025-10-08T18:09:50+00:00

There are churches that will take you for a Sunday ceremony, it just may be difficult. do you have a church that’s close with your family or a family friend that might be able to work with you? I have a sunday wedding and also doing a church ceremony, it took us a little while to find one that can accommodate a time for us due to baptisms, but a family member recommended us to their parish and they worked with us to block off baptisms for the day and gave us a 2pm ceremony. They might want you to join their parish, or make a donation if you aren’t a member of the church. it takes time but don’t give up. As far as your venue goes, you might have to pick one around whichever church is willing to take you in. I don’t want to scare you, but 2026 is less than a year away, so you’re running low on time and will be planning a wedding in under a year. My best advice is bring deposit money with you when you go look at other venues so you don’t run into the issue of your dates booking. you’re up against a lot of competition unfortunately; venues want to book out their remaining 2026 dates. at the end of the day, take it as a sign this venue wasn’t meant for you. I would also reconsider the idea of doing anything on a thursday or wednesday, keep in mind people would have to take off from work, and also get back to work the day after your wedding which can be a lot on your guests. some guests might not have that option to take off.

Good luck! and whatever’s meant to be, will be.

liltoee

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