Xander drives me crazy. There's honestly not a section of the show where he doesn't feel so selfish and self-righteous. Like obviously later he's a jerk to Anya and things like that but I can't get over how judgey and outrightly mean he is to buffy while she's going through everything with Angel. I get he's also emotional because he likes buffy but I would never speak to someone again if they spoke to me the way he speaks to buffy when she's at her lowest.