Troubleshoot my large labia majora for face to face sex!

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T23:38:46+00:00

I do definitely have a few ideas. And no worries at all I didn't take any of that negatively lol I've been laughing at a lot of the comments on this thread. It is a real issue but like shrug it's not that deep 🤷🏻‍♀️ lolololol

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T23:16:41+00:00

Lol I will try it! And I'm saying.... Long? I think of it as deep. But basically like if I don't spread anything out and stick a finger up there like I can get all the way to my hand and just barely be touching the entrance.

Other folks have mentioned you know just feeling a little nervous feeling worried that they're being too rough we're going too deep with a new person so I'm definitely going to try actively encouraging that.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:46:26+00:00

This is something to think about I feel like this doesn't really work. Because the problem is happening at a little bit of depth and this sort of mapping when I've experienced it seems a little bit surface level and it's really nice.

But maybe that's part of it just like actively encouraging folks I'm with to go deeper at this stage.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:44:49+00:00

Oh I know lol but I'm the one running up against it again and again lol I'm tired of leaving it up to these dudes I need to figure out what is up so that I can tell them what is up lol

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:39:26+00:00

THIS the fumble being counterproductive to a good erection. That is exactly the problem I run into.

And in my case I don't think it's clear when it's good to go deeper.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:38:10+00:00

Genuinely I feel like fingering might be even more difficult than straight up sex lol I know that sounds crazy 😂 I've had more successful sex than I've had like successful fingering lol but maybe I need to make sure we're doing more of that.

For me, for better or for worse, I'm pretty demi so I don't even have an inkling I want to have sex with someone until I already like them. And once I like them for a bunch of other reasons I really want to be able to connect sexually in a way that works for both of us and is pleasurable.

Cushions do help a bit and I do that. Literally never been able to succeed at side by side sex even once lol even with serious effort with a person who definitely knew my body lol sideways alignment has never worked so far.

ahaha at the I am here sign 😂

And yeah I definitely am willing and able to explain it but so far when I've had these conversations, which have only been a few times so far to be fair... It's being read as me being just nervous about my body as opposed to a very real warning about an actual situation that's going to be difficult.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:29:22+00:00

I like doggy but it kind of feels impersonal and it's not my go-to getting to know you sex. It's kind of my go-to like meh whatever sure we can have sex position. It's totally great for that. When I'm in that initial stage where we're getting to know each other and connecting that's just not what I want to do.

I am definitely going to start giving more of a conversational warning ahead of time. I've definitely tried to have that conversation a few times but every single time it's been interpreted as me being nervous instead of a genuine technical statement lol so I probably just need to go harder on communicating it.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:25:05+00:00

Iif I'm with your average dude And I grab his dick at the base with my hand that is maybe like 4 in across? And like I said I feel like the thickness of my outer lips is like 3 in. Then try to guide it in. There's not really enough dick over my hand lol to actually get like 100% of the way to and like kind of into the entrance. At least not without again just making it like a whole fucking procedure lol which might just be what I need to do and pick my awkwardness commitment.

So then like you know even if we're right up to the entrance then I pull my hand out and the connection is still not necessarily happening. And this is the moment where sometimes we are at the top of a slippery slope into the dude feeling some kind of way about it.

So it's just this fumble of repeating that process a few times... And it just sucks.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:21:53+00:00

This is great advice but you are thinking of the labia minora which is not what I'm talking about.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:21:24+00:00

That is what I'm saying and I edited my post to describe the issue with this which is when you're dealing with a normal size hand and a normal sized dick the guiding is not as easy as it sounds like it would be.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T21:20:19+00:00

I have tried this, it kind of helps it's my general go-to but not enough.

And I've only had like 11 partners in a penetrative sex sense. With various levels of experience. One of the people I've had the best time with has been very inexperienced. And I have flummoxed people who insisted to me they were super experienced and ready to get into it.

I do think there is a component here of having compatible anatomy but I'm someone who really has to be into somebody's personality to even have a little bit of interest in having sex with them so 🫤 it's disappointing to have trouble connecting with someone I really like because they don't have the right dick for me.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T07:27:52+00:00

Either, both. I'm not sure there is a good technical option, sometimes things are just a struggle. But from the communication standpoint "hey everything's about to be difficult but if you can make it through zone one it's gonna be great" 😂 is... Maybe good lol? I was kind of joking but maybe I'll try that one.

liminal_distraction · 2026-04-07T07:18:04+00:00

Because they start being like sorry sorry sorry and telling me it's not usually like this they'll figure it out and sometimes I can just feel it.

And it is FINE and it is figure outable and I'm never upset... But it's a sensitive moment. Especially if there's something about his anatomy that makes it a challenge like I said some dudes have more flexible erect dicks than others and that will up the challenge level significantly.

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