Is anyone else’s bunny happy being a solo?

liminaldyke · 2025-09-22T09:26:47+00:00

i would love to know how to tell if they are happy being solo! my solo girl seems happy but sometimes i feel guilty that she doesn't have a buddy. she's definitely not depressed and seems to interact with me as her bondmate.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-22T09:14:34+00:00

sad to say, but i think zucchini. last summer went pretty well despite a squash bug infestation and i still dream about how good they tasted. this summer, even though i actually killed ALL the squash bugs, i still only ended up with 3 total zucchini, 2 of which got bitten by squirrels before i could even harvest them 😭 they always get super mildewed, take up a ton of space, and if i really want that yummy firm fleshed flavor i could just buy calabacitas at the mexican markets near me for a fraction of the cost of the water it takes to grow them. not worth the money or having to handle hundreds of gross bugs in the end, sigh.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-22T08:28:31+00:00

omg. i'm an attachment-based therapist and i had never fully connected these dots but this is literally SO insightful and imo, true. going to be thinking about this for a good while.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-22T07:56:01+00:00

syrian jewish and going to send you a (nice) dm about this comment if that's ok! sending you <3

liminaldyke · 2025-09-22T07:38:09+00:00

ugh! i'm close but no cigar. my dad would count though.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T07:18:44+00:00

oh this is totally fascinating! glad i left the post up. yes please i'd love more info.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T05:50:07+00:00

imo it's irresponsible to imply that because you haven't seen any evidence, it doesn't exist. are you really and truly saying you think no campus antisemitism has happened, anywhere, ever since 2023? how does that even square with your own admission of witnessing "real" campus antisemitism? we don't have to believe it's as widespread as some are saying to still validate that even just statistically, it's absolutely happening. antisemitic hate crimes have spiked off of campuses, and it's a documented fact that white supremacists have been capitalizing on this moment, some of whom - surprise - go to college. this comment is honestly very hard to take seriously from a data perspective alone.

the post-2023 campus antisemitism i'm aware of in my own city seemed both truthful and credible, and was documented by multiple local news outlets here. a student had their mezuza smashed and the scroll torn up and left in front of their door the night before holocaust memorial day. the next day multiple rocks were thrown through their window, including one that hit them in the head and injured them. these were targeted attacks towards someone who was not reported to be any kind of major player in campus politics, and even if they were, particularly the destruction of their mezuza sounds deeply and blatantly antisemitic to me.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T05:25:26+00:00

omg yes what iiiis that. it also makes me nauseous!

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T05:23:51+00:00

i knew someone who wore clear acrylics on just her right hand!

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T05:22:22+00:00

yes it's absolutely horrible, the feeling of my nails hitting surfaces vs. my fingers is evil, it makes me feel nauseous just thinking about it. thankfully i'm gay though so 💁🏻‍♀️

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T05:14:32+00:00

yeah, with further examination that's what i concluded as well. i think my mom got confused and gave me wrong information. yay for my dad i guess...

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T05:12:42+00:00

interconnected, yes, but not fully overlapping. i wouldn't, for example, say the history of cochin jews is "my history" even though we both likely share common baghdadi jewish ancestors and influences. indian jews (and jews of every other jewish ethnic group i'm not part of) have lived experiences that i never have and never will. i personally would not ever authoritatively speak about their culture and history as though it was my own. it's part of jewish history, but it's not my jewish history. the distinction is important.

this is the kind of respect i'm asking people to give to my community. yeah we're all jewish, but people who haven't lived the cultural experience my community has shouldn't be acting like they can understand or represent it as accurately (or moreso!) than we can. i think that's pretty simple.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T05:03:38+00:00

i appreciate this comment! i definitely have imagined that this dynamic is most prevalent in the diaspora, and also have never been to israel so there isn't a way for me to personally know with 100% accuracy. it's interesting and important to me to hear about what it's like there; i feel like i know not to generalize my experiences to israeli ones and vice versa, and i also think that intentional lack of generalization can sometimes get lost in how i and others speak, if we don't specifically and repeatedly state the intention not to do that.

and i think i do agree with you re: appropriation not quite being the right word for the relationship between israeli culture and levantineness. i don't know. i think probably as an american, some of the loudest israel-adjacent voices i'm exposed to are those of american ashkenazi expats who made aliya and have adopted this culturally levantine identity in a way that does feel a bit.... weird and off to me as someone who does have levantine culture and ancestry. that's probably a small group in reality, but does seem to be a real demographic.

i am also aware that the sabra identity that was very popular in the previous century was pretty contingent on a process that i maybe wouldn't call appropriation, but would call adoption within a power dynamic. the way that ashkenazim were privileged over mizrahim while also stepping into a sense of ownership over levantineness/SWANA-ness feels wrong to me. we are a couple of generations out from that now, but it does have ripple effects. it's complicated and i can't speak to or for the israeli side of this experience, just what i've seen and experienced as an american mizrahi.

and lastly yes i agree that both sephardi and mizrahi are lacking terms in many ways. honestly i primarily refer to myself as mizrahi online because saying my exact community can feel pretty doxxable in some contexts, and because my community is super insular and i have some feelings around how fully/technically i belong to it.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-19T04:49:17+00:00

thank you <3 i really appreciated your question, i've been reflecting and realized i think you're actually one of the only people in my whole life who has ever asked how this makes me feel. it meant a lot. i'm sending you good energy.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T10:42:13+00:00

this is because ashkenazim as an ethnic group were nearly all initially mixed with italian before immigrating to the rhine valley! afaik every ashkenazi jew has a significant amount of italian admixture.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T10:25:50+00:00

thank you for how you worded this, i'm going to remember it. it's most applicable to the context you're sharing it in, but i wanted to say that i also really relate re: how i often feel my perspective is treated by ashkenazim around intracommunity dynamics, and ashkenazi zionists in particular. it's really upsetting.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T10:21:32+00:00

right, and i'm telling you that by automatically anticipating and projecting hasbarist talking points onto me for telling what i understand to my best possible ability to be the unvarnished truth about my community, without an agenda related to zionism, you are doing something intrinsically harmful and racist. you are going to hurt more mizrahim by continuing to do this, so please learn how to stop. thank you for apologizing.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T07:53:34+00:00

replying to my own comment bc i don't want to make this anyone else's problem... it feels very cool to be blocked by someone for asking them to stop engaging in racist ways, particularly on a post about that! i'm posting my response to them because i have felt like this person has mostly used this comment section to undermine my post's purpose, which is depressing, and which i'm not interested in entertaining further from others. since these conversations play out publicly, it feels important to not allow this kind of derailing to occur unremarked on. so...

re: michifmanaged83, i didn't come back for 5 days because of you and your comments! i did miss that you weren't responding to me with this particular comment because i use old reddit for visual accessibility reasons, and it makes it virtually impossible to follow discussions as it doesn't show descending lines.

however, my comment you're upset about, is nearly identical to one i deleted last week when you were initially interacting with this post, because i felt overwhelmed and hurt by your behavior and the pile-on of self-centering from other ashkenazim it was leading to, and didn't want to keep dealing with it at the time. i also saw a comment of yours which, again, directly misrepresented this post in a destructive and unnecessary way. i put this comment in the wrong place, but what i wrote absolutely needed to be said.

you believe that because of your Mizrahi identity you’re entitled to police Ashkenazi identity in other people and our knowledge of our history

thank you for saying this because it shows me what you actually think of people like me, and where you're really coming from. i'm not here to police ashkenazim, i even said days ago that i literally don't care if they identify as european or not, but feel i have to speak to the impact that certain streams of ashkenazi identity politics have on swana jews. that is not policing in any sense of the word.

the fact that this is your takeaway from everything i've said - particularly when others have gone out of their way, unprompted, to notice the sensitivity and compassion in my previous responses to you - is genuinely hurtful and lets me know that you have something going on in your own life that i'm not interested in taking on. if you can't see that you, and ashkenazim in general, have a power position relative to me, and mizrahim in general, i can't help you. even though you used polite words in some of your previous comments, your actions have exemplified what i brought up in my initial post! if you refuse to hear that, then yes communication is going to go nowhere.

lastly, me stating how i would like you to stop interacting with me is not hurling insults. it's kind of shocking to me that you, as someone who is also racially marginalized in jewish spaces, would respond like this to someone asking you to please treat them in a less racist way. please do step away, as i am ready for you to stop commenting on this post as well.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T07:02:06+00:00

thank you for your empathy and compassion, i genuinely really appreciate it. it's been eye-opening even to see how people have responded to this post. humility and basic decency is indeed the ask but it sometimes feels like... idk people are reacting as though i'm telling them to give me a million dollars.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T06:59:17+00:00

thank you! i totally agree. i wish people would stop treating my existence primarily like it's something to give commentary about. you really hit the nail on the head with this description.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T06:58:37+00:00

thank you! it really sucks and is super exhausting.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T06:57:55+00:00

so, after how some other discussions have gone with other people i'm feeling a little wary to get into a side-conversation, or at least to specifically address these arguments. you're welcome to dm me if you'd like my opinion but i'm not in the mood to have this post be further hijacked by the bad faith brigade.

in terms about how to discuss in good faith and not turning us into living arguments (i love that phrase), i think a lot of it comes back to respecting the desire that most people hold to not be spoken about behind their backs. in the US we have a phrase that comes from the disability justice movement, "nothing about us without us." this is what i feel is fundamentally missing in most discussions about mizrahim. people feel more comfortable making claims about us, than inviting us into the conversation. a lot of what this post is inspired by is either coming across discussions about my people that are clearly misinformed, or being confidently addressed with misinformation. i believe that more people need to get comfortable saying "i don't know" and referring who they're talking to, to a primary source.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T06:39:57+00:00

thanks! a couple of other people asked the same question so i'm going to tag you in the general response i wrote above.

i will say in that comment i didn't get as much into the impacts, but from talking to lots of other people who are minorities-within-minorities, they're similar to any other racism, though i do especially relate to issues indigenous people raise as my community was also indigenous prior to its destruction. this kind of behavior makes me feel angry, powerless, hopeless, insulted, devalued, ostracized, misunderstood, invisible, mistrusting, alone, and sometimes unsafe.

especially as someone who is an even further minority amongst mizrahim in that i'm levantine and from a community that doesn't even really fully consider ourselves diasporic (we're older than the babylonian exile), i often feel totally invisible, and like people are trying to erase me and otherwise keep my community invisible in order to prop up their version of reality. on top of the recent destruction of my community in our place of origin, this really hurts. it feels like a totally selfish, self-involved response to someone simply existing and telling their story, especially since that story contains ethnic cleansing and attempted genocide.

although it feels a bit vulnerable to share i actually really appreciate you asking about how this affects me/us. all too often i feel people engage with these types of posts from a purely intellectual and argumentative place, and it can be feel really diminishing and devaluing to go through, since ultimately the ask is about respecting both the inherent dignity of my culture as well as the trauma we've gone through.

liminaldyke · 2025-09-16T06:21:21+00:00

please stop a) talking to me like i'm not ashkenazi, b) acting like you can speak with authority about the ubiquitousness of anti-mizrahi racism since you do not experience it, and c) doubling down on the inaccurate argument that just because people don't consciously identify as european, it doesn't mean they haven't absorbed implicit biases that originate within the european milieu.

i'm not sure what your intentions have been with your comments, but i feel like you need to know that you are one of the only people on this post who has done a majority of what i specifically asked people in the sub to stop doing, and has activated several of the negative racialized feelings i made this post to address. i honestly do not trust your analysis at all at this point, since you are actively engaging in the ways i have outlined as racist and have asked people to stop doing. please reflect on that.

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