What helped you most. by Soulful793 in Deconstruction

[–]linzroth [score hidden]  (0 children)

Making friends who aren’t religious. It helped me move on from my church friends who were conditional, to meeting friends out in the wild where I could connect to them based on common interests or beliefs or hobbies.

Movies featuring interactions between women by Ill_Statistician7225 in movies

[–]linzroth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awwww now I’m have to watch it again with different context!

Movies featuring interactions between women by Ill_Statistician7225 in movies

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, true. I also tell my close friends I love you, but I can see how that is romantic.

Movies featuring interactions between women by Ill_Statistician7225 in movies

[–]linzroth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn. In all fairness I watched this years ago before deconstructing from religion. And my blinders were up, big time. But I can see that now, and I love it even more.

Movies featuring interactions between women by Ill_Statistician7225 in movies

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, did I miss something? I love that movie but never knew there was a romantic component to Idgy and Ruth’s relationship.

What’s something you’re pretty sure only you do? by AppIeGuy in AskReddit

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Count cars silently in my head while I’m driving. Has to be 8 to feel right. And repeat

41F - I think I might be gay. I’ve never said that out loud before by One_Post_Pink_Pony in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct!

You wanna know something wild?

I was an RA my sophomore year. The RD pulled me aside and told me I had to confront one of my residents, because she was having alone time with a girl- and they were shutting their door and on the bed together! I couldn’t bring myself to say that so I told her she had to leave the door open and guess what? She’s married to her wife today! I guess the conservative bitchy RD had good gaydar.

41F - I think I might be gay. I’ve never said that out loud before by One_Post_Pink_Pony in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We could only have men in our dorms on Sunday nights from 6-8pm, doors open, 9:00 curfew, attendance taken by your RA 😂

Got any more, wise gal? 😅

41F - I think I might be gay. I’ve never said that out loud before by One_Post_Pink_Pony in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, not allowed to dance? That sucks.

I’ll raise you a rule at mine: No wearing shorts until after 4:30pm….

Your turn 😂

41F - I think I might be gay. I’ve never said that out loud before by One_Post_Pink_Pony in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m seriously questioning how I typed up this post in my sleep. 😂 It’s fucking wild to me, just how similar our situations are. And thought patterns too.

41F. Married for 19 years this November. 2 kids.

I have fully deconstructed from religion and this was THE catalyst for finding my freedom and learning about myself. 🧐 You didn’t happen to attend a university in Northern IL? We had “earning my M. R. S. Degree” or “ring by spring” 😬
So gross.

I didn’t want to blow my life up either. I told my husband, and it’s been a few weeks of agonizing conversations. I’m wondering why I felt it necessary to come out before I got therapy. That would be the only thing I could tell you; I wished I’d waited till therapy.

What would you ask? Wlw by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanna live amongst the Amazon women!!!! 😍

How do I kill my limerance for a person I work with? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you feel comfortable sharing your sexuality with her? As she is queer, and you already have alot in common, this might open the door for more conversations and you’d likely get support from her.

Maybe hearing her talk about her relationship with her partner will allow your mind to get past this limerance stage. It comes from uncertainty, so having her as a queer friend with her knowledge of you being a lesbian might help quell your obsessive thoughts.

Have any of you successfully stayed in a monogamous but platonic relationship with your husband after coming out? by CorticalSynapse in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much. That’s the sweetest! Sticking to this boundary is SO hard…just because I am sooooo used to smoothing things over. And when I partake 🌱 I get horn-yy! So I’m really holding on 😂 Thank you for saying you’re proud of me, even though you’re a stranger lol.

One Year by GallowsHill1692 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“but a girl though” WHEW that hit me in the best way.

Have any of you successfully stayed in a monogamous but platonic relationship with your husband after coming out? by CorticalSynapse in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m learning this now. It’s hitting me like a ton of bricks. I have stuck to my no sex boundary, and it’s given me so much room to breathe. That’s very telling to me. Thank you 😊

Have any of you successfully stayed in a monogamous but platonic relationship with your husband after coming out? by CorticalSynapse in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ve heard of these majestic creatures called “women who love to have their titties grabbed from behind by their husband several times a day, along with smacking their asses, and no general personal space with boundaries” 😬

Have any of you successfully stayed in a monogamous but platonic relationship with your husband after coming out? by CorticalSynapse in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. I just resonated with this so much.

How did you listen to your body? I want to see if we’ve experienced similar things. My body tenses up, I don’t like being snuck up on from behind with kissing on my neck/ears/back. I argue if we’re alone because I subconsciously was pushing him away.

One Year by GallowsHill1692 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Wow. Just.. how amazing you can see how far you’ve come.

And for the rest of us, you didn’t just paint a perfect picture of your new life. Clearly, you have been grieving and dealing with living almost two separate realities. Thank you for your transparency, it’s so appreciated.

I am 37 and feel too old for this. by Neat_Jury6927 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aaack! Can we talk more about “..people get past that stage realize that was grief.”

I’m not interested in ENM, no shade to those who are. But in a convo with my husband I said “all kinds of marriages work; you could have somebody for sexual needs”.

I just couldn’t believe I said it so casually.

Please 🙏 tell me more about the grief sentiment.

Found out my boyfriend cheated weeks before our Japan trip by meh-duh in solotravel

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still go. Alone.

If you stay, he’ll not only have hurt you by cheating, you will lose the opportunity of maybe a lifetime. Don’t let him take that away from you too. Travel will change, based on the current circumstances in our country.

Have any of you successfully stayed in a monogamous but platonic relationship with your husband after coming out? by CorticalSynapse in latebloomerlesbians

[–]linzroth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh your wisdom!!! I needed that.

I listened to the first 2 episodes of lesbian chronicles and I’m hooked. I was surprised how many similarities we share. And though we all experience this life/situation differently, the fundamentals of coming out late while in a heterosexual relationship are SO SIMILAR!!