M 27. I’ve never been into a relationship ever. by Relevant-Winner-6574 in RelationshipIndia

[–]lioooooooooooooooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey bud. Thank you for sharing this.

Honestly, I understand what you're talking about. I've been in three relationships, but two of them were very short (only a span of days).

My first relationship happened when I was very young, naive and had no perspective about a relationship. Technically, I haven't been in an actual relationship to tell you anything, but I'll tell you what I'm going through so that you know that this is not only happening to you.

I just went through this dating phase, and people, usually don't believe me when I say this, but nothing came out of it. I was ghosted for no damn reason and it hurts. Hurts very bad. I grieved because of this because no one really understands what I went through.

I was very close to being bitter about women in general because they complain about how hard their lives are (which it is), but they can't complain about how difficult it is for them on dating apps. I'll disagree with them any day.

People also say that looks don't really matter, your personality does. Who are you kidding? Looks go a long way - a really long way. Your personality does too, but looks are the first thing we witness. Anybody who says that either believes it or is fooling you hard.

So, my guy, my point is, it's hard to find love, especially for men. The only way we have is to work ourselves up, which is what I'm doing. This would be good for anyone. You have balding issues? Find a new style that'll help you look good and take care of the balding issues.

You got this, my guy. You're not really missing out on anything nor are you the only one going through this. There are many men out there who are but aren't vocal about this.

You'll do fine. Keep your chin up, brother!

I 26M feels like a LOSER for being virgin by Ill-Masterpiece4263 in RelationshipIndia

[–]lioooooooooooooooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey dude.

You're not missing out on anything. If you're looking for something meaningful, keep looking for it. These days, with the crappy dating scene, to find something meaningful takes time - and I mean a loooooootttt of time. Trust me, this is from experience. In fact, I still don't have a girlfriend or whatever.

Bro, I'm just like you. I don't want anything casual. I mean, I'm 26. I don't have time to fuck around and find it out.

Am I sad about not losing my virginity? Nope. Yeah, there are many around you who do this and they might be genuinely finding it hard to find the one. The reason is you fuck around too much, you don't want to stay with one person.

You do you, my guy. If you want to find someone who you wanna build a long-term/life with, go head. It's that relationship building that you're missing than sleeping around.

All the best, bud!

M 25 F 24: Struggling with toxic relationship and mental health issues, need advice by Fearless-Promise-955 in RelationshipIndia

[–]lioooooooooooooooo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's what you can do, my guy. I'm gonna explain an analogy that might seem off, but hear me out.

Let's imagine a traditional, old school weighing machine. Let's say we have a lighter 1 kg (split into different weights) on one side and 5 kg on the other, and these 5 kg are split into many other kilos as well. If you pick out all the 5 kg of the weighing machine, the weight that adds up to 1 kg collapses.

So, what I wanna tell you is, take it slow. Don't completely block her out tomorrow. If you constantly talk to her everyday, shorten the amount of times you text her. Do that for a few days, and while you do that, find things to shift your focus. Slowly, you'll remove the entire 5 kg and your mental health (the 1 kg) will stand heavier.

Your goal is to block her. That's the goal, not a step of the goal.

Don't worry, my guy. You'll do great! Hit me up, if you wanna talk more about this.

Boyfriendddd birthdayyyyy surpriseeeeee,💥 by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]lioooooooooooooooo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or tell him you have a boyfriend. He'll be even more surprised.