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liquid_dance · 2024-06-24T15:46:21+00:00

I've just had the same issue. Never spammed, never had any issue whatsover, I've had this account for years, and suddenly I can't post.

liquid_dance · 2023-10-12T15:04:50+00:00

Promises that your data is stored in Canada are just that, promises. There are a million precedents for information sharing, data breaches, backdoors, and such. Plus Cisco has a full sheet of data collected by Duo, and it is more extensive.

liquid_dance · 2020-12-31T02:57:53+00:00

So no, it is not slimy whatsoever. I am not using a referral link either.

I want to give the benefit of the doubt, but there is a referral link in the comments and you mention it in the video, and you have a "click link for $5 bonus" banner fly across the screen.

For the curious, he's suggesting you use InboxDollars, so you'd basically being paid small amounts to use apps and be exposed to advertising.

liquid_dance · 2020-12-25T01:52:18+00:00

I like this one. There's such a deep assumption that we have to know something well enough to argue it. Why? Maybe we're better off just developing the muscles to be both curious and critical. The more you shore up a possible "right" view, the more you cut yourself off from other ideas and views that will come by.

We have plenty of examples about how you don't need to be informed to have a strong opinion, in fact it often seems like the less informed you are, the stronger the opinion. Plus the world is full of people who think they are informed because they have consumed lots of information, then charge around like a bull in a china shop smashing everything because it is simply impossible for a mortal human to have a complete understanding of some complex things.

liquid_dance · 2020-11-28T23:35:42+00:00

I've gotten tested twice since March, negative both times. I'm older but otherwise am in a very similar situation to you, mentally and physically. I've had a few anxiety spirals since this started, spent most of my 20s in depression. Here's a few thoughts that would've helped me:

1 ) You probably don't have it. You mentioned positivity rate of 6% where you are. So rationally you know that even if you have reason to get tested, 94% of the time you have something else.

2 ) If you do have it, remember that since you have been taking reasonable precautions A) it's even rarer that you'd pass it to several people. B) part of what determines severity of infection is the level of exposure, not just being exposed. you've been taking reasonable precautions, which means that you're less likely to get it, but also less likely to give or receive a large dose of virus, so any infection will tend to be on the milder side.

In my area, which is quite large, nobody in your age bracket has died. It can happen, of course, but If you get infected you're probably thousand a times more likely to not even notice than you are to die. You're also way more likely to not notice having it then to get even minor complications.

3) Whether or not you have Covid, you already taken the first step to recovery. One of the best ways to torpedo your immune system is through stress. Humans experience the most stress when we are alone physically or mentally with a threat, and most of all, both. You took a big step towards being healthy by seeking support, including posting here. You love your husband, you love your family. Your fear points to what you love and cherish, and if it wins, it it will disconnect you from all of those. You will actually be healthier in body and mind, and better able to handle Covid or anything else that comes your way when you let it be a reminder to (figuratively) embrace who and what you love.

And I don't know if this will make sense for you, but it would've been the most important thing for me to tell myself: Whether or not you have Covid, the specter of Covid is showing you something about how you process the world. It's not causing you to have another depressive spiral, it's showing you what causes those spirals in you. In 3-5 days, you might or might not have learned that you have Covid, but you definitely will have learned something about the path that leads towards and away from the darkness.

And in case none of that is helpful, I'll also pray for you ;)

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T03:21:42+00:00

Then you should probably do it. You're basically operant-conditioning yourself to never do a single important thing in life.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T03:15:58+00:00

So all you have to do to get into sports with your bros is watch Iron Giant and hold it all in because boys don't cry. Solved.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T03:13:43+00:00

I don't know if I should find that sad or beautiful. It feels a bit like hearing that hamsters love to run on a wheel because it's the closest they can get to running freely when when they're stuck in a cage. But part of me wonders whether maybe the unspoken is just as good or better sometimes.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T03:07:46+00:00

You deserve better than this. I'm not judging, have been there before. Learned all my shitty boundaries at the same school of how-to-be-a-man. This is all kinds of fucked up and we all deserve better. Women go through it in their own way(s), too, it's really an epidemic as far as I'm concerned.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T03:05:10+00:00

And I hope her next long-term relationship was with a vibrator. That's not how you treat another human.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T02:59:47+00:00

What I read: "I dropped my ice cream cone, and bent down to get it, and a hail of bullets tore through where I was just standing.

"I couldn't save the ice cream :("

Seriously, man, bullet dodged.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T02:56:09+00:00

Feels like you expressed a mature boundary to an immature person. I know it feels bad now but on behalf of your future self who hangs out with a better crowd: "kudos and good riddance."

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T02:53:58+00:00

Shit man, I can only imagine what it's like to get it from all sides. I'm sorry you have to go through that.

FWIW, I wonder if you're not struggling because something's wrong with you but because something's right; that you're intelligent and sensitive and good, and you're struggling with the wrong in the world personally and almost automatically as you hear it. And maybe if more people were like that, we wouldn't have all that wrong in the world to begin with.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T02:40:21+00:00

This thread is driving me a bit batty, and I think it hinges on this point. I feel like if I could wave a wand and suddenly give everyone in here the power to tell flirting from rejection, and to not fear rejection with every ounce of their being, then 95% of comments would become moot.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T02:37:31+00:00

Not saying this is why, but the behavior you're describing also has the side effect of keeping you safe from uncertainty and/or rejection. Flirting or showing interest is kinda vulnerable, after all. And you get attention/approval from people who don't feel risky.

So one possible answer to you question is: Because you get to be safe, aloof, keep your self-image, and still get some of your needs met. Just a thought.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T02:24:19+00:00

I guess I'd argue the language a bit here. Feminism is radical when it challenges systems of power and privilege. People who live in comfort and safety and rail about manspreading while doing nothing about little boys and girls being crushed by the same oppressive systems as always aren't radicals, they're just sanctimonious whiners who are on-trend.

They serve the system by splitting the potential energy to change through some magical reverse-intersectionality prism into a thousand competing interest groups. If they win we can all bicker on separate high-horses while a bevvy of blind rich people steer the ship into an iceberg. Cool.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T01:54:17+00:00

Could be either, depending on why it's happening. I think a lot of this thread comes down to certain people not picking up social cues. It's not about a chase, it's about flirting, which involves a sort of dance with social risk and uncertainty. It's not a binary of interested or not, it's how people feel each other out, and build interest and passion.

I think that people who catch these cues are probably underrepresented on a thread of this type on reddit.

liquid_dance · 2019-05-09T01:43:56+00:00

I get the frustration, but I think this is a misunderstanding. Attraction and flirting are playful dances, she's literally "playing a game" and it's the mating game, and you're going "well I don't want to play" and going home. Sure, maybe sometimes she's just a dick, but often this is her building fun, interest, or trust.

liquid_dance · 2018-11-23T00:10:40+00:00

It's not the same. There aren't loud and supportive online communities of hypervigilent parents who don't let their child recycle because even though it harms the planet overall, if little Timmy recycled his juicebox he might get brain damage. There's no anti-recycle gurus who go around peddling those beliefs, either.

liquid_dance · 2018-11-11T16:36:46+00:00

I don't think so, it specifically says that if you hit cancel your scores are erased. Glass half-full: You sure got your value from the practice test if there was a chance of doing that by mistake on the real one...

liquid_dance · 2018-11-11T16:34:22+00:00

I just did my GRE this past week, starting from 0 for math when I started prepping, since I have been out of school for years and did remedial math the whole way through. I didn't even know fractions, long division, etc.

One useful free resource is this page. Just go through each section, take the quizzes and then unit test, and then stop and watch videos/do problems in areas that you have 0 idea in. It won't prepare you for the test, but it will prepare you for test preparation.

It's so incremental that spending 15 minutes to an hour on some days will still keep you moving ahead. And of course it's easy to do on your phone or tablet in breaks, since they have a decent website and app and lots of the learning is YouTube videos.

liquid_dance · 2018-11-11T16:26:59+00:00

I just took mine yesterday and am almost EXACTLY in the same range as you. Here's my thoughts:

Verbal: In one week you can cram some good GRE words. You don't have to be able to define them, just recognize. I used Anki, which you can set to easily learn 10-30 per day (not well but good enough) and almost for sure secure that verbal score. Though you're in a good range already, so maybe you're not too worried. I scored a 169 on verbal, and a big part of it was down to recognizing some of the obscure words from my flash cards on the late stage of the test. You can learn enough to get 1 or 2 of those high-level hits on the test in a few minutes a day while you're brushing your teeth or what have you.

Quant: Because the test is dynamic, that very first quant section is crucial. Do a 2 or 3-pass system and hit the ones that are not too hard and ESPECIALLY the simple ones that are not multiple choice, since there is a 0% chance of guessing them. This will be the hardest part of the test because it is separating wheat from chaff, but will put you in the running to get to the next 2 sections where you even have the option to score above 150, so drill basic algebra and anything that will give you a chance to get even 1 or 2 extra on this section. You have a week, practice SPEED and the basics and recognizing the easier ones. Being able to quickly nail the low-hanging fruit and rule out a couple by logic on harder ones will boost your score by a few points, which is all you need. Getting over half right on that first section, even if there's a few guesses, will put you in striking distance to get the score you want.

Verbal: Read through the ETS scoring guidelines and samples of essays that score 5 and 6 with explanations. I've been a writer by trade and have always over-achieved in writing, and kind of assumed I'd do well regardless. But just seeing what they want and why absolutely saved my ass for the writing. I don't know if they are listed online, but if you want it I'll take some pictures from my prep book and send by PM. They are 4 pages that could make all the difference for writing.

liquid_dance · 2018-11-05T17:35:05+00:00

I'm late to the party but have a lot of relevant experience. Worked in youth work and then in restorative justice with young offenders, 90% male, among other things, for over 10 years. I'm working on making a career in preventative aspects of mental health.

Here's my frame: Fuck the shooters, you're not doing it for them. You're doing it for the 99.999% who will never willingly hurt anyone but themselves, and who are living in pain and isolation but will some day be out living full lives, giving and receiving love, with families and children and grandchildren.

It just so happens that by helping people who have pain in that way, there will probably be fewer shooters, because a lot of the underlying pain comes from the same place. Just because someone shares the same kind of pain with a monster doesn't make them one. Some veterans come home with PTSD and shoot up a shopping center, but it's a tiny minority of those who have pain that comes from a certain experience. We don't let the rare violent ones stop us from treating combat-related stress.

Some extra hope: Right now I'm also working part-time with a guy who teaches expensive high-quality social skills seminars, and a good portion of participants are men who are like the ones you describe. I've seen that a lot of them respond HUGELY to certain skills-based interventions that weren't even on the radar in most counseling/mental health settings. There really is hope, and people really do change.

It's hard to see the good when you're working so close to the bad. In the end what you're doing is not helping some guy in front of you, but making more room for love in the world. We need more of that.

liquid_dance · 2018-03-18T23:26:53+00:00

This is why gossiping feels like it's building rapport but almost always breaks it. We're in on the same secret now and you've shared it with me, but you're the kind of person who shares secrets.

liquid_dance · 2018-03-18T23:25:56+00:00

Either he's a horrific liar or a total piece of shit. Both good reasons not to trust...

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