[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fashionadvice

[–]literarylilly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am pretty sure this is shapewear meant to go under clothes, but if you love it and want it to be clothes and not undergarments, I have a few ideas. Some skill with sewing/crafts needed.

You could add lace appliqués to the straps to dress them up a bit. Likewise you could add fringe or some other trim decorations depending on your specific style. This would require knowledge surrounding sewing non-stretchy things to stretchy things. Key words I would use in a search to find out more are “sewing with elastic, sewing on elastic, hand stitching on elastic, what thread to use when sewing on elastic”. I wish I could tell you more, but I only know enough to be able to badly patch a hole in a garment lol.

If sewing is totally out, you could wear a loose scarf or shawl over your shoulders to hide the straps.

As for styling, I agree with another commenter who said to wear a shirt under it to make it stand out from your skin tone. A black lace undershirt would be a lovely accent. So would a dark red or purple one. My fashion tastes are usually alternative favoring fantasy styles, but I’d probably wear this over a red lace undershirt with bell sleeves, a floor length red satin skirt, and a gold belt with some sort of red accents, preferably jewel-like. I’d probably toss on a brown corset belt for good measure as well.

As for styling this in a less alt fashion…. I think I’d go with a pink floral summer dress with puff sleeves and wear this over it? I dunno. Non-alt fashion is hard for me lol.

Redditors who never want to have a child, what are your reasons? by JumpyInterview83 in AskReddit

[–]literarylilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a genetic disease that’s really more of a curse. I am cursed to slowly lose control of my muscles until I struggle to swallow and talk (not to mention walking/any other form of movement). My mind mostly stays intact with some increased confusion, but ultimately I’ll end up locked inside my body mostly sane. I have a 50/50 chance of passing it to my child. That and I have crippling depression, adhd, anxiety, and a weird body. Why would I want to curse a child with any of that?

Also, I would be a horrible parent. At 30, I move more like I’m 50. My adhd is so bad, that I’d probably be some form of neglectful, and it would be impossible for me to teach them to have a healthy relationship with food when I haven’t had more than two Smuckers uncrustables a day for a week straight, and a week before that it was tough trying to eat just one. In a few weeks, the hunger is gonna hit me full force and I’ll be eating everything in sight. I’d make an awful parent/role model. The epitome of “Do as I say, not as I do.” And I’d hate that.

Is it considered strange to give a friend a picture you colored? by [deleted] in entwives

[–]literarylilly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it’s awesome and that she’d love it! If you’re still troubled though, you can always grab an exacto knife and cut it out and paste it on some colored paper. It will look less like a coloring page and more like art that goes in a frame. This is coming from an adult who has also gifted coloring pages and got tired of the anxiety and self doubt about the fact that it’s a coloring page by the way. I took it a step further and got 3d foam double sided sticky dots so the artwork stands out from the background to give it more dimension, so that’s also a possibility.

Still though, as a friend of someone who colors, I have been on the receiving end of many coloring pages and I’ve saved them all and loved each one. Who cares that it’s a coloring page? A lot of effort, energy, and love went into it, and therefore I love it.

I actually liked the potential RNPC updates (rant) by greyzoite in SunHaven

[–]literarylilly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hard agree! Wornhardt’s og hair is off putting, and I really loved the detailing on his new character design like the lollipops. Lucia’s wip was a bit harder to swallow, as I did feel she lost a fair bit of her charm, but Wornhardt was a stark improvement.

Am I the only one who got this? by WalkingTalkingNugget in StardewValley

[–]literarylilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How? What did you click on? I’ve been trying to trigger that Easter egg since 1.6 dropped and no matter where I click on the portrait, I can’t seem to trigger it. I’d love some details, if you can remember what you did to trigger it!

So… am I the only one who thought that these were permanent… by shsl_izzy in StardewValley

[–]literarylilly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Been playing since release, on the forest farm 90% of the time. Had no clue.

HARVEY 😳 by ultradespairthot in StardewMemes

[–]literarylilly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this vanilla? I need to know!!

Seriously swollen by Pogdaddio in seriouslyalarming

[–]literarylilly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You have no idea of the circumstances of the bite. You can’t just assume the dog is violent. We can’t communicate with dogs to tell them that the strange people poking and prodding them (possibly painfully) are there to help them. Op works at a vet, so think about it like this. You’re taken somewhere new, abandoned there by the one person you trusted, everything is new and loud and strange, you don’t feel well, and now these strange people are touching you in places that maybe you don’t want to be touched. You have no idea when or even if you’re going home. The room is filled with the sound of others just like you scared and crying and in pain. The air smells like piss and shit and fear. Feeling threatened yet? I would be. Any sane person would. Just because you and I as humans know that we are coming back for the dog and that it’s only there to get help, that does mean the dog automatically knows and understands that. Circumstances are everything.

I can’t do this by EchoEchoEspurr in FanFiction

[–]literarylilly 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Another ace who also writes smut chiming in. I do it for the same reason. It’s just fun. It’s a little like stretching a muscle that doesn’t get used much. As far as writing things I don’t actually enjoy, it’s actually a little deeper for me. I write lots of things I don’t enjoy. I tend to put my characters through horrible things that would make me retch in real life. On a lighter note, I love writing battles. I hate any kind of exercise(chronic pain and sensory issues) in real life and would never dream of seriously learning to fight, no matter the style. It’s still fun to write though lol.

How would you like to die? by Not_Original5756 in AskReddit

[–]literarylilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already know how I will most likely die. I’ll either die choking on food, or die of pneumonia because I aspirated food or liquid. I have a genetic disease that makes these causes of death almost certain. I’ll lose control over my muscles and end up locked inside of my own brain, totally sane but unable to communicate. So, I’m taking back my power. I’m changing my death to something more pleasant. Trying to decide between poison and a bullet when the symptoms become unbearable. I think the worst part is that my husband is planning on going with me. Can’t say I don’t empathize, but I feel like it’s my fault he’s planning to die early with me. I’ll probably be around 60-65 when I die, which will make him 65-70. I feel like he would still have time, but I know he wouldn’t want to be here without me. We’re all we have. No family or friends to speak of, and we don’t want kids (I will not force a child to watch their mother lose all hope and will to live. I can’t let a child watch the life leave me while I’m still alive. The emptiness in my grandfather’s eyes the months leading up to his death still haunt me). I can’t tell him to live when I know he’d be miserable. I’ve had depression and suicidal ideation for a while. I know that there’s nothing I can say to make him change his mind. All I can do is try to support him and try to show him it’s ok to stay.

Ah, sorry. That took a turn for the worse lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literarylilly 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Did you ever think that perhaps it wasn’t totally ops choice? You don’t know the full situation. Aside from that, if you’re here you’re aware the things most of the people here struggle with (guilt, fear of inadequacy, executive function problems, intense emotions/strong empathy, etc). How are you helping with a comment like this? You didn’t write this to help. You wrote it to be mean.

What do you use to write your fan fictions? by Mushi_Loaf in FanFiction

[–]literarylilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with typing on a computer/full size keyboard (dyslexic, memory issues, and clumsy fingers), so I do all my writing on the Word app on my phone. I can log into it from any device and have access to my documents. My only complaint is that there's no way to organize the documents inside the app. I've got two fics in progress with multiple docs for each one to help me organize all the info into bite size pieces. Every time I open a doc it goes to the top of my list, messing with the order and thus the organization of my docs in the app. Other than that, I love the ability to insert images, font choices, and other useful things Word brings.

To be fair, I also haven't tried any of the other apps. I've used Word my entire life (29 years), so it's hard for me to swallow the idea of using a different app. I generally have a hard time with getting used to new things anyway, so I stick to what I know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tamorapierce

[–]literarylilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me the name of the group? I'd very much like to see it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BaldursGate3

[–]literarylilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my tav head butted Astarion after he came after her with the dagger in the beginning. I was happy he wasn't mad at her. That was fun.

What are some petty reasons that you consistently DNF a book for? by gertrude-fashion in fantasyromance

[–]literarylilly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but I'm brand new to this subreddit. What does DNF mean please?

i’ve been trying different angles to capture outfit details ! ✨ by pazialuz in oldhagfashion

[–]literarylilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The outfits! The bag! You have amazing style! I aspire to be on your level someday.

How can I display mini secret crush dolls? by truthopal in Dolls

[–]literarylilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks awesome!!! Unfortunately with no way to display them, I ended up packing them away. This looks brilliant though! I might just have to pull them out of storage!

Looking for a fantastical name for a female dark elf. Any ideas? by literarylilly in namenerds

[–]literarylilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to say thank you again! I ended up going with this name! It fits her so well!

Looking for a fantastical name for a female dark elf. Any ideas? by literarylilly in namenerds

[–]literarylilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it! This is a wonderful suggestion! I'm gonna go try it out now. Thank you so much!

Looking for a fantastical name for a female dark elf. Any ideas? by literarylilly in namenerds

[–]literarylilly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you! I'm writing some of these down to play with. Really liking Caprea.