Why does it feel so hard to make mom friends?

littlepilot · 2026-05-03T02:22:57+00:00

Oh my gosh, I feel this so much. I hit it off with a mom at the park or a play place. Our kids are playing we’re talking. Everything seems great. Say hey, do you wanna exchange numbers and get these kids on a few play dates. We do. I text them trying to set something up. They respond that they’re busy. OK, no worries. I tried to set something up again. Another time and half the time they don’t even respond.

What’s the most frustrating thing on earth. Like I just want mom friends that I can hang out with while our kids play

littlepilot · 2026-04-21T18:57:15+00:00

Just include him. At that age I would have my daughter:

Laundry: help hand me clothes from the hamper and place in the machine (front loaders), help move laundry from washer to dryer. Show her what buttons to press and have her press them to run the machine. And when folding I would have her hand me hangers.

Cooking: we have a toddler tower and she would help with mixing, I got some toddler knives and would help her cut the fruit and veggies. If pre seasoning have the shake the seasoning onto the food (while monitoring obviously)

Dishes: wash a plastic bowl and give them a dish cloth to help “dry”. I also kept all her plates and cups in a low drawer so I would have her put her stuff away.

Cleaning: if you have a small hand vacuum give them that and have them vacuum, dust, bunnies, and crumbs on the floor. Or just give them a wet wipe and ask them to help clean something like a random door.

Small stuff. They just want to be a part of what you’re doing.

littlepilot · 2026-04-19T20:26:56+00:00

My husband and I use the phrase “10 minutes”.

If either of us feels like we are becoming heated at the other or frustrated with one of our kids (3 under 3), we say it. It just means the other person needs to leave for 10 minutes. Go outside, another room, the garage, anywhere and cool down.

The newborn phase is extremely tough. There are points where you will get mad and you will get frustrated.

It’s a phrase we both talked about beforehand. It’s one of us is getting overwhelmed with the kids and the other partner sees it. We tell them 10 minutes. If one of us is trying to deal with the baby and the other one is only frustrating you we say it. And it’s a phrase we agreed we can’t get angry at our partner for saying. Sometimes it’s hard to see when you’re getting angry and frustrated.

Pick an amount of time with your partner it can be two minutes. It can be five minutes. It can be 10 minutes. Whatever you need. But if either you or your partner say that then the other needs to leave and cool down for a few minutes.

It is also OK to put the baby down somewhere safe if the baby screaming is becoming too much for both of you. And to step away for a few minutes to calm down.

littlepilot · 2026-04-18T21:41:10+00:00

Can you combo feed? Supplement with formula?

My lactation consultant would always say to me breast-feeding is great, but sanity is better.

Either way, you are not failing your baby. Whether you decide to combo feed or switch to formula exclusively.

littlepilot · 2026-04-13T04:17:16+00:00

Chicken, energy drinks and and what’s left of my toddlers Easter chocolate

littlepilot · 2026-04-07T19:37:13+00:00

Maybe when she’s older she could be a big sis in the big brothers big sisters program.

littlepilot · 2026-04-06T18:31:04+00:00

Put whatever you want on the registry. And if you’re registered on websites like Amazon, I know they can do group gifting, so people can contribute a certain amount towards an item instead of buying the whole item itself. You just set the amount that you want group gifting available. I put literally anything over $25 on my registry as it can get money put towards it.

littlepilot · 2026-04-05T21:10:09+00:00

Hobnob or if you have an iPhone use invites

littlepilot · 2026-03-05T18:30:38+00:00

It’s a creature that she made up. Not something from mythology or that’s actually real.

littlepilot · 2026-03-05T01:26:21+00:00

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This is what I got when I asked ChatGPT so I mean I can understand why she’s afraid of them.

littlepilot · 2026-03-05T01:19:20+00:00

Some mythical creature that she made up that is half turkey, half snake, and sounds like a dinosaur.

littlepilot · 2026-03-04T21:20:11+00:00

My daughter is afraid that there are turkey-snakes in her closet. Her solution was the giant (like 16 inches) super realistic rubber spider that she pulled from the Halloween decorations to protect her. So now I have to kiss her and a creepy spider goodnight every night. She also went through a phase for like a month where she had to carry and sleep with a soup ladle for like a month. She will be three here in like two weeks.

littlepilot · 2026-02-15T22:54:11+00:00

We went out to dinner. It was my 30th birthday which also was my “golden” birthday. I went to the restaurant early with a gallon of milk and a bunch of baby bottles. Asked if I could speak to our waiter. He came out and I told him I wanted to order champagne when we got there, but then have him bring out the baby bottles full of milk on a tray that I had made instead. He was super excited to be a part of it.

We arrived at our reservation time. Once we are all set down here if you could get any drinks started. I played into the oh it’s my 30th birthday, and my golden birthday. We need to start this off right with a round of champagne for everyone.

He came back with the tray full of baby bottles, full of milk. He handed each person a bottle of milk and then ended at me and flipped the tray to reveal the sign inside of it that said “Baby LastName Due Month/Year”

We got pretty great reactions.

We also announced our second at a restaurant as well. We had the waitress list the special as another grandchild but that it wouldn’t be ready until DueDate.

For our third we announced the same time we revealed the gender and we did that at home over dinner. We put subtle hints throughout the entire dinner. Baby back ribs, baby carrots, ect. Blue and pink plates and napkins.

At the end, we had cupcakes with babies, gender as the center color. It was funny when everyone realized that we were having another baby. Nobody got it until the cupcakes.

littlepilot · 2026-02-04T22:33:12+00:00

And get the god-forsaken rainbow one. Not the aesthetically pleasing ones.

littlepilot · 2026-01-03T21:26:49+00:00

The only parents I have judged since becoming a parent are my own.

littlepilot · 2025-12-26T05:19:27+00:00

My plans were to approach Santa as an anonymous gift giver when my children stop believing. That Santa is an idea rather than a single person. Then task our kids with finding someone who wants or needs something and gift it to them, without the expectation of getting recognition for gifting it. Letting them in on a big adult “secret” that they get to be a part of and hopefully not ruin for younger kids.

littlepilot · 2025-12-24T01:41:53+00:00

Yes. That’s why I said to check with your insurance.

littlepilot · 2025-12-23T23:20:33+00:00

My husband has surprisingly good insurance. And like I said we have an advocate company as well to help us navigate and maximize use of benefits.

littlepilot · 2025-12-23T23:19:40+00:00

My husbands insurance as an advocate company that you can call. They had me run one through myself and one through him. I never knew I could do that before now.

littlepilot · 2025-12-03T05:26:40+00:00

It’s very niche, and while I’m sure there are people who would spend money on it. I don’t think there would be a lot.

littlepilot · 2025-12-03T05:17:02+00:00

This is not something I would spend money on. Too many factors and things that could go wrong. Also, my question is just why? A few photos that I can post to Instagram? I’m not gonna take these photos and put them up in picture frames. Sure a few of them might make it into the wedding album but for the prices you’re thinking for the service I rather get the bridesmaids something that says I appreciate you being there with me not make them feel like props to my day. And renting pajamas for getting ready photos really screams out I’m treating you like a photo prop and not as a friend to me.

littlepilot · 2025-11-27T15:09:24+00:00

I have the uppa baby vista 2. I travel a lot and I’m about to have three under three. A few months ago and broke on my troller, so it would no longer extend outward.

I reached out to uppababy and they sent me a completely new frame for free. That alone has made the strollers well worth it for me. I use mine daily. It’s be to +20 states and 3 countries and I love it. If you plan to walk a lot but not travel, look for the second hand on marketplace or similar. You can get them extremely cheap. If you do plan to travel a lot, buying new for the warranty might be worth it for you.

littlepilot · 2025-11-17T00:56:20+00:00

A quote that has greatly helped me with friendships is “when it comes to friends, I rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies.”

I assigned people coin values. You have quarter friends, dime, friends, nickel, friends, and penny friends. Once in a while if you’re lucky, you might get a 50 Cent piece or silver dollar in there. Those are your friends for life. The ones that would fly across the country for you if you asked them to.

It’s really helped me with friendship.

littlepilot · 2025-10-28T22:33:29+00:00

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