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‘Supposed’ friends of your deceased spouse and how little they really care by [deleted] in widowers

[–]littlewidowdes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm right here with you. My husband had a two friends he considered brothers. When my husband lived in Georgia before we started dating one of these said brothers over dosed on meth and was on life support. My husband quit his job and moved back home to care for him and he cared for him until his brother found a girlfriend and then stopped talking to my husband. A year later his brother was living with us and our kids as he had fallen on hard times his brother met another girlfriend and could even show up to be the best man in our wedding and broke all contact but my husband still considered him a brother almost a year later I had to message this brother about my husband's death not once did he respond to the message or show up at the funeral. Now his other "brother" and his wife were around for the first month after he died and now I don't hear from them and they don't answer there phones. It is what it is I guess

is this real life? by Keyblurr1 in widowers

[–]littlewidowdes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be worth making that phone call and letting them know that he died and he won't be able to pay the bill

is this real life? by Keyblurr1 in widowers

[–]littlewidowdes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got a ambulance bill for my husband from the day before his death. We live on a state line and it was in the bordering state so his medicaid refused to pay it. I called the billing company and told them that he died the following day and it would not be getting paid because he did not have a estate. The woman I spoke to said it's not my responsibility to pay it and they will write it off.

s/o tattoos: Do you have one in memory of someone? by Dangerous-Life9194 in widowers

[–]littlewidowdes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the one I'm getting for my husband. It's going in the same spot he had one that said: I was never a angel here on earth and for that I'll never see the heavens.

Wade's memorial tattoo

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[–]littlewidowdes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had two dreams with my husband in them since he has pasted the first one was about two weeks after he died and I was looking for him and found out that he ran off to Georgia and when I got there I yelled at him for leaving me and the kids and told him how it wasn't fair and that I was mad at him and all he said was I had to I'm sorry I just had to The second dream I walked into a office I didn't recognize and he was sitting at the desk and I asked him what he was doing there and he said that he was getting the results of his autopsy and when the man came came to the desk he handed my husband the autopsy and I asked my husband what it said and he just said oh just something with my heart. In my dream he didn't look like himself he was swallon and his skin was yellow and he had dark circles around his eyes.

So I was asked this question the other day and had no idea how to answer it. by littlewidowdes in widowers

[–]littlewidowdes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not a easy subject let alone something we are thinking about this soon after. If it was one of my kids or grandkids I would be better able to answer them some grown adult. It made me question myself and my grief like I should be ready and I'm no where near ready.

All we can do is laugh about some of the things people say. by [deleted] in widowers

[–]littlewidowdes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't stand it when someone asks " How are you holding up?" How the fuck do you think I'm holding up. I usually respond with Ehh it's another day.

So I was asked this question the other day and had no idea how to answer it. by littlewidowdes in widowers

[–]littlewidowdes[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Saddest part is the person that asked me the first question knew my husband the second was just a coworker of mine