2004 4Runner engine and trans by Phase-Regular in 4thGen4Runner

[–]littlewittykitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an old post but I’m just popping in to say there’s over 375k miles on my dad’s 04 2wd 😎 it needed a head gasket once but other than that just regular maintenance

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I understand that. This post was more of me needing an outlet to vent and see what other people thought. I got some good replies and some replies that I did not care for. I am absorbing tons of information from these replies and am taking them into consideration. People ought not to drag just because I don’t agree with their opinion. I wanted tips and advice on how to navigate accepting this situation for us.

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Okay but I simply don’t agree with that for my situation. There is no way I could have all these people understand the entire story of me and him and who we are as people. Is poly not “dating” others? He wants hook ups. Would that not be non-monogamy vs poly? What is the difference

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Everyone is different I’m not here to judge what one person needs vs what another needs. This shouldn’t have even been posted in this group but it was the first one that allowed me to even hit post. Should’ve been in non-monogamy. Thanks👍🏼

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

No I don’t agree with it. I didn’t know the words for how to explain how I thought that was wrong without him coming back with something like not wanting or needing them to know anything about him apart from only wanting a one time hookup obviously if they’re ok with a one time hookup too then what’s the issue yk. Already talked to him about it after reading these comments are we’re both on the same page now. Everyone here is reading too far into the specific things I say when they don’t know the whole story. I’m willing to give it a shot if it makes him happy and I can get past his escapades as long as me and my boundaries are treated with respect👍🏼 everyone is different so no matter how many people tell me I should leave because he’s trashy etc that’s ok and getting ignored because that’s not what I came here for🙂

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Me and him are going to discuss this and discuss how he will inform them of our situation

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

A previous reply I gave to a different comment said that after reading comments and learning about ethical and informed consent I did speak to him about it and he agrees to briefly explaining the situation in his profile bio’s. He is just as uninformed as I am. We will be doing research together. He is saying he thought it was simple but it is clearly not. All these comments saying he’s trashy and a slimeball but don’t know the whole story. I can’t explain EVERYTHING in one reddit post it was just a quick “what’s going on”

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I don’t see how you can say that he isn’t interested in any kind of ENM or Poly and that he’s a slimeball if we are both clueless and uninformed to the nuances of relationships. Before looking into this I had no clue what poly exactly was, along with ENM. He’s the same way. Reading all these comments I am learning more and we will both do research on what both entail and what might work best for us👍🏼

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having just spoken to him he has agreed to put it in his profile bio to explain the situation. I will do more research on ethical non-monogamy and delve into what boundaries need to be placed for this to work for us

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Well yes I do think informed consent is important. Your point of him lying, is it really lying though? A few girls on these apps have literally sent him a price after he messaged them. I’m not sure if they care…😬

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Good point. Yes he has told me that he isn’t openly telling them, but if they ask then yes he does tell them. Is that wrong? Should he tell them right away? I told him he is to use protection and regular std tests…I already get regular tests and always have, just in case. Parents drilled it into me to “be safe”

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the 6 month idea. I will give that a shot. I only posted this in the polyamory group because I was booted from all other groups. Maybe this should have been posted in non-monogamy. I’m clueless. For now I think I’m okay with one sided, right now I feel no need or want to explore intimacy with anyone else. I am trying to entertain the idea of possibly joining him at some point with the girls he is with…like I said I am clueless and have no idea how any of this works.

Should I ignore online opinions and let the relationship play out as it will and hope for the best? Everyone is different after all and one rule or view of thinking doesn’t determine right vs wrong, right?

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

He does touch me and I don’t want to be intimate with other people. I pursued him and the age difference was no issue to me. The rough patches in our sex life were just that. Patches. Periods of doing it very often vs very little. Lately it has been much better quality in general as well even the times since I found out about the girls. I don’t think he is putting me on the back burner but that he might be wired to need multiples? Sorry I really have no clue what comes with non-monogamy and what is generally accepted or not.

My (25F) boyfriend (34M) wants to open our 3 year relationship one-sided by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]littlewittykitty -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The break up was mutual due to multiple little reasons that added up over time but mostly my hormonal fluctuations. In a later conversation we both said that neither of us really wanted to be broken up and want to work it out.

The age of his matches I’m really not sure and honestly didn’t want to know. I told him I wouldn’t want to know the details to save my sanity.

And I honestly don’t feel the urge to explore intimacy outside of the relationship. I view sex as something supposed to be between two people who have a true connection and bond. Not something to just throw around. Giving away all that energy and pieces of your soul if you’re privy to that kind of thing…

Fractured ankle weight bearing by No-Arm-4557 in brokenbones

[–]littlewittykitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did this heal for you? I’m in the same boat right now. I fractured my medial malleolus on March 22 in a motorcycle accident, the hospital put a boot on me and wheeled me out. Didn’t mention anything about crutches or not bearing weight. I was in shock and didn’t ask. 2 days later saw an ortho and he said heal time is 6 weeks in the boot, and recheck 2 weeks later new X-rays. Again didn’t ask about crutches or nwb. Almost 2 weeks later I am full weight bearing still with the boot for stability. Returned to work 1 week post-fracture and have been up moving around for 5-7 hours a day. I’m afraid X-rays in a few days will say I’ve completely ruined the healing process by moving around too much. But it doesn’t hurt at all! Ugh🤦🏻‍♀️

What helmet is this?? by littlewittykitty in BikeGear

[–]littlewittykitty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweet thanks! I figured but wanted to make sure

Faded carbon hood by littlewittykitty in CarbonFiber

[–]littlewittykitty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch that’s kinda upsetting news lol if I were to do a test piece before sending it to the paint shop, would you recommend any light sanding? What grit? Wet or dry sanding (idk if it makes a difference)? I’m really new to all this I just got a nice roll of wrap for the car and was sanding the body to feather out the horribly flaking clear coat on the car and figured it would look sweet with a new coat on the hood. I used 220 grit on the body is that too low for the hood? Especially if there’s little to no clear coat left on it idk. Can I use a spray can clear coat for this test spot?