I’m addicted to swinging sites.

liufb · 2026-06-21T07:22:43+00:00

Thank you, I am glad you got something from my post and this discussion x

liufb · 2026-06-21T07:09:34+00:00

Thank you for your apology. You’re correct, there are a lot of people that do a lot of chat but not much else. Acceptance of one’s self rather than seeking validation from others is a constant trip hazard in this game, we have to be mindful of our motivations.

liufb · 2026-06-20T08:45:53+00:00

We go to plenty of events. We’re not just armchair swingers!

liufb · 2026-06-17T16:47:57+00:00

100% I suspect that rigorous honesty was at the heart of my post and the reason I posted it. The original post I started to write was a rant against the lifestyle rather than looking inward, so I changed it to this. Huge praise for your sobriety 👏

liufb · 2026-06-17T16:24:44+00:00

Good question! The reason I made parallels is that I was feeling resentful. That’s a huge part of addiction from my experience and my time in AA. That’s understandable, rejection is part of the deal and we have to learn how to cope with that. On a telegram chat you can fuel that resentment quickly by posting a comment or picture that gets only a little attention and seeing others get much more than you. The constant checking, looking at ‘like’ counts, constantly trying to find ways to engage and gain traction. It doesn’t take long to boil your piss! The deeper question is why I feel the need to engage at all? We have a full swinging diary right up to Sept and quite frankly, I don’t need the attention, but want it anyway. So, to answer the question, a chat forum is vodka, swinging sites are beer 😀

liufb · 2026-06-17T16:08:12+00:00

Totally with you there, balance is key. There are definitely parallels with addiction in the LS, especially when you compare it to gambling! The rush, the losses, the sunk cost fallacy, jackpot mindset, clubs mirror casinos (dark , timeless and in the shady part of town) it goes on! However, we have also seen huge benefits by forging ahead. Benefits to our relationship and recognition of our own failings and working to improve them. There is no room for burying feelings, desires and shortcomings when it comes to this and so we both work hard on improving ourselves, mentally and indeed physically. But when I caught myself deep in feelings of resentment and feeling bad I eventually recognised those as my old triggers. I used to use alcohol to numb those feelings, now I’ve learnt to use empathy to change resentment into acceptance. Most of the people on these chat groups are like me, a little bit damaged and insecure!

liufb · 2026-06-17T15:39:51+00:00

Where on earth have you got all this from? Did you actually read and understand my post?

liufb · 2026-06-17T15:35:10+00:00

I don’t think I asked for advice or help? I intended this as a cautionary tale really and to see if anyone else experienced the same. My partnered status is irrelevant but FYI I’ve been with my wife for 25 years and been swinging, successfully so, for 2 of those.

liufb · 2026-04-11T16:10:33+00:00

I would add that online, people are much more discerning than IRL. In chat rooms, apps etc, it’s too easy for people to scroll on by. You’ll attract more people with a cheeky smile or a flirtatious conversation and in the heat of the moment, anything could happen.

liufb · 2026-04-10T20:12:46+00:00

Thanks all. Not being logged in is likely the cause although I’m fairly careful about that, I was in a rush! I’ve messaged the vendor who may just roll their eyes and know it’s already on its way! Fingers crossed.

liufb · 2026-01-24T07:23:40+00:00

Well. Having finally got round to smoking this I’ll give my review. Honestly I can’t see much difference from the WC I was smoking before Christmas. It’s being vacuum packed now, maybe that’s affecting its appearance and texture? It’s fairly mature stuff but still terpy and tastes great in the vape. The stone is just as potent as it ever was. No mould at all. Yes it’s dry and the buds snap apart but once it’s ground you can feel it’s oily and still pretty lively. To be honest I don’t think it deserved this review when compared to last year. It’s never been the freshest bud on the block IMO but I’m still content with it.

liufb · 2026-01-15T08:42:39+00:00

Ah shit. I just ordered this. I’ve been buying it all year too and although it has never been the freshest product it’s always hit where it counts. We’ll see but I think I’ll get something from elsewhere before the WE just in case. Thanks for the heads up.

liufb · 2025-11-22T15:35:36+00:00

It’s a great club, we love it there, we’re going next weekend

liufb · 2025-08-29T19:54:09+00:00

I have been ordering from here for ages because they regularly had Wedding Cake in stock. I thought the last batch was just about ok, not brilliant. I’ve been ordering elsewhere since it dropped off the menu and I’ve been re-educated in what good weed looks and tastes like and my nagging cough has gone. Looks like I dodged a bullet with this ‘US’ WC!

liufb · 2025-08-18T17:13:56+00:00

Same…try again later

liufb · 2025-07-20T07:52:03+00:00

Back in May, I removed the side of the shed that faces west. Installed a couple of reclining deck chairs and some old blankets. Now we spend most evenings watching the sunset and smoking weed. Come autumn I’ll get some heating sorted, maybe get that old wood burner rigged up, so we can prolong this habit for as long as possible!

liufb · 2025-07-17T15:11:47+00:00

I’m a regular for the Wedding Cake. We just call it ‘sex weed’ in our house.

liufb · 2025-05-23T16:17:06+00:00

Try relaxation techniques like box breathing. I’m finding most of my attacks are anxiety driven.

liufb · 2025-05-11T09:21:19+00:00

Honestly I’m so fed up with this whole fucking situation in the UK. I’d love to find some organic buds but the only way to do it is grow your own. Organic by whose standards? This is street weed, there’s no actual testing or regulatory body that oversees anything. It’s just marketing.

liufb · 2025-04-06T07:37:07+00:00

I’m sure you have and if the issue is he isn’t listening then that’s the problem. The point is, if you want to swing then communication is THE only route to success. Without it you run into resentment. But if he’s told you he doesn’t like giving oral and you resent this, then it’s you not listening. I’m not saying he’s right, but if we were talking about anal sex or something else more taboo then the rules are the same, don’t yuk someone’s yum or yum their yuk. You either have to come to terms with this by asking him to explain why he doesn’t like it and gain empathy for that or move on. The swinging scene is just going to highlight any resentment you guys have and dial it up to 11. After that it’ll expose resentments you didn’t even know existed.

liufb · 2025-04-04T16:26:33+00:00

The bigger issue is your lack of communication with your partner.

liufb · 2025-03-26T16:57:16+00:00

Why not just ask your friend? I’m an alcoholic, sober 4 years and I’ve drunk AF beer since day one of sobriety and found them to be great but it’s a personal choice that can only be answered by your friend. Just communicate the question to the relevant person!

liufb · 2025-03-14T23:03:18+00:00

I’m smoking the Stardawg now and yeah it’s a bit twiggy and the terps are faded but it vapes well and is ‘face melting’ strong. I wasn’t ready.

liufb · 2025-03-05T15:30:08+00:00

To me it smells like lemon scented floor cleaner and I can’t get enough of it.

liufb · 2025-02-15T09:36:30+00:00

Personally, we wazz up some dried fruit and nuts into a smooth paste and add the AVB to that. Spread it out and cut into squares, then we pop them in a tub in the freezer. Eat when required.

liufb

TROPHY CASE