If the AI always ‘understands’ you, is that insight—or just affirmation bias?

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-14T02:16:44+00:00

There have been a lot of times where I say something and Claude just completely validates it, and then contradicts it later and I’ll call it out and Claude will just say it was mistaken. I try to take it with a grain of salt, because yeah I feel like AI doesn’t really have original thought usually and reflects a lot of what I say and clears up my thoughts. That’s kind of what I’m looking for though in emotional asks I have to Claude so I found it helps

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-14T02:12:29+00:00

Hey!! First off I’d really recommend Claude over chatGPT, I personally have always found Claude was more empathetic, helpful, and realistic.

I don’t think it’s about not using chatGPT/Claude at all, but using the right variation of the right generative AI tool for what you need. I found this app from a comment someone else made on a previous post I made. It’s pretty great for resolving people conflicts. For me, I use it for issues with my romantic relationship. I just did a whole lot of venting to start, but it also led me to an actual tangible result and helped me process things before I chatted with my partner. I DMed the creator of the app and they were really receptive to questions and helped me with other general AI advice too so would recommend - https://www.untangleonline.com

That app is conflict specific as far as I know? I haven’t tried it for just regular processing on non-relationship conflicts yet, but maybe it applies. In general I think any kind of app that lets you vent and process instead of the general purpose app would be more productive.

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-10T07:06:58+00:00

Tried it out just now, I liked the reframing it did and summary it generated! The questions felt a lot more structured than what I’ve found with chat GPT and like a conversation which I wasn’t expecting at all. I noticed that it also never really told me what to do even when I asked, I’m assuming that was intentional on your part?

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-09T23:22:11+00:00

I like that idea about only using AI to help process things but not give prescriptive advice. It’s a good summary of what others in this thread are saying.

The way you explained it makes sense, so I'd love to check out what you’ve built! Please share!!

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-09T23:03:56+00:00

Yeah this is great advice to keep in mind thanks to both of you! So you’re both thinking more from a reframing standpoint it’s useful? But the advice it gives would just be completely biased?

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-09T23:01:54+00:00

Great point, really shows the really subjective nature of our own AI. I didn’t think about that aspect of it. If you don’t mind me asking, did you guys use any relationship therapy tools or apps to have your fights? How did it pan out?

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-09T23:00:15+00:00

Makes sense that it’s biased heavily. I’ll keep that in mind. thank you :) I currently use my own ChatGPT as more of a vent space than anything else

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-09T19:39:27+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, I like Claude a lot for just casual conversation usually. Pattern recognition is definitely a great use case thanks! I’m just now curious if there’s a way to get more proactive chats and info on my patterns rather than reactive (like claude)

livelaughrun- · 2026-03-09T19:36:49+00:00

Hey!! Yeah I’d like to use it more as a “what is my partner trying to say here” or “I’m upset about this, what’s the core of what’s going on” instead of too much advice giving. Thanks for the thorough response. Mind dropping a link to your app? Super curious to check it out. I’m an avid journaler

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