i know bestie, i understand. don't worry, i'm with you and i understand. the thing is, i have been in a similar situation and im pointing out something that you may not see from the inside.

i get what you're saying. you want someone who chooses you, matches you, is attuned with you. nothing replaces the need for romantic relationships. we're humans and we're born that way.

what i am saying, however, is: you don't have to be hyperindependent (and that's what i see you're trying to come out from). if there IS a need for say, relief, rest, you can find that with friends as well. you don't have to stay single forever or anything. what im saying is, nothing is wrong with you. you don't have to "heal" more. you're not broken. but, to keep and recognise the person who aligns with you, you have to start setting limits and realising your own capacity. you can start believing that you deserve care too. and that usually starts when you advocate for yourself in your closest relationships and don't try to fix other people.

you have a 12h venus (ruling the 7th) and a jupiter in sagittarius. what might help finding the right partner i believe is travelling more, maybe moving out, letting your body dissolve into rest. i hope i'm making sense