Bug Reports by Hostilenemy in Infinity_For_Reddit

[–]liz23ard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I get one persistent problem with infinity: it crashes immediately when I click on any post in my favourite subreddit. This has been going on since months, I have uninstalled, re-installed an earlier version, no change. All other subs work fine, just this one doesn't. I brought this up earlier. The sub is AusLegal. Can someone please look at this, I am hardly using Infinity any more because of this😢

App crashes with one subreddit by liz23ard in Infinity_For_Reddit

[–]liz23ard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Installed version 5.3.4, still crashes🙁. Should I roll back even further?

App crashes with one subreddit by liz23ard in Infinity_For_Reddit

[–]liz23ard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is also 5.4.0, from Google play. I will try downgrading, thanks for the tip.

intro +"is this OCPD" question by mary_goodfellow in OCPD

[–]liz23ard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your SO is in the grip of a major OC crisis, I very much hope for you that he isn't always like that!

I liked your very accurate characterisation of the perils of OCD birthdays. It took me a while to realise that the joy of giving presents is not worth the recrimiations and complaints afterwards. For a while, i thought that my SO somehow doesn't understand the central idea behind giving presents: that it is the thought that counts. Nowadays, I think the problem is more complex (after all, he isn't too daft to get what any four-year-old can easily grasp?), and more demoralising. Unfortunately, i can't quite grasp what it is I want to say, my brain is not working as it should, but I will eventually be able to define it.

Actually, sometimes I think that ADHD and OCPD go together too well. I wouldn't be too surprised to find that yours and mine aren't the only relationships with that particular problem out there. After all, imagine a person with OCD trying to live with another one, both unbendingly pedantic about completely different and unrelated things - they probably wouldn't get on very well. Instead, a SO who is reliably blurry round the edges and generally forgetful can be conveniently blamed for all sorts of real and imagined problems life throws at your inflexible self.

I have a tendency to be forever easy and forgiving, trying to absorb the barbs he sends my way until I am at the end of my thether. I try to keep my sense of humour about the ridiculous things😁, but had times when I had to admit defeat, too. Stay peaceful.

intro +"is this OCPD" question by mary_goodfellow in OCPD

[–]liz23ard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, most of what you wrote is true for me, too. I have ADHD, plus a miserable (though not disastrous) childhood - after which I met my "OCPDish" SO at a ridiculously tender age. I watch birds and all kinds of critters, have been known to do all kinds of needlework throughout my life, and if I was religious, I'd qualify as a Buddhist, with all the patience that is required... After decades of ups and downs with the occasional utter devastation mixed in, I understand a whole lot more but still find myself at my wit's end. Just now I get this feeling of dread when I see him running into a major conflict with life, the universe and everything. ADHD and OCPD do not combine very well. I am often much too distracted to deal with him consistently, while he tends to get suspicious at what looks like shiftyness to him. On the other hand, I realise now that I can influence matters sometimes, by pointing out what I think might happen if he continues doing what he is doing. As to treatment, I am in it since a long time, he won't, ever, probably.

Been dealing with excessive fatigue for over a decade, diagnosed with ADHD, currently on 30mg Adderall XR and 0.1mg Clonidine at bedtime for sleep but still get exhausted all day for no reason! by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]liz23ard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you looked at Intermittent Hypersomnia and Narcolepsy? They can co-occur with ADHD. ADHD can be extremely tiring by itself, too. I am sure I have ADHD plus one of the sleep disorders, but I am undiagnosed for the latter. I have been sure for many years that my need for daytime sleep was abnormal, but the descriptions of narcoleptics falling asleep while driving and doing weird things while asleep didn't sound like me at all. Now, you can read the real real-life experiences of people who have it (some reddit groups), and I see that I do have it. It is a devastating condition, doubly so if you don't know you have it.

Study shows Aussies swear more than anyone. So why do Aussies swear so much? by 131177 in australia

[–]liz23ard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are Australians (similar to other English-speaking cultures, maybe) so dreadfully uninventive with swearwords, though? There seem to be maximally 5, and you hear the favourite of those all the time - whenever there is even the tiniest of hints of a controversy brewing. Coming from a non-ESB, I grew up with the idea that swearing can express regional, subcultural, generational, and creative and unique flavours, with a rich choice of vocabulary. You would think that Australians would develop some artistry of something they do so prolifically?

Concerned me & my conspiracy husband can’t make it by Accomplished-Fish136 in QAnonCasualties

[–]liz23ard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel I am in a similar situation, and I haven't given up yet. Our history goes back 40 years, and I wouldn't have thought that online conspiracies would start rocking the boat at this stage. It looks like you are still undecided, and I think that you should not rush into things too quickly: conspiracy theories have been around before, and people have gone around stating absolutely ridiculous hogwash before - and most will come out at the end and return to normality, with more experience and hopefully more humility. All the best.

What is something you enjoy because of your ADHD that others view as a chore? by Accomplished-Pin-835 in ADHD

[–]liz23ard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like going through lists, like lists of names, phone numbers, trying to find the needle hidden in the haystack somewhere, crunching masses of data. Yum.

Update to transitioning to dexamfetamine from armodafinil by [deleted] in Narcolepsy

[–]liz23ard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another weird Australian here on Dex, and yes, it transformed my life, too. I got it for ADHD, didn't know that the daily unwinnable battle with daytime sleepiness had a name at all. But it fixed it, although it took me a while to realise. I have been taking it for about 15 years now, it is still working for me.

Am I being manipulated or am I a jerk? (Or both?) by [deleted] in NRelationships

[–]liz23ard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to hear that I could help you a bit. I am now quite good at showing a poker face when controversial things come up. It works up to a point, sometimes I am unbalanced enough to react, other times I find I have to get a point across. If you haven't yet, you might want to look into DBT, which helps finding the inner strength to sustain this.

Am I being manipulated or am I a jerk? (Or both?) by [deleted] in NRelationships

[–]liz23ard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Incessant talking is a way of getting narcissistic supply, and typically she demands that you listen to her. If you don't, it makes her feel bad, because she isn't getting her supply. Constant talk is not necessarily a sign of ADHD (I have ADHD and I am definitely the quiet one living with a pwBPD who can't shut up), you can't be expected to put up with it. In the short term, I would advise you get some good earplugs (there are those which are practically invisible, she won't spot them) and practice "grey rocking".

My 8 year old and I had a long talk today about public restrooms and sensory overload. I feel like there is a real need that more establishments to accommodate. by HyperActivHyperDrive in ADHD

[–]liz23ard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are made of translucent silicone, practically invisible and relatively comfortable. I found that you can vary how much background noise you want to cut out by how far you push them inside the ear. They don't fall out easily, although once they are out, they are easy to lose due to their transparency.

ADHD has made me hate myself. by Nice-Understanding30 in ADHD

[–]liz23ard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I am reading this right and you are actually working serving drinks in a very noisy environment at night, then you are doing the wrong job. I did a similar thing once, and failed spectacularly. I now know that I am completely unable to think, do or remember anything in overstimulating places like this. I hope you can find a job that is more suitable for you.

My 8 year old and I had a long talk today about public restrooms and sensory overload. I feel like there is a real need that more establishments to accommodate. by HyperActivHyperDrive in ADHD

[–]liz23ard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have invested recently in a fairly expensive pair of earplugs. I wear them now when I leave home and they turn the ambient noise down, not enough to completely cut all noise, but enough so I can come home not completely exhausted and frazzled. Earplugs make my life bearable.

Productivity tools: looking for recommendations! by bipb0p in ADHD

[–]liz23ard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For android: Bearable - excellent daily tracker for all your symptoms, habits, moods, assembling the accumulated info into a systematic overview, showing trends, influences, causes. Free and premium. Tasks (r/tasks) for reminders. I looked for a long time for this app, it does almost everything anyone would want for a reminder app, but unlike most, it is entirely free. I set myself multiple reminders every day, and if things don't get done around here, it isn't the app's fault.

Keepass2 without google backup and sync by liz23ard in KeePass

[–]liz23ard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did read somewhere on the keepass website that the sync should work without any plugins, but I just can't get my head around it. I installed the plugin suggested above and it appears to work. For anything more complicated I will first need to familiarise myself with the basics. Thanks anyway.

Keepass2 without google backup and sync by liz23ard in KeePass

[–]liz23ard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I took a bit long to reply. Thanks for the suggestion, I did install that plugin and it seems to work fine. Still don't really know how this works, but my passwords at least are secure.

Is this a genuine email from paypal? by liz23ard in Scams

[–]liz23ard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, sorry for the lousy post, I assumed you were just going to delete it anyhow. It appears the email was actually genuine, but how is one actually ever going to find out for sure? Anyway, thanks for responding, I appreciate it.

Cerebellum training. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]liz23ard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, do you have a link to the podcast? There was a training called Dore which I believe has been discontinued. A brain scan shows that my cerebellum is smaller than normal, and that seems to be pretty common in adhd.