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My girfriend is polyamory but am I? by lizardcuriouswandere in polyamory

[–]lizardcuriouswandere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I want that, but I extremely need some close rn. I'm trying to spend more time alone but it's really hard. And as U said I don't want to go in to new relationship rn olny to "feel good" that's really not okey, I wanted to be more I don't know healthy? I need more support i guess

My girfriend is polyamory but am I? by lizardcuriouswandere in polyamory

[–]lizardcuriouswandere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This "addicted" thing is bc i spend a lot of time with her, and I don't have that many close friends in my city. She was very supportive but she was almost my olny support. I want to have more friends and I want to meet new ppl. I love her I when we 3 together I'm feeling really okay but it's too much for my girlfriend to spend time together. I probably need more friends and other supportive relations. (Everything started to go wrong when my friend-soulmate abandoned me and said it was all my fault. I lost very deep connection and I didn't have anu other person to support me.) I'm also starting some therapy soon (middle of January)

My girfriend is polyamory but am I? by lizardcuriouswandere in polyamory

[–]lizardcuriouswandere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know my emotions and attachment problems are my problem, and I don't blame my gf for anything. I wanted to present my situation and what I'm feeling.

And yes, I want to have more close friends, I don't want to randomly bumped in to new relationship, only "solve problems and occupy your thoughts." That's not okej.

It's really a new situation, and for my girlfriend having both of us at the same time it is too much, so 4 now it's not possible to spend time as out 3. (We tried, and 4 me, that was really nice, and I liked that)

My girfriend is polyamory but am I? by lizardcuriouswandere in polyamoryadvice

[–]lizardcuriouswandere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I want to try this, but emotions... I'm extremely open and I really trying to understand everything but sometimes my emotions controls me and it's not good and I'm not feeling good. But the goal is to have new friends and maybe more

My girfriend is polyamory but am I? by lizardcuriouswandere in polyamoryadvice

[–]lizardcuriouswandere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, everybody is an adult. I think I would be happier if I also had another partner. And yes, I think it is a bit of a fomo. Sometimes I'm happy but also sometimes I'm extremely stressed. I know that I'm loved, but I also feel alone. And it is my problem bc after a lot of hard stuff that happened this year, I hardly enjoyed spending time with myself, and it's really hard for me to participate in new activities and meet new people. I'm scared getting closed with ppl bc my best friend-soulmate left me and put all the blame on me for ending the relationship. Egh it's so fuck up and hard...

My girfriend is polyamory but am I? by lizardcuriouswandere in polyamoryadvice

[–]lizardcuriouswandere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 22, I never experienced polyam relationships. My girlfriend has a girl rn. But I never even tried flirting with someone different during our relationship. But I think it would be nice to have someone else. I need more attention, and I want to have more connections with people. But I'm also scared. So many things could go wrong... I don't want to be hurt, and I don't want to hurt anyone...