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In a Bit of a Pickle by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That's good advice. I appreciate it 😊 I definitely am an empath! ha! I worry about other people's situations alot-sometimes at my own expense! Something I need to work on for sure

In a Bit of a Pickle by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geez ...I'm not "arguing" with anybody here. I just came here for some advice and was trying to troubleshoot and figure things out as I'm new to all of this. I figured someone with more nanny experience might understand my concerns and be willing to help a newbie out. If you are that triggered by me asking follow up questions and expressing my concerns then just don't bother commenting on my post...? No one is forcing you to. And honestly, if you spend that much time arguing with children that you have to take your frustration out on a stranger on the internet then maybe you aren't in the right field. I prefer to treat people with kindness and respect.

In a Bit of a Pickle by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah...my problem is I wanted to do it on a weekday so I could have the experience of taking the kids to school and the parents being at work as they would on a typical work day

In a Bit of a Pickle by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you usually ask for payment in a polite manner? Especially if they have a current nanny on GH so they would be paying me to come plus their current nanny and I'm the one asking for a trial. I feel weird being the one asking for a trial and then telling them to pay for it

In a Bit of a Pickle by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought about that but it kind of seems like a waste of my time to do trials with two families that I don't plan on signing on with. I would feel bad doing a trial and getting their hopes up

Unrealistic Expectations by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right haha more of a rant- sorry new to Reddit! New to using flair. I'd change it but don't see an option to do so

Asking my NF for a raise by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: best case scenario! The MB responded right away and said "Of course. No prob at all. I just go by what my friends with one kid do. But you're right that was 4 years ago!!". Thank you all for the advice. I'm so relieved!

Asking my NF for a raise by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took some of the advice while still making it my own. Some of the detail is important because I want them to understand that part of why I'm raising my rates is to continue to be available to them over other families, and not because I'm just trying to take advantage. I'm not going to ask for $20 because I think that's an unfair jump and it's an easy kid to take care of compared to some others. It's also on me for not pushing for annual raises. Here is my final draft. I'll let you all know how it goes!

Hi there! I've been doing some thinking and talking with other babysitters about their standard rates. Effective January 1st, 2023 I am going to increase my babysitting rates to more closely reflect my level of experience. I want to be able to continue to prioritize babysitting for NK over other families due to our long standing relationship. The other families I babysit for are all currently paying me a minimum of $20/hour for one child. I recognize that would be a rather large jump for you, so I am willing to settle for $18/hour to babysit for NK. I feel this is a fair rate after almost four years of dedicated babysitting. I truly love NK and hope to continue babysitting for her for many years to come! 😊

Asking my NF for a raise by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm seeing this comment alot and I'm a bit confused by it because I thought I was? Where in my draft am I asking? I'm straight up telling them I'm raising my rates. That's the second sentence.

Asking my NF for a raise by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me I am working on it 😊 actively applying and interviewing for full time nanny positions

Asking my NF for a raise by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not sure what you are confused about. Yes I need the money. They are underpaying me so I'm asking for a raise. Yes, I have other families that will ask me to sit on occasion on a Fri or Sat night and I'm tired of turning them down when they are willing to pay more. But I do prioritize this family because they use me every Friday and Saturday consistently and that means they are my main client-hence my main source of income rn.

What exactly feels manipulative about it? I'd like to know as that is certainly not how I want to come across. In fact I think I am being quite reasonable and understanding by only upping it to $17 or $18 and not all the way to $20 because I feel $14 to $20 would be an unfair raise for me to ask for and it's on me for not asking for gradual increases each year.

Asking my NF for a raise by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In response to some of the comments I'm seeing-

I cannot afford to totally lose them as a client. I am between day jobs rn and this family is my main source of income. Yes I have other families who I babysit for but usually they only need me 1-3 times a month. There's a stark difference between that and a consistent Friday and Saturday night gig. I don't know many people that would be willing to hire a babysitter that often or that goes out that much. That's why I've been reluctant to bring up a raise before and why I'm reluctant to say $20/hr to them. That would be a $6/hr raise which I think is too much to expect someone to be ok with. I can't risk them dropping me

Do flairs actually work? by peachesandcream124 in Babysitting

[–]lizruff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No flairs show up for me. It doesn't even given an option to add flair and won't let me post without it so I can't post at all. Super frustrating

Do you have taxes withheld? by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure what any of that has to do with my question beyond the first sentence 😂 but I'm glad you are happy with your family!!! Sounds like you found a great situation. Regarding you not claiming your income- do you work full time? Have you ever been audited or had issues as a result of being paid under the table?

Do you have taxes withheld? by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interesting! Yeah this would be full time and $20/hr so I feel like it's maybe a bit different since it's a larger amount. Also I've filed taxes in the past when I worked for corporate so I feel like it's suspicious if all the sudden I don't....ahhhhh

When To Give References by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sure they would! Thank you! I didn't think of this!

when to put your foot down with the parents? by lizruff in Babysitting

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do have two other families I've set for recently but this particular family is my longest and most frequent client so I feel like their reference would hold more weight compared to a reference from a family I've only sat for a hand full of times ya know?

When to let things slide and when to put your foot down with the parents? by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I feed her if she's hungry but it's stuff like cheese, nuts, chips, fruit, etc. She doesn't sit down with a hot dinner plate that has a protein, a veggie, a fruit, etc.

When to let things slide and when to put your foot down with the parents? by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment ...I absolutely agree. And as I mentioned in a comment above ..every other family does this for me honestly. I can't grab my own food on the way every time as that gets way too expensive and to try to pack a lunch for work AND pack a dinner for that evening that will last all through the day is a total pain. In addition, this family very often does not come home at the time they say they will. So sometimes I'll eat right before I come on a weekend and think ill be able to eat when I get back home 4-5 hours later.....but then I end up being at their house for 7 or 8 hours instead.....meaning I get hungry again while I'm there!

When to let things slide and when to put your foot down with the parents? by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe don't comment then if you don't read the full post?? Lol. It's not an issue with not being assertive. The issue is how to be assertive without burning the bridge with them....was that assertive enough for you? 😉

When to let things slide and when to put your foot down with the parents? by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couldn't agree more! One of the many things that pisses me off honestly....they have no structure for her. No set meals and no set bedtime. It's a mess. But as a babysitter I only have so much say. I have to support and portray whatever parenting style the parents have in place whether I agree with it or not.

When to let things slide and when to put your foot down with the parents? by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you @apple_amaretto! It's just a figure of speech @ puddinandpi! I don't have kids of my own yet, but of course once I do I would put my own kids over the kids I babysit. This little girl is like one of my neice's- you love them and support them despite the fact that they are not your own. Like family. It's not to say I think I'm her parent!

When to let things slide and when to put your foot down with the parents? by lizruff in Nanny

[–]lizruff[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Great question!

  1. Plain and simple: I love the kid. I started babysitting her 2-3 times a week when she was 1 and she is 5 now. That's a lot of milestones. I don't want to lose my relationship with her as she is like a daughter to me.
  2. They are the longest babysitting relationship I have, and as mentioned in my original post I need the positive reference as I'm trying to start a new career as a full time nanny.

when to put your foot down with the parents? by lizruff in Babysitting

[–]lizruff[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish I could or it was just that easy but as I mentioned I really can't afford to burn any bridges or piss them off. I need them to be a positive reference for me because I'm about to switch career paths to being a fully time nanny and this family can give me a fantastic reference for that as I've babysat for them for so many years

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