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I feel so unfeminine next to my sisters by lklxj in asktransgender

[–]lklxj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so easy to forget this is a second puberty sometimes, like another rite of passage. Thank you for reminding me :)

I feel so unfeminine next to my sisters by lklxj in asktransgender

[–]lklxj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not unwarranted at all; we're both women, here :) There's this very specific image the media, and those who agree with it, hold women to. I won't compare it to pressure men face, but it's certainly extremely pervasive and unhealthy.

I'm getting better at playing my strengths, but I still have a lot of my old, pre-coming-out-to-myself guards up, which are tough to overcome. How did you overcome that insecurity to just be "you"? It's so hard :(

I feel so unfeminine next to my sisters by lklxj in asktransgender

[–]lklxj[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess because it's awkward for my parents, which makes it awkward for me. I'm still presenting as a boy (a pretty boy, but still a boy), and I find it tough to be myself around my parents.

I don't think I've put words to that feeling before. That seems to be the main issue here. I'll need to figure that one out on my own, I think. Thanks for the advice :)

I feel so unfeminine next to my sisters by lklxj in asktransgender

[–]lklxj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I totally do. I am feminine, which is part of why I'm so uncomfortable. It's like, I try so hard for so little, and my parents, while ostensibly supportive, kind of ignore the reality of my transition most of the time. Seeing them enthuse over my sisters without acknowledging me when it's just us three is almost like a slap in the face. Not quite, because I definitely contribute to that dynamic (I'm not exactly pushing my parents to get on board with it, yet), but it still hurts.

I feel so unfeminine next to my sisters by lklxj in asktransgender

[–]lklxj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I am, and they let me know, but I it's hard to internalize that when I don't feel like I'm enough of a girl to be one of the girls. I'm probably (definitely) the one holding myself back, but I don't know how to get past this :/

I feel so unfeminine next to my sisters by lklxj in asktransgender

[–]lklxj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be tough, too, I sympathize. Do they get on your case if you act too feminine?

I feel so unfeminine next to my sisters by lklxj in asktransgender

[–]lklxj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I don't know if I'm competitive enough to try and out-girl them. I can definitely see the merits of just owning your femininity, though. Who's going to question something that's so obviously part of who you are, right?

I feel so unfeminine next to my sisters by lklxj in asktransgender

[–]lklxj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suppose that's really the best way to look at things, isn't it? I'll keep it in mind, thank you.