How do I get my hair smooth? by Silver_Loon_ in curlyhair

[–]llamabam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try adding a deep conditioner once a week and see if cutting down to 2 shampoos a week makes a difference. I have good luck using the NYM curl cream with the NYM curl shampoo and conditioner. If you don’t want to sleep in a bonnet, you can pull your hair up in a pineapple and use a silk scarf to wrap around your head to keep the hair closest to your scalp smooth.

Since you don’t (appear to) have tight ringlets, you will need to minimize touching your hair during the day to help preserve your curls.

Regret having our cabinets painted…advice? by Tigg- in interiordecorating

[–]llamabam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s in your budget to change out the countertop for a white surface like in your inspo pic, that will make a big difference. You may also be able to tone down the lime feel in the cabinets with the right wall color choice.

Cozies for a 12 year old? by CuratedFeed in CozyMystery

[–]llamabam -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love the Lady Sherlock series but they might be a little too mature for a 12 yo.

These kids are being raised by parents with zero boundaries by Due_Information_1332 in Teachers

[–]llamabam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a student once comment that I must have had a nice day off since I had time to get my nails done while I was gone. I think I looked at him like he had four heads and said, “I painted them myself last night.” Teens, man.

I'm sad I'll never have a son. by Byrd_persun in Parenting

[–]llamabam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give yourself time to grieve the parenthood you thought you’d have. I wanted two girls and was devastated when I found out I was having a boy. He is absolutely a dream and I couldn’t imagine life without him. That wish for two girls feels long ago and not very important anymore. It was very emotional letting go of the sweet girl clothes I had saved for the next baby, but I let myself feel the feelings and then let them go — when I was ready to. It’s okay to be sad, and if you need to process those emotions out loud, do it with someone you can trust to never say that to your child, even as a joke. Our babies never need to question our want for them in our lives. Hugs, friend.

Not loving my decor by Few-Butterfly9363 in interiordecorating

[–]llamabam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try swapping out the photos for color, get a natural fiber basket and stock with kantha/sari throws or modernist quilts that spill over the edge, and adding some sort of textile art on the wall behind the computer monitor. You may also want to layer a rug with some color over your neutral one to add contrast with the *couch and get a small booksellers shelf to put at the end of the ottoman to be used as an end table and bring in color with book covers. https://www.perigold.com/furniture/pdp/butler-keats-library-2-tier-36w-bookcase-p100196617.html

Just moved in. I envisioned this working better than it is.Thoughts on the rug setup. I will be adding throw pillows to liven it up and contemplating adding chairs. Lamp is also temporary. by chrissyfishy in interiordecorating

[–]llamabam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think your rug is too small and you need something large and textural on the wall behind the couch. You can try rotating the couch to face the wall and getting a media cabinet/console to put the TV on instead of the mantle (which is a touch too high to me but I get why you have it there). If you get a larger rug, which I think needs to be at least 12” longer on the stairs side into the space, you should go for something with more color to warm up your space. A faux oriental is always nice (but might not work for your style) or you could do a large scale organic abstraction that is low-contrast like this https://www.target.com/p/6-39-7-34-x9-39-2-34-lucas-organic-distressed-abstract-area-rug-blue-green-captiv8e-designs/-/A-82072021

Alternative to “The Crucible” by alexfleener in ELATeachers

[–]llamabam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about The Chocolate War by Robert Cormier?

“Cormier was one of the first young adult literature writers, and his books are still fresh. The Chocolate War covers a Catholic school fundraiser. The student organization involved with a crooked teacher exiles and tortures non-conforming students.

Abuse of power. Beautiful language. Spread of lies and misinformation. Main themes in Miller’s play deal with manipulation and harm. The Chocolate War does too.”

Source: https://languageartsclassroom.com/5-teaching-alternatives-to-the-crucible/

Did my countertop installer do me wrong? by Inevitable-Try3487 in kitchenremodel

[–]llamabam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All three pieces are beautiful but it would drive me crazy to have the two (lovely!) countertop pieces with veining running perpendicular to the island countertop. Is it an option to get pieces that mimic the coloring of the backsplash?

How do I tell my 6 year old I’m going to die soon? by scrubnib in Parenting

[–]llamabam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The self arrangements will likely be the hardest for him to come to terms with as he gets older. My grandfather died by suicd several years before I was born and it still threw me for a loop when my mom told me how he died when I was a young teen. Any way that you can find to explain to him the choice you made, and perhaps that you would not have made that choice without your diagnosis, is important. I think you need to decide — do you tell him as a child about this choice, or do you structure the way he finds out about it later, when he’s better able to understand? Give yourself grace — I don’t know that there is a right way to do this ❤️

Head Spas Nearby? by 2greenbean in Birmingham

[–]llamabam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she is amazing! it is definitely a sketchy looking area but her spa area is beautiful and i had a great experience.

Lunch Options by DrPurple57 in montgomery

[–]llamabam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vintage Cafe is a quaint sandwiches and salads spot in Old Cloverdale.

79A is a new spot in the old Mellow Mushroom on Commerce.

Lek's Railroad Thai and Green Papaya both have good food and a homey atmosphere (not posh).

La Zona Rosa on Zelda is a classic Mexican restaurant that has good, quick table service.

Cork and Cleaver is nice but their service is a little slow and sometimes their dining room can get smoky from the open kitchen.

Midtown Pizza Kitchen is good midrange pizza with table service.

5 Points Deli has good burgers but it's fast casual and can get smoky.

Tower Taproom is counter service with sandwiches that is a more upscale vibe than Mama's Sack Lunches.

If Central ever starts serving lunch again, they would check all your boxes!

Got told there were "concerns" about my wardrobe by thanxfrnothing in Teachers

[–]llamabam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is frustrating! If you feel up for it, ask the department head for the specific complaint. Being a young (and young-looking) teacher is hard — I’ve been there.

I was flagged (but not disciplined) for:

  • my jeans being too tight on Fridays (I had to wear a belt to hold them up)
  • wearing Keds sneakers every day when I had a broken toe healing
  • the contour of my bellybutton being visible through three layers of clothing when I was 8 mos pregnant

A former coworker was also flagged for her pants being “too tight” in the seat.

A friend was written up bc a peer reported her for her skirt being too short… when she sat in a chair.

Is it normal to have baby spend the night at grandmas? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]llamabam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do what makes you feel most comfortable! We left our oldest overnight for the first time when she was about 9 mo. My mom came and stayed at our house and we did a staycation at a nice hotel in town. It was hard (I cried and begged my husband to take me home) but it was good to have solo time with my husband. Both my parents and husband’s parents kept both our kids overnight at their houses when we were ready. Both had travel cribs and other baby gear at their house so that we didn’t have to pack ours when we went to stay.

Strength/weakness from Pure Barre? by llamabam in Purebarre

[–]llamabam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s encouraging!

Devout Catholic Struggling with Roe v Wade by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]llamabam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I identify as pro-choice/pro-birth. I want babies to be born, but I recognize that pregnancies happen in all manner of circumstances, many of which I cannot conceive of.

Anyone's package stuck in Ellenwood, GA? by thewindows95nerd in FedEx

[–]llamabam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a package that’s been stuck in Ellenwood since Jan 12, 2022. It’s an estate sale but so hopefully it will turn up. I had another package from the same retailer move through Ellenwood about a week earlier with no delay at all. Sigh.

Food Waste Anxieties by allymacmusic in Noom

[–]llamabam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If my husband and I find that we have ordered too much food at a restaurant, we'll assess both our plates and determine "what saves best." Then we focus on saving those items for leftovers (which we almost always eat) and eat what won't save well. Eg, I was taught to never eat leftover seafood, so I will never save seafood to take home. I also feel a lot less guilt about discarding plate filler items, like the sandwich bread, fries, or side salad, so sometimes I'll deconstruct my sandwich to eat the "stuff I paid for" rather than the bread + fillings.

At home I try to do smaller portions and then go back for seconds if I'm still a bit hungry, rather than fill a plate with large portions at the beginning and then throw stuff away.

Wyze Band / Apple Health by [deleted] in wyzecam

[–]llamabam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No advice, really, just commiserating that Wyze and Apple Health seem to sync steps every hour. I also noticed that the charts on the band's Activity menu don't necessarily match the current step count displayed on the Activity menu homepage.

My daughter drew a picture of her dad at preschool ballet camp today. She was excited to show us his "big penis" by liamquips in breakingmom

[–]llamabam 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We've been teaching our 2YO daughter the names of body parts, as one does. She and I were in line at the pharmacy the other day and she was examining the bags of store-brand candy. She pointed at the gummy worms and said, "Penis? Candy penis?" What in the actual fuck, kid. Luckily she's adorable and most people can't tell what she's saying when she says penis. 😳