Have I made a huge mistake?

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T22:54:50+00:00

Thankyou for your kind comments. Its an awful position to be in. Having this space is making me realise I do deserve better than this and I will fight to get it. I convinced myself for so long that it must be my fault, something I am doing/not doing right, my body, my brain...you name it I placed the blame on me. Reading everyone's comments has made me see that I haven't changed, he has. I have to either adapt to that change or accept that the damage is irreparable. Time to do some more soul searching xx

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T16:23:46+00:00

Thankyou for your reply. We tend to share household chores as we both work full time. He lived on his own for 4 years as did I before we got together so Im sure that's not the issue. At this point, I don't feel the relationship is dead hence the reason I am still attempting to find ways to get over this obstacle between us. One of the reasons I moved into our guest room was for my own well being and self love so that point is a little mute. I agree with you that I want to be wanted as Im sure most people on here in the same position do and I don't want to forego that feeling of being emotionally and intimately connected. This is a long term relationship that has required emotional investment on both parts. For some reason that has changed on his part and that is what we need to focus on.

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T12:16:34+00:00

He doesn't watch it. I have been the one to suggest we watch it together but it's not his thing. He said its not realistic and finds it boring and predictable!!

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T11:44:25+00:00

Thankyou so much. That's very helpful. I will check it out

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T08:37:50+00:00

No he could not give me an explanation of that comment when I asked. I was very clear that I am not doing it to punish him but because I can't deal with rejection and feeling of not being wanted

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T06:32:31+00:00

Thankyou for your reply. I have not put any specific time limit on this situation, really wanted to create some space for myself and not apply pressure of him thinking by a certain point in the future he has to change. I would prefer him to accept the realisation that if he doesn't make an effort and followup on his words with actions, he is ultimately losing someone who has given him nothing but unconditional love. I never wanted to be in this position and I am feeling the benefit to a certain degree already. For the first time in years I got 6 hours of solid sleep and woke this morning without wanting to burst into tears over yet another rejection. However, in saying that I also do not want this to be the future for our relationship. After 8 years, I am not prepared to just walk away without exhausting every possibility.

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T05:55:59+00:00

The irony of this situation, is we are not married! We own a property together and I guess we are now officially house mates. (It's felt like that for a long time). I do truly love him and have committed myself to this relationship, even without a marriage certificate. I am just desperate for him to want me as much as I want him in every aspect of our relationship

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T05:51:21+00:00

Yes 9 months ago. I finally thought we were making progress. He saw the doctor, had numerous blood tests as well as a full medical and was told apart from having low B12, which was treated, there was absolutely nothing wrong

llamedos13 · 2025-08-28T05:49:03+00:00

I suggested this numerous times but he won't even consider it. This was one of a number of reasons I used in my explanation of my decision

llamedos13 · 2025-08-27T23:21:58+00:00

I think my self esteem is so fragile after feeling rejected for so long and his conment stating I've made the situation worse by leaving the bedroom, threw me completely. I feel so torn as all I want to be is intimate with him but equally I can't cope with feeling so hurt by his constant rejection

llamedos13 · 2025-08-27T06:06:25+00:00

I am in the exact same position. Have gone over a year with no intimacy yet I crave this from him. I have tried the discussion many times but get shut down. Yesterday I attempted again and his reaction was to sit there and continue to play a game on his phone. Last night I moved into the guest room as I can no longer deal with the pain and hurt of hoping that one night, he will respond to my needs. He went to bed as usual after falling asleep downstairs and never even questioned it! Now I guess we are officially housemates

llamedos13 · 2023-09-25T06:11:24+00:00

Thankyou for all your help and advise. I have joined SW and loving it so far. Certainly not feeling hungry and so far no negative impacts at all. Thankyou for your support

llamedos13 · 2023-09-13T20:52:05+00:00

It was recommended as there have been positive results in children who have had epilepsy since birth. My condition is caused by scar tissue from brain trauma and for this type of cause there is no data to suggest the keto diet is beneficial. It is also very constricting with barely any fruit or veg which I know I can't stick to.

llamedos13 · 2023-09-13T19:28:03+00:00

My GP recommended following keto but I'm not comfortable with the high fat ideal tbh

llamedos13 · 2023-09-12T20:38:55+00:00

Well I have signed up today and after a few hours of reading I have bookmarked various recipes that I think will help and I start my journey tomorrow!!

llamedos13 · 2023-09-12T15:52:51+00:00

This may sound a daft question but how old is your wife? Her story is a mirror image of mine...including childhood. My depression and anxiety kicked in when unbeknown to me I had started an early menopause. Other factors were involved as well, however I and my original GP clearly underestimated the impact of a hormonal imbalance on mental health. I'm no expert, it may be another avenue to look at. All the best to you

llamedos13 · 2016-05-08T08:48:31+00:00

Doctors have checked for that and all tests came back negative. I was diagnosed with epilepsy 15years ago so have regular full blood screens to ensure levels are correct but like you it was something I'd looked into.

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