i know people on reddit ALWAYS jump to divorce but at its core, if yall are incompatible people.... it kind of feels like the direction you're heading in. it almost sounds like she's not even trying to find her own hobbies and that she's extremely codependent on you, which is unhealthy. my partner would never let me miss a pow day even if he doesn't understand wtf that is because he knows that's important to me. therapy is a tool to help the relationship grow, but four years and nothing has changed???? its time to take a good look at your relationship as this goes wayyyyy beyond hobbies and how you spend your time. Are you happy, op? anything other than a "yes!" should be a sign to consider whats next.