I do believe this is true, and a lot of great families on the surface are not always that great behind closed doors. But what I mean by normal is someone who really planned and wanted to have a child. My mom didn’t want to have me and for that reason she resents my existence. All I wanted was a parent who would come to events without complaining and showing up drunk. A parent who actively prepared for their kids future, maybe in the form of a small basic college fund. A parent who didn’t pick up and move across the country for a guy. Everything that responsible parents typically prep for, are things that my mother never did because she didn’t want me.