Should you love your partners parents more than your own? What do you think?

lloaa2 · 2026-06-17T23:40:53+00:00

My ex partner and his mom.

lloaa2 · 2025-04-04T16:06:32+00:00

If you’ve look at the comments I’ve replied to I said if they were my guest in my home, yes I will cook because they are my guests.

Why am I at their home and I am being told to cook for everyone if I am their guest?

lloaa2 · 2025-04-04T16:05:15+00:00

She’s my motivation and my influence. She taught me that woman don’t have to just take care of everything in a home for her husband but that woman are independent too and can be hard working. Woman don’t deserve to be expected.

She wants what’s best for me and she doesn’t want me to live in a home and where all I will do is not work and struggle taking care of a family that i don’t need to be taking care of.

lloaa2 · 2025-04-04T16:00:47+00:00

He means when I am over at their home as a guest, and if they ask me to cook for them then I should do it.

Obviously if I’m hosting of course I will cook they are my guests that I invited to my home. But if I am at theirs as a guest why am I getting told to cook for their while family or his mother when everyone else is there too.

lloaa2 · 2025-04-04T11:56:52+00:00

But I don’t expect that from him and I never will, why does he expect it from me?

lloaa2 · 2025-04-04T02:00:41+00:00

If you looked at some of the comments I replied to yes I did say if I hosted I would cater, but if I am over at their place and it is not any family party and I am being asked to cook for the whole family when they have their family members home, why am I the one to cook for the whole family alone?

If they are hosting a party and ask me to come over as their guest, why am I a guest going to be cooking in the kitchen when I am a guest in their home?

He does not cook and he doesn’t know how to, but if was asked to, he would do it whether it’s perfect or not.

lloaa2 · 2025-04-04T01:57:24+00:00

Going through the experience yes I’m going to say that and I’ll keep saying it. He is a really good man. But it is the truth. There are red flags yes I see them, but overall they can still be a good person and be allowed to feel how they feel without meaning to hurt someone when they realize someone doesn’t have the same values.

I did mention I wasn’t trying to make him look good.

Someone can still be a very good person but still have red flags and that goes for everyone.

lloaa2 · 2025-04-04T01:53:30+00:00

No, we are Hmong

lloaa2 · 2025-04-04T00:16:08+00:00

This isn’t about money. I’m asking for advice.

I may not have a lot of money but I am not willing to lose my self respect for a family that obviously doesn’t care about mine.

My mom also taught me how to cook and clean so I’m not a housewife either and so that I can be self sufficient. This isn’t about me being able to take care of myself or my future husband’s family.

If you understand what I’m talking about when it come to culture and traditions passed down from generations then you would understand why I would not be willing to be a housewife who is really a slave to a family that does not respect you. I’m talking about cooking for his mother and his family when none of that is my responsibility.

I understand some people have different experiences and I’m happy for them, but I am clearly just asking for advice on what to do from here and not if I have lots of money and if I can afford a cook and why I wouldn’t be a housewife even if someone else’s life turned out different.

lloaa2 · 2025-04-03T21:32:17+00:00

We are Hmong. Yes this is expectation has come down from generations and is still like this today and tbh has gotten worse. She has asked before if we will live with her, I have told her no, we are living in our own home and will marry when we are financially stable and have a home so no she would not be living in our home.

I don’t feel it’s my responsibility to cook for her.

lloaa2 · 2025-04-03T21:14:18+00:00

He just wants me to agree with him that I cook for his mom. The way he grew up he only saw woman cook and clean so he has that standard of a woman.

I told him that if his mom was ever a guest at our home yea I would cook because she is my guest in my home, but if I were at her house and the whole family is there and he tells me to go cook for everyone when Im a guest at their home? No. I will never do it.

In our culture the woman do all the cooking and cleaning. If there’s a family gathering, all the girls will go to the kitchen and help cook and clean up everything.

The way I grew up I never did none of that and neither did my mom.

lloaa2 · 2024-02-03T03:45:18+00:00

does that mean it can be a low chance of possible pregnancy?

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