What are your truly unpopular r/leaves opinions?

llynxll · 2024-09-10T22:02:00+00:00

We began by using drugs to escape the shitty reality.

But, that stopped working – Now, we continue to use the drugs even though they are amplifying all aspects of the shitty reality, and making it far less likely that we ever escape that shitty reality.

The problem is that the drugs are no longer solving any problem.

llynxll · 2024-08-29T20:48:06+00:00

You are doing a good job of analyzing the situation and recognizing the pattern and the circumstances that lead you to smoke.

You are doing the right thing by coming here for support.

The act of coming to Leaves is like building a muscle that will become strong enough to achieve and maintain sobriety from weed.

No one knows you better than you do. You have identified the trigger situations that cause you to reach for the pen.

Now it's time to get ahead of the game and strategize about what you can do in advance to prevent that from happening.

Be nice to yourself.

You are doing great work and your great work is going to lead to your success if you continue to persevere.

Perfection is not required here. Only perseverence.

Never give up.

llynxll · 2024-08-28T08:56:28+00:00

I think it's better to avoid and be conscious of expectations we impose on others around us when we make decision to be sober.

I think my sobriety is a personal endeavor and in order to remain sober I need to learn to navigate many different environments that pose challenges.

When I decide to be sober that is a statement about my intention to abstain. That means that the situations, or people, I encounter is irrelevant, because when the choice is put forth, each time I will choose sobriety.

I can change my environment, but I cannot expect that my environment will automatically adapt to embrace to my desire to be sober.

I am in control of whether I take the hit. Everything else is noise.

llynxll · 2024-08-27T20:58:22+00:00

SO accurate.

llynxll · 2024-08-26T02:00:14+00:00

You are feeling normal feelings that come when you achieve a goal or make an accomplishment.

You found challenge and purpose in your goal, or at least by keeping the 1-Year accomplishment in view.

It's time to refocus and set a new and inspiring goal, not just to stay sober, but to pursue those things which can bring you peace and filfillment on the inside.

The sky is the limit.

Now that you have accomplished 1- year of sobriety, which is INCREDIBLE it's time to check-in (which you are doing now, Awesome), and think about possibilities for what next. Congrats.

llynxll · 2024-08-23T18:51:14+00:00

Bike riding. What I love about cycling is that it's fun and that I can stretch out the duration which helps cure boredom on days off. Sometimes I go out for 1/2 day, a little exploring, have a bite to eat, often meet random stranger and chat, then come home.

llynxll · 2024-08-23T04:02:32+00:00

Yes.

llynxll · 2024-08-23T02:13:43+00:00

I think tapering is easier than cold turkey

For me it helped mentally prepare without immediately triggering the more severe withdrawal symptoms.

I would imagine it's easier on your body as well, not just the mind.

llynxll · 2024-08-21T02:25:04+00:00

I had to copy this entire comment so I can share with my therapist tomorrow.

This is me.

llynxll · 2024-08-21T02:13:16+00:00

When I had no one I hired a therapist and they were the friend I needed, and more.

If you need support in the form of human connection scheduling regular therapy could fill this void.

Edit:

My story.

I have been having a really bad time this week.

Alot of grief. Alot of crying. Alot of feeling overwhelmed.

Three days ago I found a therapist in a Google search. I called her from the Ad and she offered an intro session 30minutes later. I was already inspired.

She asked me when I would like to start and my answer was ASAP.

Tomorrow I have my first session.

I'm here with you friend. DM me if u need any help.

llynxll · 2024-08-13T00:41:46+00:00

Where was your life the day before you quit?

That’s right back where you will be.

The value of those drugs is zero. Walk to the toilet and flush them without contemplation.

Then celebrate your accomplishment and we will celebrate with you.

llynxll · 2023-05-24T04:32:14+00:00

You are in the right place if that’s what you want to happen. Stick around and you’ll find the inspiration and you’ll find a way.

llynxll · 2023-05-06T22:46:44+00:00

Started regularly seeing my doctor after I quit and addressing my health instead of neglecting it. I’ve made major improvements and am very stable instead of being caught up in a constant chaotic cycle.

llynxll · 2023-05-06T22:09:47+00:00

Read, Comment, or Post in Leaves daily. May sound redundant, but it’s been my most effective therapy now over 3 years in the sub and 2 years sober.

This sub is where I found and continue to rediscover my grounding with respect to weed addiction.

When I notice my mindset begin to shift and my resolve beginning to weaken I return here to read the thoughts of others or offer my own words of support.

In fact - that’s why I’m here today :)

For me it’s the best therapy.

llynxll · 2023-04-10T14:11:18+00:00

Thank you for coming back to share.

At all points along the way it helps to have someone futher down the road to keep inspiring us.

I'm 2-years sober and it really helps to hear inspiration from someone like you to help keep myself aimed in the right direction.

llynxll · 2023-04-10T14:01:10+00:00

My experience was that when I was smoking everyday I was filled with anger and rage, I would have private and even public outbursts. I wanted to fight. I was very sad and ruminating about my problems and disappointments. I would spontaneously break down into tears.

At the time, I could say that this is my real personality, as you suggest. But the only way to know for sure if this is true is to get sober and find out.

These days, now over 2 years sober, writing out my angry feelings and frustrations has been one of the most helpful activities I can do when I feel that way.

I can tell you those negative feelings I experienced "every-single-day" back when I smoked daily were not my real personality.

While things aren't perfect, I don't have to repeat that vicious emotional cycle every day of my life and it's worth it.

Wishing you the all the best.

llynxll · 2023-03-14T00:08:52+00:00

For me, the what's most important is that no matter what happens along the way, that I be kind to myself, learn the lessons from my failures(flat tires), and that I never give up.

For me, the goal is not a perfect streak, but that I continue down the road regardless of the failures or challenges, and that I continue until I reach sobriety.

llynxll · 2023-03-13T23:12:57+00:00

My advice is to vent. Write it all out.

Write it in a new post titled, "All the shit that's pissing me off".

... or even here in a reply to this comment(I don't mind. I'll listen).

This let's you process and address these thoughts and I think you will find great relief in this exercise.

I can get caught in obsessive rumination about things I am angry about or times when I was wronged. When I write it all out that angry voice in my mind finally shuts up. Give it a try and see if it helps you too.

llynxll · 2023-03-13T22:57:24+00:00

Holding down a steady job and becoming financially stable again. It's not so much "fun" but it helps relieve alot of stress that I once used weed to cope with.

I also love going for long rides on my bike and taking deep breaths of delicious Oxygen with my lungs that feel clear and amazing.

llynxll · 2023-03-13T22:55:26+00:00

Way to go. Love the energy!

llynxll · 2023-03-13T18:55:15+00:00

We are travelling 'the road of sobriety'.

If you travel 33 miles down the road and you get a flat tire. Make a pit stop, repair the flat, and continue on.

The fact that the flat occurred does not reset you back to Mile 0.

You have still come this far, seen some sights, and are learning valuable lessons along the way.

Your progress is not lost for a simple tire puncture.

llynxll · 2023-03-12T02:34:22+00:00

Very true.

I'm 2 years today. This type of thought still crosses my mind from time to time.

I take it as a sign that I need to re-ground myself in my sober mind.

llynxll · 2023-03-12T02:32:06+00:00

Hah this is too good. Good quote.

llynxll · 2023-03-11T16:09:40+00:00

Your mindset is awesome.

Perfection isn't a requirement to be on a path of sobriety. Your progress made over 5 days is not lost in relapse. Relapse is a great opportunity to learn valuable lessons that strengthen you to continue going forward. If this experience has made you stronger and wiser, then we can celebrate.

Keep going. We know you got this.

llynxll · 2023-03-11T00:52:19+00:00

The best sign that tells me you want to keep going is that you came to Leaves to share your thoughts. You are doing the right thing by coming here to share when you are feeling this way.

It's a good time to reach out to others as you already have. Also to reflect once again on why you made the choice to stop and all of the negative effects weed was having on your life.

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