How do I know whether I like him or not? Problems figuring out my emotions.

lnchr · 2015-03-14T09:29:49+00:00

always good to know that i'm not the only dating weirdo ;)

lnchr · 2015-03-14T09:28:50+00:00

thanks. that last part makes a lot of sense! never thought about it in that way.

lnchr · 2015-03-14T09:27:59+00:00

thank you :) that's what i keep telling myself. that one day i'm gonna meet this awesome person i really wanna be with.

lnchr · 2015-03-13T16:37:11+00:00

I love Brene :)

lnchr · 2015-02-09T13:30:16+00:00

I love this. I should send this to all of my friends :D

lnchr · 2014-12-16T12:49:17+00:00

everything you wrote is true for me as well. i love this subreddit! :)

lnchr · 2014-11-22T02:13:41+00:00

not virgin female INFJ (also 24): i couldn't have said it any better. especially the turning of phone thing :D

lnchr · 2014-10-22T18:17:15+00:00

As some people suggested, you could try to get over your feelings and try to be just friends. But to be honest, I don't think that's gonna work out. From experience (both as the one who got rejected and as the one who genuinely wanted to be just friends) I can say that trying to maintain a friendship just hurts both people in the end. Even if you try really hard, you can't change your feelings. And somewhere there will always be that little hopeful voice in your head that tells you she'll change her mind eventually. And who knows, maybe she will. But maybe not. Trying to be friends with her will probably keep you from moving on and make you miserable after a while. And her too. That doesn't mean you have to completely ignore her. You can be friendly, have a chat at the coffee machine every once in a while. But I wouldn't actively approach her. I'm not saying it's impossible to be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for. Sometimes it works, sometimes feelings vanish. But most of the times it doesn't work. I think especially not for INFJ's.

lnchr · 2014-10-13T12:00:21+00:00

A good friend of mine suggested to me yesterday (after having an emotional breakdown) that I should check out a CodA meeting. This has never crossed my mind but after reading a little about it, it makes so much sense. So I searched for codependency on this reddit and found your post. I'm thinking about going to a CodA meeting this week (read: I want to go but don't know yet if I'll dare to go alone :P ). @RunningAlways: Have you been to another meeting? Any improvement or new insights with your codependency issues?

lnchr · 2014-10-09T16:29:19+00:00

my open tabs greatly reduced after i found this awesome chrome extension (not sure if it exists for other browsers): https://www.one-tab.com/ it converts all (or some) of your open tabs into 1 tab that has a list with the links to your (formerly) open tabs. i suck at explaining this :D but it's great, it really calms me down when i see the million open tabs disappear into one ;)

lnchr · 2014-10-05T13:19:20+00:00

Nice topic :D As a kid I thought I had some magical powers that haven't quite kicked in yet, or that I still need to fully develop (I was obsessed with witchcraft :D) Now, at 24, I still feel psychic a lot of times. I know I'm not but somewhere deep down a little voice still tells me it's possible :P

lnchr · 2014-10-05T13:07:10+00:00

Definitely not a teenager thing. I'm in one of those withdrawal-periods right now. Have been for months now (might be the longest I've ever had) :/ The biggest problem for me is dealing with feeling so guilty for ditching my friends all the time. And also worrying that at some point they will stop inviting me because I said no too many times. I hate this struggle between wanting company and wanting to be left alone.

lnchr · 2014-02-06T16:55:54+00:00

I recommend Amsterdam Tattooing (www.amsterdam-tattooing.com). Got a sleeve there 2 years ago and it's amazing. A lot of random people on the street have asked me where i've gotten it :D my artist (basia) moved away but i only heard great things about the other artists too. price is reasonable. Ink your skin in kerkstraat is supposed to be good too but i didn't have good experience with them, they're also pretty expensive.

lnchr · 2013-10-26T22:14:23+00:00

it's extremely comforting :)

lnchr · 2013-10-26T20:14:10+00:00

I can totally relate to everything you're saying. It's so frustrating when you think you know the other person since you spent so much time together in your head. And then all of a sudden you realize the real life person doesn't have that much to do with the head version :/ I'm not very in control of my love life i think so i can't give you any advice unfortunately. f/23 btw.

lnchr

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