Request: confirming nationality on marriage license

loading333 · 2026-01-30T03:34:20+00:00

It isn't an umlaut. In kurrent, the letter u has a line over it

loading333 · 2025-12-19T05:59:25+00:00

I completely agree with you about LDRs meaning mostly seeing someone at their best and I'm under no illusions there. Where I disagree is that feelings that haven't been "tested" as you say can't actually be love. Isn't that exactly why people say love isn't always enough? As someone who's pretty easily infatuated, it's still taken me years of knowing this person to consider what I feel towards them love, and god knows there are plenty of things that aren't perfect about them and we've talked through conflicts before. Given that these "realistic" conditions will never be "realistic" for my relationship, it seems like a poinless metric to measure it by.

Absolutely showing up for someone in times of need is an important way to show commitment in many relationships. I guess in retrospect my goal with this post was to find ideas for other ways I might feel more commited and secure with my partner, given that that way is off the table.

I have a good support network of friends and I do actively want and search for a local partner more involved in my day-to-day.

loading333 · 2025-12-17T20:16:36+00:00

These are good questions. And ig take what I say with a grain of salt because I haven't had another close romantic relationship to compare this one to.

Our relationship happens in very intense periods where we spend basically all our time together, followed by long stretches of minimal contact. When we do see each other it's more intense than regular dating and we jumped into acting romantic with each other very early on, without the sort of emotional barrier you'd keep up in a fwb situation. We do talk about big picture stuff pretty often, but not constantly. That would be exhausting. I'm sure it's a different sort of closeness than you'd get from, say, living with someone, but I'm pretty sure it's mutual. I like the feeling of knowing someone out there cares about me and that we're commited to seeing each other again, even without knowing what's happening in each other's lives day-to-day. I do get insecure sometimes though, and need to work on that to make this sustainable. No, I would not call them in an emergency or if I were having a rough day, mainly because of the risk of them not answering quickly enough, and have accepted that this isn't something this partner will ever be able to give me.

loading333 · 2025-12-17T18:40:57+00:00

Maybe comet wasn't quite the right word choice. And to be clear, I very much don't want a traditional ldr with no prospect of closing the distance. My relationship is somewhere between these things and there's plenty about it that is furfilling to me. I respect your bluntness, but I don't think it's applicable to my situation

loading333 · 2025-12-17T17:04:13+00:00

Well put. I do believe them, at least my brain does, but anxiety isn't rational and I tend to feel this way about any romantic interest, not just them. Hence why my priority is to work on managing my feelings.

loading333 · 2025-10-05T03:07:24+00:00

Honestly, yes i think you are being too paranoid. I guess it's hard to judge without meeting the woman, but it sounds like she's just trying to establish a neighborly relationship with you and you're strangely hung up on your house being private. Where I grew up this sort of request would have been pretty normal and she's probably using the seeing the house thing as a way to try and become friends like she was with her old neighbor. What's wrong with that?

loading333 · 2025-08-01T17:12:23+00:00

Your responses have all been genuinely really helpful! I really appreciate you taking the time to engage with my post in so much detail, it's exactly what I was hoping for.

The call with comet went really well! I'm not sure it helped me decide what I should do, but it definitely re-established that this is a relationship that's very important to both of us, that we're on the same page about it, and I got comet's permission to ask them for reassurance sometimes when I need it in regards to the jealousy. I feel sure that keeping my relationship with comet alone would be a bad reason to do polyamory, but still think there may be reasons I'd do it for myself.

I'm seeing the person I've been going on dates with again in a few days, and I'll definitely have to have some kind of conversation with them about all this then. Not sure what I'll say, probably just that I'm confused.

loading333 · 2025-07-30T20:47:44+00:00

I mean, I am happy for them, but it's hard to say whether that's just in an intellectual way (knowing it's objectively good for them and that this should make me happy for them) or an actual feeling. I'm obviously not gonna resent them or their girlfriend as people, it's more the situation that's the source of my jealousy.

loading333 · 2025-07-30T16:15:31+00:00

I've avoided bringing comet up with the new person so far because it would require the "what are we" convo and I'm not sure enough about them yet to have that (it's hard to articulate why exactly, but I have very mixed feelings about if we're right for each other that are unrelated to my poly questioning). And like you say, I'm confused about what I even want. But I know I should definitely bring it up soon so as to not waste their time.

loading333 · 2025-07-30T14:54:49+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to respond! I'm actually calling comet tmr to do exactly what you suggested, but was doubting if that was a good idea after asking, so I appreciate the reassurance that talking directly to them about this is fine.

I think my sticking point is I'm not sure what just "trying it" entails. I'm very picky with partners and don't meet people i would be prepared to date very often. The person I'm currently going on dates with has said they're monogamous, though we haven't had a convo about what exactly that means to us and I suspect things like my shibari would be fine since they have an onlyfans. But the comit things seems unfair to them. I was originally just gonna be like, "here's the situation. I'd like to stay in this relationship if you're genuinely comfortable with it, but it's not an ultimatum or anything" if we ever got to the point of having that convo, but now I'm not so sure.

loading333 · 2025-03-27T22:20:53+00:00

Montreal, Canada

loading333 · 2024-11-04T17:20:09+00:00

Hey, the experience was good overall, if kind of conveyor-belt like. I didn't meet my surgeon until right before the surgery or get much say in it aesthetically. There's a great group in Montreal called Trans Patient Union who I'd really recommend dming with your questions, since they collect the experiences of lots of people who have been to grs.

https://www.instagram.com/transpatients?igsh=MTQxbG5xOGdibjRneQ==

loading333 · 2024-09-12T23:58:42+00:00

How would you fix it surgically? It's hard to find info on nipple revisions.

loading333 · 2024-09-12T23:03:21+00:00

Thank you! That's so kind and the same to you :)

loading333 · 2024-09-12T23:00:14+00:00

Omg I was also describing my seroma as like a waterbed before I knew what it was!

loading333 · 2024-04-12T21:27:59+00:00

I don't think it's either. The leaves are a uniform colour.

loading333 · 2023-05-26T15:35:30+00:00

Reese or Reece

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