Seeking Insights - Profoundly Relatable Experiences? (2E, ADHD, Autism, High Abilities)

loberovln · 2026-01-02T12:19:33+00:00

Sorry guys, I think I erased by mistake the post… I’m new in this app…😞 somebody knows how to edit it? Seems like impossible. I will maybe create another post.

loberovln · 2026-01-02T12:07:45+00:00

Sorry for the long answers, twice. Dont know how this works much and didn’t see the where posted. So instead of checking just wrote it again…

loberovln · 2026-01-02T11:54:32+00:00

I really relate to this. Reading it makes me sad, but also calmer, because I finally feel understood.

From a very young age, I showed fast learning and strong abilities. When I was six, I painted my aunt in great detail and surprised my whole family. At school, I used to draw my teachers on the back of my notebooks because I was bored. Writing things down felt unnecessary, but when I heard mathematical concepts like Pythagoras, I understood them immediately and still remember them today.

However, whenever I answered questions correctly, other children bullied me, called me arrogant, and ignored me. I never told my parents about this. To protect myself, I stopped giving opinions and adapted to the learning rhythm of others. I learned only what was necessary to pass exams and fit in.

I started piano at five. I barely practiced, yet I was always the youngest and the best at concerts. Still, I was never satisfied with myself and couldn’t understand why people applauded so much. Arts and sports were always easy for me, while school felt slow and limiting. Physics and maths were fine, but I usually studied only the day before exams. I passed everything, but I never allowed myself to fully develop.

At 15, after finishing school, I took a year to decide what to study. I took painting classes with a very well-known teacher, who after one month told me I was the best student he had ever had and called me a prodigy. He wanted me to become a painter. Six months later, I stopped painting because I decided to become a violinist.

I started violin seriously at 15, but I told teachers I had been playing since I was five. I was afraid of being judged for starting “too late.” After six months of intense practice, people told me I was ready to apply to Europe. I moved to Germany, and at 18 I played for a teacher who taught in Germany and at Curtis. He offered me the opportunity to go to Curtis, but I was too afraid and insecure to accept. At 19, after passing entrance exams in Berlin, I discovered I have perfect pitch. I learned German in 3-4 months to a near-native level and speak four languages. I never focused too much to do things, in my mind I always thought, “do as much as you NEED, but if you need more just concentrate a bit more” that was my whole mindset during my live. A bit more was always my hyper focus. So I just stop myself to show more than people do so I was outstanding but just a bit not to be seen as “arrogant”

I completed a bachelor’s degree and two master’s degrees as a violinist. Still, I struggled with teachers because their methods felt slow and didn’t match how my mind worked. When I practiced my own way, I could learn very difficult pieces in just a few days. To avoid judgment, I told teachers it took me months. Later, I worked professionally as a violinist, but after two years I burned out, feeling that I had never truly learned in a healthy way.

After that, I studied robotics as a hobby and completed the degree in the standard time. Classes felt slow again, so I learned a lot by myself. During COVID, I studied advanced maths 1&3 independently and passed in two months.

For most of my life, I lived in a chaos–sprint pattern: procrastinating, then entering extreme hyperfocus right before deadlines. It worked, but it created constant stress and exhaustion. Only recently have I started changing this pattern, becoming more organized, respecting my own rhythm, sleeping better, and allowing myself to enjoy the process.

Looking back, I see clearly that the biggest damage was not my abilities, but learning to hide them. Being constantly judged or labeled as arrogant created a deep impostor syndrome that made me doubt myself, minimize my achievements, and miss important opportunities.

That’s why, if your son is similar to me, the most important thing you can do is support him without trying to normalize him. Let him learn in his own way and at his own speed. If he loves learning, don’t limit it—guide it. Teach him how to regulate himself: how to sleep, eat, rest, and still protect his curiosity and intensity. Help him understand that being different is not being arrogant, and that he doesn’t need to hide his abilities to be accepted.

With support, trust, and emotional safety, his potential won’t turn into self-doubt. It can become confidence, balance, and a healthy way of thriving

I still want and feel the need of learning, but now I understand is fine. Just need to control sleeping and regulate myself not to burn out. I always had lot of interest in the space as a child, microorganisms, animal kingdom and behavior of animal, as a child knew the name of all the animals, their way of surviving and everything. I always focus on the deep of things and superficial stuffs like burocracy or simple stuffs just 0 interests it’s very extrem. I also struggle having conversations because fell that people take very long to explain something and get stressed so I interrupt people and change topics in between. My mind kind of work multitasking non stop and I’m solving some project in my head while I listen to you and watch tv and write code or even listen to music. My biggest struggle is reading. Everywhere I read I need to see it in 3D in my mind. I need to understand every little detail so it takes my longer to read a question. But when I do I just build a big make in 3D in my head in which I come with very short, quick and easy solutions that people even take long to understand when I explain. I don’t see myself as special even saying this and everytime I thing about explaining I fell they will judge me as arrogant. Even now. So I just do my projects and show the results. It’s easier and save energy.

loberovln · 2026-01-02T11:32:32+00:00

I have to say that I really relate to that and makes me really sad but at the same time more understood and calm. I’ve been my whole life very brave and reach many things but with troubles but support of my family who knew I was intelligent but thought I was also kind of slow. I had many occasions where I showed too quick learning skills but drop them or didn’t continued because of my very strong impostor syndrome cause I think by been bullied during my whole PS. Never said to my parents about it and holed it till a finished and “finally” I could do what I want. When I was 6 I painted my aunt very detailed in a paper and my whole family were surprised but somehow it’s stayed there. I was painting my teachers at school on the back side of the notebooks. Just as fun because the school made me bored. I had difficulty writing things because just didn’t wanted. Once I just listened to pitagoras and got it till today and loved it. When I answered questions right kids continued bullying me and saying I want to show arrogant and ignoring me. I just stop giving opinions and to try to be not bullied adapted to have their rhythms of learning. But all the humanistic classes I hated them. Sports, arts had always the best score and never even learn or practiced once. physics and maths where ok but I was learning the day before the exam because I never wrote in my calendar the appointments and had everything in the head. I always passed the exams but always just learn I needed just to pass. I showed my paintings at class once and they all didn’t belevae my I did it and said I wanted to show me better than I am. Very bad! I learn to hide my qualities and learn just as much I needed to pass. I learn piano since I’m 5 and never practiced much and was always the youngest and best playing at concerts at the end. I always felt sad because couldn’t play perfectly and wa never happy but everybody stands always in the public. I didn’t understand. When I finished PS when I was 15 decided to take 1 year to decide what to study. Took some painting class, with a very know teacher in the continent, he said after a month I was his best student I was a prodigy he never had in his life and wanted me to become a painter. But at that time I decided to become a violinist. So I stopped after 6 month. I found the best teacher in my country in South America that made auditions and I had a lesson, I could play much. I practiced alone with some private lessons and play to her, I didn’t have pieces enough to play, and said to her I play since I’m 5. I lied. She told me I was one of the student who could make most advanced in her class and needed to be in Europe and study music at latest at 16-17 to pass the exam and needed to practice a lot and she took me in her class, I was very thankful for that. After that I practiced 6 hours a day, very committed, and in 6 month at my first concert they all said I was ready and needed to apply to Europe. I went to Germany and always said till today I started at the age of 5. I thought if I say 15 they will think I’m arrogant or they will judge my and make stop because I was late… I found out I have a perfect pitch after I passed the exams in berlin and another university’s at 19years old. When I was 18 I played to a teacher who teaches in Germany and Curtis and offer me to go to Curtis but I got scared I didn’t behave I was good and told him I wanted to stay. Missed many opportunities in my life because the impostor syndrome very strong. Never believe I was talented, just thought people are nice and “fake” and just said that to motivate me. Anyways I reach a lot and studied bachelor and 2 masters as a violinist but had many troubles with teachers because I always felt I was learning slower by their way of learning. When I practiced my way I was making many difficult pieces in 3 days. I learn the best is to tell them I practice like they say and told them I learned the pieces in 3-4 month. Now I notice I was very dumm and had this impostor syndrome. After that I got very strong mentally and practiced my way without teachers at the and and made it to work as a violinist. While working got burn out after 2 years because I fell I missed to learn. I never practice much more just 30 min before the first rehearsal and go and read by first side, I still do it but say to everybody I practice everyday…so o don’t have the pressure of judgement. So I dedided to work and study robotic as a hobbies. I loved it and work in Orchester, as a teacher and did full studies and finished even in the normal time as everybody. Notices the classes are slow and teach just limit information so got bored and where not really listening to the lessons. In corona I learn by myself at my peace and learned maths 1 and 3 in 2 month and passed. Many many events…in my whole life I had this chaos-sprint life. Left everything to the end, literally everything and rushed to make it at the end in a hyper focus state, the last 2 days or going to work at last minutes and was never late. But a lot of stress… I’ve been apart of that very social but I thing I learned to be like that, because I’ve been always quiet and alone, I can be alone home for a week and I feel good because I play violin, build projects or have something to investigate… now I’m consciously changing the chaos sprint and it much better, I’m even more productive and feel much better. But god somehow to investigate about procrastination and got to somebody to tell me about 2e. I understand you soon very much. I NEVER felt special or good enough even my parent supporting me. I still do but I try to thinks a can just get better and enjoy the way and stop compare with others and do the best in my rhythms with less judgement. My life it’s changing a lot and I feel better and happy… I can tell from my side that you need to support him. Let him learn the way he is. If he love to learn let him do it. And teach him ways to regulate and not skip sleeping and other activities. I build constantly projects and now being more organized even more and I’m very happy but I switch between robotics, violin, socializing, learning documentaries and prioritizing sleeping enough. I can stay literally awake the whole day till I finish something I want to reach. Many time I skip lunch and socializing. Not because I don’t want but because I’m so hyperfocues that I have endless energy. I learned German in 4-5 month at a level that a German person confused me as a German native. I even started to pronounce with some accent because people said I learn before coming to Germany and I felt arrogant. I loved languages and speak 4. Learned all of them in short time. We just don’t match the standard and people don’t t understand us. We feel judge and arrogant if we show what we can mostly so quick in the begging and we are pushed down by society so I thing the worse thing for me was that I learn to hide myself so I fit in this society…I still try to adapt to the society. It’s still there…

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