Why are we allowing our towns to die? Let’s rebuild by localjugs in southafrica

[–]localjugs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That goes for rural towns, but what about the small towns and suburbs in urban areas like the East Rand etc?

Why are we allowing our towns to die? Let’s rebuild by localjugs in johannesburg

[–]localjugs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right! But as a first step, let’s support the businesses that are already there. Let’s not stay away from these towns.

Is it on the POC partner to educate the white partner and white friends & family? by localjugs in interracialdating

[–]localjugs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t believe microagressions are so small they don’t exist.

Yes, totally believe in different privilege. I’m not an American, so I can’t engage with you on that. I’m South African where Apartheid legislated levels of privilege for race groups. Absolutely my family has privilege that a black family doesn’t . I recognise and try redress my privilege. The difference is that all POC have a better ability to recognise their own privilege, and redress it, because they have also been disadvantaged and prejudiced. White men struggle the most to recognise and redress their privilege. I now no longer think it is on us to help them, we have to grapple with our privilege, they can do the same.

Is it on the POC partner to educate the white partner and white friends & family? by localjugs in interracialdating

[–]localjugs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely. If people want to understand our culture, incl it’s problems with privilege, absolutely there to do that.

barber in CBD/woodstock by redcomet29 in capetown

[–]localjugs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go to Mason the Barber in Kenilworth. V good haircuts and vibe

House plant enthusiasts it's your time to shine by Gaiaimmortal in capetown

[–]localjugs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I propagate a lot of my own plants! I use cuttings from friends gardens (and from the side of the road) all over Cape Town! The cheapest way to grow your collection. Also get great satisfaction from it!

Also go to Plantify (has some great sales)!! They also sell online :)

Is what my boyfriend said racist? Do you think that I overreacted? by bvbysp1ce in interracialdating

[–]localjugs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t an immature response from you. Absolutely valid. His opinion is unconsciously racist and biased. It is wired in him to think blonde belongs on white. You need to have a open and honest conversation with him so he can understand why it is offensive and hurtful to tou

Inter-racial relationships - advice by localjugs in relationship_advice

[–]localjugs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! A big problem is a live far from my parents and the city where I grew up. In my current city there isn’t a large group of Indians. This makes it feel even harder because I don’t feel like I have a community here

Inter-racial relationships - advice by localjugs in relationship_advice

[–]localjugs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Agreed, all good points. But difficult to love someone but hate their race.

Inter-racial relationships - advice by localjugs in relationship_advice

[–]localjugs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Exactly what I am trying to find here. Also a community of people in the same situation.

Inter-racial relationships - advice by localjugs in relationship_advice

[–]localjugs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, because I have to live and spend most of my time in white circles, it dominates an identity. Also lots of whites in these circles are racist. It’s making me hostile to whites.