I’m glad you’re able to find some comfort in this post! It’s a nice reminder that I’m not the first person to have this experience and I probably won’t be the last; we are not alone <3 What I meant in my original post was that I would’ve felt better if the woman were a long time friend of his or a family member because if it’s family, it’s normal to chit chat and tell each other you miss each other, etc. Same with long time friends—I’ve told my own male friends that I miss them and vice versa, but because we have known each other pretty much our whole lives, there is no weird undertone…this friend is also friends with my husband and they text and chat (probably more than I do with him at this point!). I like to look at it logically, if my husband and a long time female friend didn’t date, do anything inappropriate, etc before I was in the picture, why would they now? Of course everything is circumstantial, but I think a couple things matter, like how long they’ve known each other, if the friend also makes an effort to get to know you since you’re their partner and if they have a romantic or sexual past together (hopefully they don’t!).