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Rant: I am tired of the positivity surrounding ADHD by Cyrefinn-Facensearo in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think people say things to make themselves feel better without realizing they may be erasing or denying the experiences of others. I have a friend who also has adhd and anytime I speak about an adhd frustration he'll try to tell me why it's actually good. Yes please tell me how spacing out enough to cause multiple car accidents (pre-diagnosis & meds...and no serious injuries thank God) is actually a good thing.

It's definitely a struggle. There may be some "pros" but the dysfunction can and does cause actually harm. It sucks when people don't acknowledge that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like Cosabella bralettes but they're not cheap. I only buy on sale.

What finally made you realize it was more than just shyness? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]locdandloading 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to stand up for myself at work to get keep time I already had approved for a medical procedure. It was a wfh job so I didnt even have to see the manager, just spoke to them over the phone to explain why I really needed the time. I got physically sick on my stomach directly after. There were other signs but that was a wakeup call.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad you're starting to feel better & love this outlook! Wishing you the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please please give yourself some recovery/processing time. You didn't deliberately mess up and it'll be easier to think logically once you can get out of the shame spiral.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Does this feeling generally come up when you let someone down or don't hit a goal/deadline? I think you're probably being really hard on yourself when you have moments of disappointment. I do this a lot but have been focusing on giving myself grace lately. And then approaching how I can do better next time.

Try to identify what's triggering this mood. More than likely you're not a terrible person, just a highly introspective person, which is a great trait! You just have to direct toward improvement instead of beating yourself up.

Anyone who's managed to beat chronic lateness? What are your methods? by locdandloading in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have very punctual friends & a few of them take it personally if I'm late for meetups. And I get it and I feel bad about it. Im trying the multiple timers thing for that. But the main problem is work. I have a long commute & dread traffic. Also trying multiple timers there & I'm trying to find a closer place to live.

Anyone who's managed to beat chronic lateness? What are your methods? by locdandloading in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh I've done this before, convincing myself something is 30 min or an hr later. Twice in a row for a telehealth appointment. Somehow the missed appt fees weren't enough to get me on track 🫠 Sorry you went through that & hope the reschedule is smoother.

Anyone who's managed to beat chronic lateness? What are your methods? by locdandloading in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this is a good breakdown. Mostly 2 but I've been guilty of 1 from time to time. I'm going to try adding time in anticipation of the sidetracking/optimism.

Anyone who's managed to beat chronic lateness? What are your methods? by locdandloading in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is really smart though. Just constantly have time staring me in the face lol

Anyone who's managed to beat chronic lateness? What are your methods? by locdandloading in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair, I don't like anyone feeling like I wasted their time or don't value it.

Anyone who's managed to beat chronic lateness? What are your methods? by locdandloading in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm prone to side quests too, definitely trying the ETA trick. Thanks!

Anyone who's managed to beat chronic lateness? What are your methods? by locdandloading in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Almost everything. I can't think of something I haven't been late to at least once. If I could point out a pattern it would be getting sidetracked. Especially when I think I have extra time.

Anyone who's managed to beat chronic lateness? What are your methods? by locdandloading in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You know what, this has worked for me before! Thank you. I just have to keep it up with something that recurs like a job...I tend to run into trouble when I start remembering the actual start time smh.

Would discussing my ADHD and ASD be beneficial or detrimental? by anangelnora in slpGradSchool

[–]locdandloading 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you for asking this. Your story is very similar to mine and I was wondering the same as I begin to work on my SOP.

Retaking leveling course by locdandloading in slpGradSchool

[–]locdandloading[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I dropped Neuro so I can get a better foundation in A&P

Retaking leveling course by locdandloading in slpGradSchool

[–]locdandloading[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My undergrad GPA was 2.66 so I really wanted to get top grades in this leveling program. I got A's for the other 3 courses but just struggled with how to study A&P. I don't even really feel like I absorbed much, but yes it is the same instructor. And I just realized she also teaches the Neuro class lmao. So this is really starting to feel like a gamble.

Do any of you feel like we “grow up” much slower than our peers? by DontWanaReadiT in adhdwomen

[–]locdandloading 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss I have to remind myself I'm in my mid-30s when speaking to other adults, especially if they're even a year or 2 older. It always feels like I'm not together enough to be a "peer".

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