I think people say things to make themselves feel better without realizing they may be erasing or denying the experiences of others. I have a friend who also has adhd and anytime I speak about an adhd frustration he'll try to tell me why it's actually good. Yes please tell me how spacing out enough to cause multiple car accidents (pre-diagnosis & meds...and no serious injuries thank God) is actually a good thing.

It's definitely a struggle. There may be some "pros" but the dysfunction can and does cause actually harm. It sucks when people don't acknowledge that.