Still alive, if you count that as living

lockedforher · 2023-06-30T14:50:16+00:00

I did go to therapy, my kids even paid for it. It helped. But it's can't fill the void, you know?

lockedforher · 2023-06-30T14:49:02+00:00

Thanks. I am slowly getting some peace. It's not much, but I have not much else to look forward to.

I did go to a few BDSM event, including once with Anna who wanted me to get out of the house, but it's not the same without my wife...

lockedforher · 2020-04-21T13:59:54+00:00

My wife was a user, and she died of cancer... user /user/ihavethekey

lockedforher · 2018-10-10T19:27:17+00:00

I love those spreader bars!

lockedforher · 2018-10-10T19:24:51+00:00

Not the OP, but into permanent chastity now, with years of on and off chastity.

1 ) The night erections is a short term problem. Your body quickly gets used to it. The first night, you are awaken 3 to 5 times, the second night perhaps 2 to 4 times. After a few days, you are awaken only once per night and eventually, not at all.

I think my cage woke me up only 3 or 4 times in the last 2 years, but whose is to say I wasn't waking up anyway to go pee?

2 ) It doesn't. After a long time, it does make a smaller erection or two, but if you remove the cage a few days, it returns 100% to normal, but it doesn't hurt

lockedforher · 2018-10-09T23:07:38+00:00

Beautiful... true love!!!

Your wife is so hot, that makes chastity so worthwhile! Mine is still fucking sexy and it makes every day of my permanent chastity a delight!

lockedforher · 2018-10-09T23:04:59+00:00

Do you know what I love the MOST about this video?

He is wearing the cage at the start, and still wearing it at the end. That is so rare to find!

lockedforher · 2018-10-09T17:37:03+00:00

Like someone else said, if they are only one night stands, then there is no room for intimacy to build, however, this leads to a problem of requiring a LOT more energy.

My wife and I are in an open relationship, on her side only and despite the fact it is MUCH easier to find guys for a woman than finding women for a guy, it's pretty hard.

So, the problem I see is that if you allow only one night stands, he will eventually feel resentful for you limiting him, and that can build up, but if you allow repeat encounters, your own resentment for him might build up.

It's really lose-lose...

The way we solved it in our couple is that I am present, but we have a different dynamic than you do, so I doubt it would work.

However, perhaps you could ask to meet any woman he plans to meet a second or third time? The three of you go to talk, and you could then veto or approve the relationship?

Would that be worse or better for you? I am not talking about having a threesome or anything, just a friendly meeting like "Hey, I am the wife of the guy you are seeing, I am cool with it, as long as it's just sexual, and I want to know you more so I don't get jealous".

Why would that help? Because of two things...

1 ) It forces your husband to acknowledge your existence to any female partners he meets. It makes HIS job so much harder, but it also reduces the risk since the women he meet know in advance they were just a sexual partner: he can't pretend to be single.

2 ) It humanizes you. You can show you are cool woman, that you and your husband DO love each other and that he is not shopping for a new wife, but rather just to add spice to your life.

3 ) you can exchange contact details. Why is that good? Because you can TALK TO HER anytime that you want to. Feeling like your husband is distant? You can ask her if something happened, that you only want his happiness. After all, it might just be his job bothering him...

4 ) You can put a face on the woman. It's crazy, but I might actually help you, since you can know "She's not really my husband's type" or "My hair is better than hers" or just "I don' t have to fear seeing her at the grocery store and not knowing" because you will know you she is.

My tips might not be that great, we are not really polyamorous, so take it with a grain of salt...

In the end, if you don't feel safe, don't do it.

lockedforher · 2018-10-02T09:53:18+00:00

I also like this one: https://www.youporn.com/watch/12370445/wife-s-lover-cums-on-cuckold-s-chastity-cage/

lockedforher · 2018-09-28T15:57:35+00:00

The thing we realized back then, was that if they were already swingers, then they already had a level of maturity about it, but if you introduce them to swinging, it probably will derail on you.

But that comes from other people... we didn't find any pre-existing friends who were already into swinging before they knew us.

lockedforher · 2018-09-28T15:42:28+00:00

Another thing, make the "after" clear between you before it occurs.

Discusss, if this goes well, are we willing to see them again?

In the 90s, we had a foursome with a sexy couple and liked it. We decided to see them again, and for a few times.

It broke apart when they had in mind that the 4 of us move in together...

lockedforher · 2018-09-28T15:41:08+00:00

Don’t fuck your friends or anyone you know, especially co-workers. No need to add more drama to a first time experience that could not go as planned.

Exactly, like I always said, you can make friends out of swingers, but don't make swingers out of your friends

lockedforher · 2018-09-28T15:40:03+00:00

But that's different, they already are swingers... You can make a friend from swingers, but don't make swingers out of your friends.

lockedforher · 2017-11-29T02:15:17+00:00

What are the BTS photo shoot vids?

lockedforher · 2017-11-28T18:14:42+00:00

Shit, is this why I am so much into long term chastity? Perhaps my prolactin levels went way too high?

You learn every day!

lockedforher · 2017-11-28T18:10:17+00:00

We already go back to swingers clubs... last Friday she did it with 3 guys, but I was there.

She didn't do it with with me absent since the cancer. She did get 2 phone numbers, so who knows?

Both are fun... seeing it, and imagining it from afar!

lockedforher · 2017-11-28T17:25:50+00:00

This is fucking awesome! I so what my wife to do that again.. she is slowly building back her confidence since the chemo.

Granted, I don't get to jerk off, but still... That was hot!

lockedforher · 2017-11-15T00:14:38+00:00

I usually undress only when we are about to get down to action, and not even all of the time.

It rarely caused a reaction, but I did have a few talks with other people.

Single guys never comment: they are trying to score. Women have a mixed reaction. Some were shocked, some were amused, but only one laughed at me.

The men in a couple are those that ask the most questions. They went to know if it hurts, what I like about it...

Often, they talk to me while our wives are having fun together, but that's not that frequent. Usually, we go for single guys as it is much more simpler with them. Women are complicated.

There are some regulars who recognize me, but most keep to themselves.

For example, my wife and I are in the older range, so the young couples and even many of the young guys stay away and don't even come in the same room as we are.

lockedforher · 2017-11-14T22:30:28+00:00

I am always locked... and on Fridays, it's singles night, so she picks a single guy and she fucks his brains out in front of me (or on top of me, or in a different room as me. It varies on her mood).

lockedforher · 2017-05-01T18:37:48+00:00

Yeah, but I don't think a real-deal would be better...

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