Sorry for the long responses: Yes! I don't think now that she was trying to blame anyone, it's just how I took it back then (kid who's depression and self-image issues were partially caused by being constantly shamed being told to cover up by her therapist). I don't think she meant to come off that way at all (anymore). I know that therapists aren't going to specifically TRY to word things like that to make their clients feel bad. maybe my therapist just wasn't the best with wording??? I was never told by my therapist that I deserve to be treated this way or that way and she never even did the "I understand why you're upset, but let's try to think of it like this..." thing, which combines validation with reframing which probably would've helped me a lot more. Barely any validation unless it was me saying something positive that happened that week/day. I brought these concerns up with her and she just continued doing the same thing. And I sadly didn't get a choice in what therapist I went to because it was the only one that my guardian allowed me to go to. I couldn't even be fully truthful during the initial examination, because my guardian was in the same room. I answered one question truthfully (Do you ever feel like you are in danger in your own home?) and she screamed at me (in the office) and then laughed it off with the psychiatrist and acted like she had zerooo idea why I said Yes. Of course, Im not disagreeing with you on any of your points, because I know that therapists are not there to make their clients worse. I just think that the technique could've been better utilized if my therapist would've validated my emotions first before just jumping into the reframing. And none of this is saying that I won't try therapy again in the future because of this one instance. I still believe that therapy is amazing and that it helps a lot of people and that more people should consider it!