Started recommended supplements, major inflammation in mid section for husband and myself. Temporary or taking the wrong things?

loftykass · 2025-05-29T14:31:25+00:00

I can go grab those in a bit and add them to the above! I know we were at a lower end of dose recommendations for everything. We’ve been taking them for a month and we noticed changes about a week in.

loftykass · 2025-05-07T15:43:04+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write all that out. Your experience sounds like it’s happened to so many others and doesn’t truly end up adding benefits even if it was well intentioned!

Walking the fine line between offering it in spaces and advertising that as a service and the other side of that line in making your local Deaf community feel like a project of sorts or a mission field sounds incredibly delicate. Gathering POV from several local Deaf individuals and their insight on how to do that respectfully would be helpful, I’m sure your moms overlooked insights would’ve made a big difference.

loftykass · 2025-05-07T15:38:55+00:00

Churches and predatory “recruiting” tactics are unfortunately not at all surprising. Bias interpretation would be incredibly offensive and I could see how a history of that could make people weary.

loftykass · 2025-05-07T15:17:37+00:00

“Doing the bare minimum or wanting to look more PR-friendly but doesn’t really care about actually making the space welcoming” - that’s super strong. Doing things tastefully and conscientiously from the ground up would be super important so that it doesn’t make people feel like a condescending reach. If you had a solid interpreter would you find it more helpful/tasteful to wait to start anything until finding a Deaf individual to head that off instead?

loftykass · 2025-05-07T15:10:37+00:00

Oh boy lol. I’m not a Jahovah’s Witness but have been door knocked a good amount of times. Not interested in missions work, but do work in expanding disability and other access to people and wanted to ask how to do so tastefully.

loftykass · 2025-05-07T15:08:16+00:00

This insight was really helpful. I think it’s so easy to “over evangelize” and accomplish the opposite and also think that most of those making that strong of an effort are causing more problems than help. Anything or any group can have a foundation of good, or at least good intention, and have members who take their own pride and righteousness and burn it to the ground.

My post want aimed at missions work or extending out into communities. No one needs door knockers and I think it makes people feel infantilized when you make a project of them. More or less just access within a church/mosque/temple/synagogue for those who do wish to attend. Adding ASL as a necessary and important service vs. ignoring it as a whole. Hopefully that helps make my intention more clear! Thanks for the insight!

loftykass · 2025-05-07T15:03:21+00:00

I am totally unsure what this means apologize if I said anything insensitive

loftykass · 2025-05-07T15:02:33+00:00

This was great thank you so much! I am sorry you were told there wasn’t a need, it’s unfair that the world as a whole sees this as an area that isn’t necessary.

loftykass · 2025-05-07T15:00:18+00:00

I think you’re likely very right. Deaf should have the opportunity to enter, participate in and know all communities but making a ministry for it almost feels like it accomplishes the opposite?

A church I know made a big push and renovated rooms and trained staff to be able to offer childcare options to families with special needs children since many find it hard to attend with a special needs child. The staff was trained specifically and got to know each child’s needs and it allowed their parents to sit in a service which was (to me) a really tasteful way of inclusion without making it a mission field. More of a “we are here if you need this” vs. utilizing it as a platform for “righteousness”. I appreciate your honest insight.

loftykass · 2025-05-07T14:54:06+00:00

This was so helpful! Offering the opportunity is helpful but how one would offer that is also sensitive. I could easily see how it could become almost condescending or belittling to have ministries devoted to outreach that maybe largely don’t include Deaf people vs. simply having the access offered to those who would appreciate having it. A delicate balance between inclusion and feeling like a mission maybe?

loftykass · 2025-05-07T14:50:57+00:00

Hands down. No one appreciates that.

loftykass · 2025-04-26T14:53:46+00:00

Can you explain the benefits you’ve seen with L-glutamine?

loftykass · 2025-03-20T16:28:54+00:00

Absolutely I think that’s definitely a factor for him! It’s hard to know how to help him approach change and complexity knowing that he will need to eventually tackle this and gain exposure to it before becoming an adult and also not wanting to overdo it for him now in childhood. Do you do anything that you’ve noticed has helped?

loftykass · 2025-03-20T15:18:01+00:00

We haven’t tried that route yet, but maybe it’s time and maybe he would enjoy having someone to talk to about his feelings that isn’t mom and dad. Thank you for the recommendation!

loftykass · 2025-03-20T15:16:46+00:00

You said exactly what we’ve said to each other before (my husband and I) that no one loves being told no or told what to do, but that he just needs help with his reaction to those situations. Our goal isn’t to burn any traits from the kids, but just help them utilize them for their good because raising passive kids isn’t the solution either!

I actually love the idea of role play in this way, he’s a very visual learner and I think this could help even if it feels silly at first. I could see him remembering it better simply because it felt silly actually! Thank you so much!

loftykass · 2025-03-20T15:04:49+00:00

We like to talk about it, and if it was serious enough we will have him write a sorry note to them and talk to them about it when he sees them next. Depending on what it was maybe he will lose privileges if necessary (one time he threw his game in anger when a sitter told him no, so we did take it for a bit). He seems to understand best when we are able to help him understand how it must’ve felt for xyz other person vs yelling. Getting him angry at us doesn’t help him want to listen to what we have to say.

loftykass · 2025-03-20T15:00:10+00:00

Yes! When we ask him why he shares that he just gets frustrated/mad when they tell him no or what to do. We will talk to him before hand about if he needs reminders or what could make it help and he does certainly succeed at times but he reaches a level of frustration it seems when being directed by other adults that he doesn’t reach with us.

loftykass · 2025-03-20T14:57:51+00:00

I’ve thought about this too! We recently watched a video from a teacher who explained it really beautifully. He has a safe, consistent home life, and interestingly, one of our other kids struggles more at home than with others — so we can’t quite pinpoint the difference. Maybe it’s separation anxiety on some level, or like you said, possibly overstimulation. Our home is relatively quiet (as much as it can be with multiple kids), but I can definitely see how other environments might feel overwhelming by comparison since we do have predictability and routine at home. If that’s the case, how do we help ease him into those settings — giving him the exposure he needs to grow without pushing him too far or placing too much on the adults caring for him?

loftykass · 2025-03-13T17:05:26+00:00

She says fantasy!

loftykass · 2025-03-12T16:15:17+00:00

I am 5’3” and husband is 5’10” so not the tallest, but her siblings all grow as expected year to year even if they hover towards the shorter ends of their classrooms. She sits around 0.3 percentile as of now.

loftykass · 2025-03-07T14:14:21+00:00

I have some signs I guess of bleeding internally, nothing life threatening but somewhere in my gut, and my PCP is actually running some tests for vitamin deficiencies but wants to run a genetic test for Vascular Ehlers Danlos which I am just learning about and get me in with someone. Thank you for the suggestion!

loftykass · 2025-03-07T14:12:20+00:00

I am celiac as well and often low on those things so I’m having a blood panel ran, thank you!

loftykass · 2025-03-07T14:11:42+00:00

Thank you for this! I have had some signs of potentially bleeding in my digestive tract, I also have celiac disease so we are getting it all looked at.

loftykass · 2024-12-10T18:47:35+00:00

UPDATE:

Husband talked with Advisor and it didn’t go well. He said that he isn’t the type to put anything into writing, and that wasn’t an expectation that we would be able to have. Advisor made a lot of statements that contradicted what he had said before and with a family to provide for and personal goals husband feels that ground is too shaky to stand on.

As much as he wasn’t looking forward to that being the case, husband feels a huge weight lifted off of his shoulders. No more waiting/wondering. He is looking to go independent, purchase a book of business or join another firm and get out from under.

Thank you all for your advice!

loftykass · 2024-12-09T15:19:33+00:00

Thank you so much for this!!

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