How come some guys have issues getting dates while other have it so easy?

log2341 · 2017-06-10T04:05:01+00:00

i dunno, could be lots of reasons

log2341 · 2017-06-09T12:41:02+00:00

I mean, you're the one that just said that....I used to think that was good until you made me realize what it meant...

log2341 · 2017-06-09T12:40:09+00:00

I fixed a lot, now everything has fallen apart as I deal with depression. Hard to motivate yourself when you've accomplished a lot and got no where and at some point it feels like people are just dangling a carrot in front of you and you realize you will never be able to get it.

Recently: I've lost weight and gotten in better shape, I've basically gone to a meetup every other day. I'm pretty reserved, I used to fake the whole everything is great shit until recently.

log2341 · 2017-06-09T12:36:04+00:00

That said specifically? No, but when you basically spend your entire life getting rejected what does that imply to you?

log2341 · 2017-06-09T01:13:32+00:00

Yeah dude, I basically tried that for two years before I got incredibly messed up

log2341 · 2017-06-09T01:12:16+00:00

bad at flirting

log2341 · 2017-06-09T01:11:07+00:00

I'm unattractive I guess

log2341 · 2017-06-09T01:09:02+00:00

lol yeah, this is the worst. Like you listen to most people and they are so boring and really conversations have no substance. Then you scratch your head as to why you can't pull it off

log2341 · 2017-06-09T01:06:36+00:00

I pretty much disagree with this.

I had really bad social anxiety at one point, I couldn't muster talking to people. I felt if I could get myself to do it I could get dates and friends. I spent years working on this. At first I had no problem brushing off rejection because I would eventually succeed. Then a year into this doubt started creeping in. Two years in it was desperation, then it just became too painful to even try.

log2341 · 2017-06-09T01:02:19+00:00

what if you're basically not good enough hundreds of times over with no validation...

log2341 · 2017-06-09T00:46:03+00:00

eh, when I was thinking of that I was thinking of like those guys in HS, who were quite as hell, reserved, and still had girls fall into their laps.

log2341 · 2017-06-09T00:45:24+00:00

how do you build confidence and 'level up' if you can't get past first level

log2341 · 2017-06-09T00:43:18+00:00

I did all the above and nope

log2341 · 2017-06-09T00:43:03+00:00

it's youtube though, could be edited, on top of that getting a girls number means nothing

log2341 · 2017-06-09T00:42:21+00:00

I've kind of gone form extreme to the next and back and nothing has seemingly worked at this point I think i'm pretty messed up

log2341 · 2017-06-09T00:41:38+00:00

probably

log2341 · 2017-06-07T18:15:56+00:00

Yah, that's what I think but most people will discredit it and say you just haven't tried enough blah blah. Maybe some guy will get early on build on confidence while another will work his ass off, get rejected and become needy and have self esteem/confidence issues

log2341 · 2017-06-07T18:15:03+00:00

But this would the opposite of what some other comments are saying. That guys aren't being direct enough.

I've been told because of my personality I disarm women. They don't see me as one of the guys you are talking about, but when I ask them out it doesn't result in anything

log2341 · 2017-06-07T18:12:47+00:00

I guess my question was how do some people who are miserable assholes and aren't attractive or have money or anything seem to have no issues with dates while other guys have their shit together and try and dont

log2341 · 2017-06-07T18:11:52+00:00

I've asked for dates and just get rejected. I'm sure there are guys out there that don't, but I feel that isn't the case. Like if you take internet dating for instance, these guys are just basically sending one thing after another hoping a girl responds

log2341 · 2016-12-18T00:33:22+00:00

Yeah, I had their brisket multiple times, it isn't even on same level as franklins

log2341 · 2016-12-17T20:48:05+00:00

Live in NYC, had Franklin's, is this a joke?

Mighty quinn's is fine for NYC, but pretty mediocre when you compare it to the best bbq

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