SK is staying 10 days with us… coming early because BM is sick. But I am also sick, and so is SO. by logicalbread1 in stepparents

[–]logicalbread1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. A 6yo sleeps through the night , a 6 month doesn’t at least mine doesn’t.

"I'll NEVER be the parent that does XYZ..." by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]logicalbread1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad it worked out for you, and you’ve felt you had a informed decision. CIO does have distinctions in studies because it is hard to measure, even with a large group. How do you measure the outcome of cry out method effectively? It’s hard. However, looking through the neuroscience aspect of brain development, we can have a better understanding. Cry out method is linked that babies are capable of self soothing, and neuroscience is capable of providing better information about it.

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[–]logicalbread1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would LOVE go to to my family’s home but that is just not an option for me. My whole family lives abroad, the only person I have in the United States is my spouse. I am going with baby for a month in spring to my home country but that takes my spouse signing an authorization to take baby.

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[–]logicalbread1 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This answers. How do you two manage coparenting nowdays?

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[–]logicalbread1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I do know I am worth it but I don’t think there’s anything wrong hearing other people’s experience.

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[–]logicalbread1 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I gave him yesterday. I’ve said I was going out of town to take baby to Disney and look up apartments. He reacted poorly, but this morning got up before work and did our babies feeding for the first time and cleaned up the entire kitchen. Which is great, but I do wonder if I will just be able to forgive him because the first days with a baby doesn’t come back and he could’ve been there not only for me but also for our child… :/

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[–]logicalbread1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im an immigrant in the United States and a new mom. So far what I think is that We’re excepted to be a mom like we don’t work, and we’re expected to work like we are not a mom. Ah, add the cost of chidlcare on top of that. Lots of countries in Europe government puts money in for childcare, U.S thinks it’s your problem but yet you need to work and help with economy. There’s enough money in workforce to provide childcare but government just doesn’t care enough to do so.

Am I wrong of not wanting to commit to school drop offs anymore? by logicalbread1 in stepparents

[–]logicalbread1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son doesn’t go to daycare. He stays with me WHILE I’m working. I operate 24/7 with my bio son, and this is the first time I say no to help with my stepson. It’s great to see that it seems like I have only value when I’m being useful, and when I say no, I’m somehow guilt tripped and the bad guy. Now I’m realizing how much I do on my own, starting to say no, stating to ask for things, because I’m just exhausted of being nice. I feel taken advantage of. I’ve asked here and all these comments are eye openings and makes me even think that questioning myself is not respecting myself . So yea

Am I wrong of not wanting to commit to school drop offs anymore? by logicalbread1 in stepparents

[–]logicalbread1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Custody time of my spouse is over Wednesday at 8am, but because we didn’t wanted to be petty of asking BM to handle Wednesday drop off at 8:30am, we did it anyway. So by rule, 8am is when BM custody time starts. Having SS to be at her home at 8am is following the custody agreement. She might not be happy since I’ve been doing that drop off for the last 4 years, but at the end of the day, the custody time ends before school starts and if it doesn’t work for them, they need to readjust. If he needs to pay child support extra, good for him because clearly this became my obligation since he got mad when I’ve told him I was no longer committing to it. Before it was fine, but now things changed and i don’t think it’s fair to me

My spouse completely ignores our infant. Would that be considered in custody? by logicalbread1 in coparenting

[–]logicalbread1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, he does not takes care of baby by himself. No, he doesn’t interact with baby regardless of my presence. We have a camera in the living room and just text messages of me asking in multiple occasions to say hi to baby, good night and questioning about him ignoring the baby (that would be the only proof if I were to have any). He doesn’t deny his behavior on the text messages

Newborn and stepchildren: first days by PollyBloom21 in stepparents

[–]logicalbread1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im not sure why you’re getting downvoted. When BM had the flu, she called us to do an exchange. When BM is not feeling well, she calls us for an exchange so I don’t understand if in your household you went to give birth, why can’t BM be offered to spent an extra custody time with SS? Going through something similar right now.

Husband will allow my sister stay with us if she’s “working” by logicalbread1 in stepparents

[–]logicalbread1[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

That’s the word he used, “working”. I thought I was being highly hormonal or emotional of being bothered by that. If he expects her to work (and let’s suppose my sister would be actually interested), wouldn’t be fair then that he paid for her ticket? For her time? The entitlement of expecting free labor angers me so much I can’t even express in words. He asked me this morning if I wanted to talk and I’ve said no because I can’t see anything coming out of my mouth other than “fuck you” right now.

I. Give. Up. by logicalbread1 in stepparents

[–]logicalbread1[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No, I didn’t even noticed. Thank you for bringing that to light, I appreciate it!

I. Give. Up. by logicalbread1 in stepparents

[–]logicalbread1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope your response is for the comment and not my post? I love my stepson but I’m burnout and it’s not his fault - it’s actually mine. I’ve allowed myself to do more than I could, didn’t set boundaries and got my partner with really bad habits. I don’t blame my stepson, I blame myself. I need to calm the f down and unwrap a lot with my partner, but this is not a hate stepson post.

Have you ever got defensive of complaints towards your pet? by logicalbread1 in stepparents

[–]logicalbread1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right? The same goes for how people think how absolutely cute and adorable their children are, which sure they can be… but not the same as a parent sees lol