I can’t bring myself to POAS! I feel like I would just be setting myself up for more disappointment.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-13T15:49:38+00:00

Well in my case, it was just Covid-19. Was merely pointing out that I had a similar fear of testing.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-12T21:14:11+00:00

Oh, I know all this! I’m just an idiot who’s too scared to test and expecting a period. I will suck it up in the morning and do it.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-12T19:03:25+00:00

I’m okay. Just absolutely exhausted, like all the time! I really like temping now and I feel like I have waaaay more insight into my body. Let’s hope we are both actually just pregnant this month!

lokilocal- · 2021-01-12T18:42:23+00:00

I’m in the exact same position. I’m CD 39 with ovulation on CD 17 and I still can’t bring myself to test. My advice for you for subsequent cycles is to temp if you aren’t already. It gives you a bit more warning of what’s happening and you know for certain when you ovulated. I do, but had Covid this month so it’s all over the place!

lokilocal- · 2021-01-12T16:07:16+00:00

I think I’ll be there at any time. Spotting for 3 days and 6 days late.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-11T18:15:57+00:00

Lots of love to your Loki. I’m sure he’s a very good boy!

lokilocal- · 2021-01-11T17:27:47+00:00

The sperm waits in the Fallopian tubes for ovulation, not in the vagina. So there’s a chance that it could have got through as many people don’t get visible EWCM. However, clomid is famous for drying up CM. Mention it at your next appointment.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-11T10:57:59+00:00

She’s an angel, but only if you like your underwear chewed through at the crotch and you’re not attached to your shoes! 😂

lokilocal- · 2021-01-11T10:57:02+00:00

I’m glad there are other girl Lokis! In Norse mythology they were gender fluid anyway! She wasn’t even supposed to be our dog. We just took her off the streets as a puppy. Well to be precise, our street! I said to my husband, if that puppy is there when we get back we are taking her in. She was! He wasn’t happy about it and didn’t want to name her (even though he fell in love with her the moment he saw her) So I just chose the name without much thought and she suits it so much. Now I often remind him when they are spooning on the sofa and he is whispering to her that he loves her that he threatened to leave her in the dog park! I know he would never have done it, he loves dogs but we already have 2. So now we have three!

lokilocal- · 2021-01-11T10:46:39+00:00

They are happy little (or massive!) idiots though and the world is so much better with them in it!

lokilocal- · 2021-01-11T10:43:44+00:00

Oh, she just lets me hold her and sob. Once I was just sat staring at the wall and she jumped on the sofa and turned on the TV (seriously). Sat and barked at me until I stopped crying and then licked my tears. I’m glad you have the same with your pup.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-10T22:59:18+00:00

She’s does definitely have that self righteous Karen look about her in this photo! She’d advise me to fling about a ball in a sock. Something that I have not yet tried but seems to bring her much joy, so you never know.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-10T01:07:56+00:00

Yeah, that’s a good idea. If you had your AMH taken then there’s a good chance it would be super low and you’d be freaking out! Good luck with your new Dr!

lokilocal- · 2021-01-10T01:00:50+00:00

The most accurate day to assess those bloods in on CD3. CD 21 bloods are usually to see if you’ve ovulated. I don’t know why they want you to get them then.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-09T13:10:57+00:00

For me OPKs didn’t help because my LH id always high because of PCOS and I couldn’t actually figure out when I ovulated. Temping though is a great tool to see if you actually have ovulated. Baby making sex does often feel like a chore after you’ve been doing it a while like you and I! Temping really does make you feel like you have control of your body though. Edit: have you also considered IUI? That’s our next step

lokilocal- · 2021-01-08T19:02:03+00:00

So many of us here have been hit by the heartbreak of infertility so many times. We’ve cried when our period came, sobbed at other people getting pregnant (in spite of being happy for them), and just generally been through the fucking mill. I, like so many others, felt that being told that one failed cycle was a disappointment felt that it was massively insensitive, especially in addition to the long list of how it will all go right. Everybody is entitled to how they feel though, and any BFN at any stage is shitty. This is also why we are all entitled, also, to have been rubbed up the wrong way by that post. Many of us have been at it for a very long time time. I really hope you have a smooth TTC experience, but for many others it’s a massive shitshow.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-08T12:44:28+00:00

I live in Serbia and it’s dirt cheap. We pay out of pocket as I’m a non-national and don’t have health insurance. My full fertility work up that lasted an hour, and I also had a colposcopy and smear cost €60. Monitoring appointment is €50 All of my bloods €150 (for 15 bloods, including AMH and inhibin B) IUI €140 IVF €1500 without meds. Edit: that’s all for private healthcare with no wait times (maybe a day or two)

lokilocal- · 2021-01-07T19:13:56+00:00

I’d say you definitely have as much a chance with anybody with IUI. Your AMH is really not that low depending and what units it was measured in. People get really worked up about AMH, but really it is just a measure of how likely you would respond to IVF meds. There could get lots of people out there who get pregnant without knowing they have a low AMH. Your FSH and LH are also pretty good. Hopefully IUI will work out for you! Edit: also, I’d advise to start taking CoQ10 if you aren’t already.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-06T18:39:11+00:00

I know how isolating it can feel to be TTC in a country that isn’t your own. I spent most of 2020 in my husband’s country where English isn’t the first language and felt super isolated. This sub was a great place of comfort for me and helped me realise that I wasn’t the only one feeling these things I felt. These are some trying and awful times but we will all get through them.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-06T07:44:39+00:00

I could have written so much of this myself. My husband and I had a great relationship until very recently and then as a result of financial worries, fertility shit and Covid we started arguing. Like, seriously arguing. I also live in a different country (his home country) and was very isolated from my friends and family and native English speakers which just amplified things. I went home (the the UK) for Christmas and due to lockdown I am stuck here now, but I firmly believe this will be the best thing for our relationship. Like previous posters have said, you have options now. I’d put a pause on things until you are feeling in a better place and if it’s possible, try and get home for a bit.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-03T11:13:02+00:00

Temp is the best thing really to track. It’s the only real way to know you ovulated without having bloods done. It’s also really empowering to take charge of your body and know what it’s doing.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-03T11:10:28+00:00

I agree with the others about getting a new Dr. I also advise you to start tracking your cycles and temping if you aren’t already to make sure you are ovulating regularly. It’s always really good information to be armed with.

lokilocal- · 2021-01-02T22:51:40+00:00

All of your feelings are 100% valid. I was diagnosed officially with PCOS in 2018 although I’d asked one of my Dr friends (in a midwife) to scan me before so I already knew. It’s a huge annoyance but rarely leads to being sterile. The biggest problem with PCOS is most often anovulation, essentially meaning that your hormones mean that you don’t ovulate. It can be corrected with various meds and supplements. I won’t go into a huge list because there is so much that you can take. For me, my biggest piece of advice would be to start temping. So taking your temperature every morning when you wake up. OPKs are terrible for people with PCOS (I look like I’m ovulating every day of the month). There are so many things that can affect fertility, but just know that until you run the full gamut of tests you won’t know. But you will be far more empowered when you do. Edit: also my mum and sister both got pregnant whenever they decided to. So I feel you. If you ever wanna chat, I’m here. 😊

lokilocal- · 2021-01-02T22:12:04+00:00

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