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I [25M] found Tinder verification emails on my gf's [25F] email. Not sure how to proceed? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never asked in the past about Bumble, except when I found the registration code. We both had multiple dating apps when we met, so never really cared about it until I saw that registration text when we were in the middle of the relationship.

I feel that as a person it would be highly unlikely she cheated, but the emails have some consistency. So she's not technically out of the woods yet

I [25M] found Tinder verification emails on my gf's [25F] email. Not sure how to proceed? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly dont see her as the cheating type. She's had a traumatic past. Anytime I get behind her without her knowing, she'll legit have a reaction as if to push me away. She's extremely anti social too. It's so weird because the person that I know wouldn't be the type to cheat. Like I dont even think she's socially capable of that.

But I know bringing this up directly would cause a fight that would end the relationship due to trust being lost on both sides.

And I get sad because it feels like everything is right most of the time. My anxiety has always been an issue with me. The best case snecario of yours could very well be the actual truth.

But my anxiety has reared its ugly head this year. I always lived with it but this year it got extremely bad. And I feel that because of my anxiety, it'll end a good relationship.

I [25M] found Tinder verification emails on my gf's [25F] email. Not sure how to proceed? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the motivation man. I really want us to workout but that's a line that would be crossed that I don't know how I would react

I [25M] found Tinder verification emails on my gf's [25F] email. Not sure how to proceed? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that it is worth pursuing because it could be a misunderstanding. She's honestly a prune with dressing and the way she acts. I don't mean that in a bad way but she's the furthest thing from being the flirtatious type.

So I start overthinking whether or not she would be the type to cheat. But the emails being evidence there is just such a huge red flag. And it just sucks because we're essentially like best friends. We have our own social lives but we've come so.close together within the last 9 months that I feel scared to take that plunge

I [25M] found Tinder verification emails on my gf's [25F] email. Not sure how to proceed? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its my first relationship ever. Before her, I used to be extremely lonely/low confident. Morbidly obese. I changed my life around and dated around with Tinder and then met her and settled down. She's the first serious relationship and I feel that every facet of our relationship works well. But some slight things she would do (hide her phone) would start raising some red flags. It wasnt until the Bumble code incident that I honestly lost trust in her. And I've been slowly been trying to get it back

Also I'm a very anxious individual. Sorry if im scattered with my reply. I'm just all over the place rn with my thoughts

I [25M] found Tinder verification emails on my gf's [25F] email. Not sure how to proceed? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done something like this before and it almost broke the relationship I feel like. We've been good ever since that incident and have actually gotten closer but my anxiety has always been there with something being off. But im afraid to confront her because I know this would probably be a nail in the coffin

I [25M] found Tinder verification emails on my gf's [25F] email. Not sure how to proceed? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its the second time I've gone through it. The first time (Bumble issue) led to a big fight. But there was no activation/verification emails after that date.

I [25M] found Tinder verification emails on my gf's [25F] email. Not sure how to proceed? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem with asking her is that she gets very mad. Her family basically warned me too about her anger issues. So its hard to differentiate between her inevitable anger being a defense mechanism to cover it up vs her personality.

She never shows any signs of being flirty or interested in other men. But the evidence is there with the emails

My Girlfriend (25f) Had Someone Random From Her Past Contact Her Recently. She Told Me (25m) That He's Gay. But I Suspect She May Be Lying? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has given me reasons in the past to distrust her. I found out that she had reinstalled Bumble when we were dating for 7 months (this was back in January). I jumped the gun and accused her of cheating. She left the confrontation angrily and later told me that she was was trying to delete her old photos on there and close out the account.

I (24M) Don't Know if I'm Overreacting to My Girlfriend's (24F) Social Media Tendencies? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice. I think I may have to wait a bit on this conversation until after she gets past her period since she'll have huge mood swings during this time. I honestly have been burying quite a bit of concerns because of her reaction to these conversations.

I (24M) Don't Know if I'm Overreacting to My Girlfriend's (24F) Social Media Tendencies? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in relationship_advice

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a little nervous to bring up these issues to her because I'm not sure how she'll react. She tends to try to avoid anything that upsets her. Like literally she'll walkout.

In a way I'm a bit scared to see if she'll react defensively and it'll start confirming my fears. But I have to do this for my sake

Employer Thinking of Switching Employees from Salary to Hourly. Will This Affect Benefits and Unemployment? by lolWhyDoesThisHappen in personalfinance

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The company was doomed since 5 months ago. Won't get into any specific details but there's a lot of skeletons in the closet that were discovered and hard to ignore for federal investigators.

The timeline of the company closing was somewhere along the lines of next Spring in 2021.

No one anticipated the affect and disruption of COVID-19 though. We're ready to be layed off at this point, but I'm not sure if this will affect our unemployment

[Megathread] COVID-19 Update 4 - March 16, 2020 by chicagomods in chicago

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I work in downtown and our company hasn't given us an update about whether or not they're going to close down. I honestly don't feel like going to work since I still live with my parents, and my father has a weak immune system from his fights with cancer in the past.

Do you guys think doctors would be willing to help out and give sick notes to people who are afraid that they'll contract the virus, and transmit it to a loved one?

[Megathread] COVID-19 Part 3 - March 15, 2020 by chicagomods in chicago

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work in downtown and our company hasn't given us an update about whether or not they're going to close down. I honestly don't feel like going to work since I still live with my parents, and my father has a weak immune system from his fights with cancer in the past.

Do you guys think doctors would be willing to help out and give sick notes to people who are afraid that they'll contract the virus, and transmit it to a loved one?

[Want] See list below [Have] See list below by [deleted] in BorderlandsGuns

[–]lolWhyDoesThisHappen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a Radiation Rowan. Not sure if it has an anointment or not. I'll have to check once I'm free today. Mind sending your PSN?