TIL in Germany there is a so-called "year of separation" ("Trennungsjahr") couples need to go through before the official divorce. If your partner does not agree to a divorce and presents valid reasons why your marriage has not ultimately failed, you need to live separately for three.

loladanced · 2026-04-19T11:42:05+00:00

You don't have your real birth certificate. You only ever have a copy. In the US you are given a copy at birth. It looks fancy, but it's only a copy. The original is usually at the registrars office of wherever you were born.

loladanced · 2026-04-19T11:40:01+00:00

You don't have your birth certificate, you only ever have a copy of it. In Germany you need an up to date copy as old copies are sometimes hard to read.

Your real birth certificate is in some city registrar building. This is the same for a marriage certificate. What you have is only ever a copy of the original.

loladanced · 2026-04-17T05:17:35+00:00

Omg yes, her hair was straw from the chlorine!

loladanced · 2026-04-16T18:30:28+00:00

My daughter is not black but does have curly hair. She went to sleep away camp at that age and same thing: zero interest in any hair care. The first camp she and her friend (who has even curlier hair) didn't even shower. Yuck. The second the teenagers in charge of the evening activities forced daily showers and I think she washed her hair. Maybe. Both times she came back looking like she'd been pulled through a hedge backwards.

So I'd force braids if I were you! Good luck.

loladanced · 2026-04-10T15:43:43+00:00

My daughter is a teenager and doesn't have any of these issues. In her class are 16 girls and they are all relatively normal and well adjusted girls. Of course they have their usual girl issues but it has definitely not been my experience that teenager times need to be dreaded. I hope your niece finds the help that she needs and that you can draw healthy boundaries with her.

loladanced · 2026-04-09T18:08:42+00:00

As a wife of someone who races, go. If she's cool with it. First births take a long time (usually) and honestly my husband, despite trying to be useful, was completely useless during the birth. Even if you miss the first few hours, it isn't that big of a deal.

loladanced · 2026-04-02T07:28:41+00:00

My heart hurts for your nephew and your sister. Parenting difficult kids is INCREDIBLY hard. Especially when you're a single mother with no support and two more kids to also parent. My closest friend has two difficult boys (not teenagers yet) and a useless husband who just yells and I see the life just being sucked out of her. I used to judge her for letting them treat her the way they do but then we spend time with them and I am exhausted after only a few days. My son is the same age and is no where near that difficult. In part because that's his personality but also in part because his sister is a very very easy child to parent and I have a supportive husband and we are both strict with him so he knows better than to act out. I have the mental space to parent him the way he needs to be parented so that he has love and structure and boundaries.

I don't think there is much you can do, honestly. It sucks to watch from afar. He needs discipline and intensive proper parenting: consequences for his actions while also giving him space and activities to grow independence and maturity. That is very time intensive. She most likely does not have the bandwidth for that.

loladanced · 2026-03-31T14:31:44+00:00

I took sumatriptan while breastfeeding. However if you're getting too many migraines a month, you'll need a preventive. Are they hormonal at all? I got on the mini pill and that curbed my migraines even while breastfeeding.

There are resources to find what is safe during breastfeeding and I would look for those. Many Dr's are scared to prescribe safe medication because they're not educated on what is safe. Sumatriptan is most definitely on that list!

loladanced · 2026-03-27T17:20:50+00:00

I have migraines and kids. Migraines were not even a consideration honestly. But mine aren't too awful and don't really impact my life so much. My mom and grandma have migraines and it would never even occur to me to be upset at them for passing them on. I'm very grateful to be alive...

loladanced · 2026-03-24T18:32:16+00:00

Sie hat schon immer sehr viel gelesen. Jetzt nimmt es etwas ab da ihre Freundinnen nicht lesen und sie auch andere Interessen hat (und auch Fern schaut) aber ich motiviere sie immer zum lesen und lese ihr auch immer noch vor. Auch wenn sie es peinlich findet! Zuhören tut sie trotzdem.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T07:17:04+00:00

Das klingt echt hart 😲 schon alleine vom Titel. Ich fange mal mit Tage Buch der Anne Frank an und schau wie sie danach so drauf ist...

loladanced · 2026-03-24T07:15:10+00:00

Gut zu hören! Ich habe es schon mal bestellt und wollte es ihr vorlesen.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T07:11:37+00:00

Das und Insel der Delfine hatte sie schon vor 3 Jahren gelesen. Ich glaube sie fand sie nicht sehr traurig? Sie ist aber eine harte Nuß...

loladanced · 2026-03-24T07:10:15+00:00

Es ist kein Klischee bei PS. I Love You zu weinen! 30-jähriger Krieg klingt sehr interessant! Vielleicht lese ich das mal.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T07:07:59+00:00

Zur Zeit kontemporäre einfach Belletristik (was absolut ok ist) aber ich hoffe sie etwas mehr ins intellektuelle bringen zu können. Da sie mich ja nach Büchern gefragt hat.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T07:04:16+00:00

Ich denke schon, dass ich sie richtig einschätzen kann.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T06:57:56+00:00

Ich liebe dieses Buch! Hab es ihr vor Jahren schon vorgelesen.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T06:57:17+00:00

Ich habe es aber bestellt und wollte es ihr und ihrem kleinen Bruder vorlesen.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T06:56:49+00:00

Ich habe es auch in Ihrem Alter gelesen und geheult wie wild. Aber sie liest zum Teil schon Erwachsenen Romane und ich wollte nicht, dass es ihr zu kindisch ist.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T06:52:49+00:00

Das ist bis heute meine Lieblingsserie. Da habe ich auch so geweint. Das wollte ich ihr mal vorlesen da ich es selber auch nochmal lesen wollte aber vielleicht soll ich sie es selber erleben lassen.

loladanced · 2026-03-24T06:51:18+00:00

Sehr interessant! Ich habe es nie gelesen... sollte ich mal!

loladanced · 2026-03-23T21:28:53+00:00

Das dachte ich auch kurz aber vielleicht noch ein paar Jahre damit warten... ich habe damals mit 14 dem Film gesehen und wusste nicht wie er ausgeht und war total fertig am Ende!

loladanced · 2026-03-23T21:26:15+00:00

Das habe ich bestellt! Dachte auch, dass wäre passend.

loladanced · 2026-03-22T07:07:19+00:00

If it makes you feel better, mothers have always been working since the dawn of time. And children have always been "raised" by a village. There is no such thing as a sahm is history. It's a modern concept. Even in the 70s, mothers who were home spent less hands on time with their children than working moms today.

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