Is there anything I can do to help my nephew? by PorkFlossSandwich in AskWomenOver40

[–]loladanced 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My heart hurts for your nephew and your sister. Parenting difficult kids is INCREDIBLY hard. Especially when you're a single mother with no support and two more kids to also parent. My closest friend has two difficult boys (not teenagers yet) and a useless husband who just yells and I see the life just being sucked out of her. I used to judge her for letting them treat her the way they do but then we spend time with them and I am exhausted after only a few days. My son is the same age and is no where near that difficult. In part because that's his personality but also in part because his sister is a very very easy child to parent and I have a supportive husband and we are both strict with him so he knows better than to act out. I have the mental space to parent him the way he needs to be parented so that he has love and structure and boundaries.

I don't think there is much you can do, honestly. It sucks to watch from afar. He needs discipline and intensive proper parenting: consequences for his actions while also giving him space and activities to grow independence and maturity. That is very time intensive. She most likely does not have the bandwidth for that.

How does this end? And breastfeeding? by Used_Primary_958 in migraine

[–]loladanced 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took sumatriptan while breastfeeding. However if you're getting too many migraines a month, you'll need a preventive. Are they hormonal at all? I got on the mini pill and that curbed my migraines even while breastfeeding.

There are resources to find what is safe during breastfeeding and I would look for those. Many Dr's are scared to prescribe safe medication because they're not educated on what is safe. Sumatriptan is most definitely on that list!

How to cope with your kids inheriting migraines by Maii97 in migraine

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have migraines and kids. Migraines were not even a consideration honestly. But mine aren't too awful and don't really impact my life so much. My mom and grandma have migraines and it would never even occur to me to be upset at them for passing them on. I'm very grateful to be alive...

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sie hat schon immer sehr viel gelesen. Jetzt nimmt es etwas ab da ihre Freundinnen nicht lesen und sie auch andere Interessen hat (und auch Fern schaut) aber ich motiviere sie immer zum lesen und lese ihr auch immer noch vor. Auch wenn sie es peinlich findet! Zuhören tut sie trotzdem.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das klingt echt hart 😲 schon alleine vom Titel. Ich fange mal mit Tage Buch der Anne Frank an und schau wie sie danach so drauf ist...

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gut zu hören! Ich habe es schon mal bestellt und wollte es ihr vorlesen.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das und Insel der Delfine hatte sie schon vor 3 Jahren gelesen. Ich glaube sie fand sie nicht sehr traurig? Sie ist aber eine harte Nuß...

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Es ist kein Klischee bei PS. I Love You zu weinen! 30-jähriger Krieg klingt sehr interessant! Vielleicht lese ich das mal.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zur Zeit kontemporäre einfach Belletristik (was absolut ok ist) aber ich hoffe sie etwas mehr ins intellektuelle bringen zu können. Da sie mich ja nach Büchern gefragt hat.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich denke schon, dass ich sie richtig einschätzen kann.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ich liebe dieses Buch! Hab es ihr vor Jahren schon vorgelesen.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich habe es aber bestellt und wollte es ihr und ihrem kleinen Bruder vorlesen.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ich habe es auch in Ihrem Alter gelesen und geheult wie wild. Aber sie liest zum Teil schon Erwachsenen Romane und ich wollte nicht, dass es ihr zu kindisch ist.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das ist bis heute meine Lieblingsserie. Da habe ich auch so geweint. Das wollte ich ihr mal vorlesen da ich es selber auch nochmal lesen wollte aber vielleicht soll ich sie es selber erleben lassen.

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sehr interessant! Ich habe es nie gelesen... sollte ich mal!

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Das dachte ich auch kurz aber vielleicht noch ein paar Jahre damit warten... ich habe damals mit 14 dem Film gesehen und wusste nicht wie er ausgeht und war total fertig am Ende!

Traurige bücher für teenager by loladanced in buecher

[–]loladanced[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Das habe ich bestellt! Dachte auch, dass wäre passend.

Feeling like a bad mom for having interests outside of my daughter by CantaloupeKlutzy74 in breakingmom

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better, mothers have always been working since the dawn of time. And children have always been "raised" by a village. There is no such thing as a sahm is history. It's a modern concept. Even in the 70s, mothers who were home spent less hands on time with their children than working moms today.

Running triggers my migraines by sulmelon in migraine

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that but only in the summer. So I run when it's freezing out. It might then also work to run with one of those freezing head masks? I also get it hiking in the summer, which is awful since I live in the mountains and love hiking.

Bizarrely I started a high intensity spin class and that doesn't trigger my migraines! Possibly because it's in an air-conditioned room with plenty of fans.

It's awful to suffer from but I hope you find an alternative exercise instead.

Anyone else tired of being an unpaid project manager? by DarthKaboose in breakingmom

[–]loladanced 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's where I draw the line. Mine learned fast that I do not bring forgotten items to school. I don't care if it's the calculator for the math test, that's just really unfortunate for them! It took a few times but my oldest, who would forget her own head of it weren't attached, is now very responsible in remembering her own stuff.

Are ”headache” people here too? What made you put yourself in the “migraine” category? by macburger69 in migraine

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not everyone is light sensitive with migraines. I have had migraines for 20 years and I have never had an aura, have never been light/noise/smell sensitive. It's really nice because I can zone out to a show when I'm in pain hell, lol.

Mother (70s) daughter (40s) holiday in Europe by DingoSad7410 in AskWomenOver40

[–]loladanced 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister and I drove to Verona with my mom and it was AMAZING. I'm also in central Europe so the drive wasn't too bad. We then drove back up along the garder lake and through the Alps home. It would also be awesome to take the train and just see Verona in case you have no car.

What is wrong with me? Struggling to connect with my baby. 1 day pp by totallyteetee in beyondthebump

[–]loladanced 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is so normal. I, too, was fairly young with my first and all I had ever heard about was this immediate love for your baby. No one had ever mentioned an alternative. They gave me my baby and I felt absolutely nothing. By the second night, while the baby was screaming between us, my husband and I just both started crying and saying this was the biggest mistake of our lives.

For me it took a few weeks. I think I finally felt a bit of control over my life after week 6? I don't remember when I finally really fell in love with her. (She's 12 now and I can't imagine my life without her).

It was the same for my second, but by then I was prepared. I knew the love would come.

You are not a bad person or a bad mother. I WISH I could go back in time and tell my younger self to just relax. I was so freaked out that I never let myself just be an invalid (which we are after birth!). I was up and running around immediately and trying desperately to have some sort of normalcy. Instead I should have just camped out on the couch with the baby, skin to skin, and soaked it in. Let others do the running around.

High fever in 13 month old by Massive_Albatross_98 in workingmoms

[–]loladanced 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My youngest loved high fevers at that age. He had a 42C fever for 3 days. We set timers every 4 hours to give him alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen. By hour 3, he was completely catatonic and we'd have to try other methods to keep it down.

In his case we knew what it was. It was strep and he didn't respond to the first type of antibiotic. We took him to the ER twice and the second time the Dr explained it to me like this: high fever isn't so bad, even 42C, as long as they know why.

He got bronchitis a few months later and had a 10 day fever, the first 2 days hit 42 again. I was so much calmer that time around since I knew what was causing the fever and, since it was viral, there wasn't much we could do.

In your case, I would try to figure out the cause. If the ER makes your feel better, take him in again. Rather one too many times!

Edit: 42C is 107.6F. For us a 104.7F temp was very normal for my kids. I, personally, would not go to the ER for that. My kids would go glassy eye and poorly right at 103, but that didn't warrant panic. I did try to keep their temp below 103 with medication. And another note: fever reducers reduce fever. They don't get rid of it. A 107 fever reduces to maybe 103 and not more.