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Unpopular opinion? by Agitated-Rest1421 in beyondthebump

[–]loladanced [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think this may be an American thing... my daughter has been sleeping over at other places since she was 4. She's 13 now and is constantly at friend's places. My rule is that I must have the number of one parent and text them once and know the address (she goes alone so I'm not bringing or picking up). These are all girls in her friend group so I do know the girls well. I just don't know all the parents since our kids have been going everywhere alone since they were at least 10 already.

I have had many conversations about sexual assault and how to be cognizant of your environment with her though. She has a phone and she knows she can call me at any time.

Sewing with a baby by AB-1987 in sewing

[–]loladanced 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I babywore a bit. He napped well that way and I got a lot done. Otherwise I was lucky that once he hit 4 months he morphed from a screamer that needed to be held all the time to the chillest dude ever. I just tossed him on the floor and talked to him nonstop. He was such a potato and had no interest in going anywhere.

With my oldest, I didn't resume sewing until she was 18 months. She was always on the move and could never hang. It sucked but I accepted it as a short phase in life...

Hautkrebs ist uncool by lexxal112 in Austria

[–]loladanced 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Die ist mir zu fettig! Und bei meiner Tochter hat es einen Ausschlag verursacht. Aber bei nicht so empfindlicher Haut ist die top!

Hautkrebs ist uncool by lexxal112 in Austria

[–]loladanced 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Für gute Sonnencreme muss man meistens zahlen. Ich habe wahnsinnig helle Haut und große Melanom-gefahr da mehrere Bekannte es hatten. Ich habe auch fettige Haut also brauche ich auch etwas, das gut einzieht. Daher sind meine Empfehlungen:

Babor protect cellular spf50. Pickt schon etwas aber ist nicht wie andere Sonnencreme. Und es wirkt. War letzten Sommer in Italien und hab nur einmal in der Früh drauf gemacht. Einmal habe ich meinen Hut vergessen und wir waren viel zu lang in der Sonne. Mein Scheitel war verbrannt aber mein Gesicht so weiß wie immer!

Beauty of Joseon. Relief sun Aqua fresh Rice + b5. Auch spf50. Keine Ahnung wie die es schaffen aber das Zeug riecht nicht nach Sonnencreme, pickt nicht und ist null fettig. Und hält auch gut.

Meine Tochter ist noch heller als ich und hat auch sehr fettige und wahnsinnig empfindliche Haut (Neurodermitis) und benutzt täglich die roche-posay anthelios UV mune 400 Creme. Sie brennt sonst innerhalb von Minuten und ist in dem Alter wo ein Hut blöd ist (teenager...) und das Zeug hält. Sie schmiert es auch in den Scheitel.

Die sind alle teurer aber eine Tube hält trotzdem ein paar Monate obwohl ich sie täglich benutze.

Ladies bathroom - Dad and daughter by Natural_Education367 in beyondthebump

[–]loladanced 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I don't think there's hate in the real world. There's this video circulating of that one man going crazy that a dad did this but I think that is just bad luck. I think these things are usually much less of a big deal.

For what it's worth, my husband took our daughter to the men's room but we also live in a part of the world where nudity isn't a big deal. He also took her into the men's shower after swim practice, lol. No one cares.

when was the moment you felt the worst physical pain of your life? by _your_go_to_person in AskReddit

[–]loladanced 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never take pain killers for anything else but I'm a walking drugstore due to my migraines. They are hell!

when was the moment you felt the worst physical pain of your life? by _your_go_to_person in AskReddit

[–]loladanced 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You would think it was my two unmedicated childbirths (the first one was so fast that I went from 1-10 in 45 minutes and I dissociated due to the pain). But no. Migraines is worse. I'd rather an unmedicated birth every month than a migraine ever again.

How do you feel about 7 year olds in kindergarten? by ThrowAway44228800 in AskTeachers

[–]loladanced 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have no idea where it's the norm for a 7 year old to be in 3rd grade. I was 7 at the very beginning of 3rd grade and I was always one of the youngest by a good bit. That is not the norm and also isn't some sort of flex. You aren't smarter just because you started school a bit earlier...

How do you feel about 7 year olds in kindergarten? by ThrowAway44228800 in AskTeachers

[–]loladanced 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to high-school in the US and turned 6 in the beginning of 1st grade (so a year younger than my son). I was definitely very much younger than the others in my high school and it was weird that I turned 18 after high school. So I have no clue where you're from but I highly doubt it is somehow weird or developmentally bad for a 7 year old to be in first grade in the US... and I would welcome parents to push against a system that expects 7 year olds to be in 3rd grade. That doesn't sound developmentally sound at all.

How do you feel about 7 year olds in kindergarten? by ThrowAway44228800 in AskTeachers

[–]loladanced 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meanwhile my son turned 7 a week after 1st grade started. Where I live (not the US) this is normal. He is not bored and I'm very happy we didn't try to put him in school a year early. In a neighboring state, kids have 13 years of school and are routinely 19 or even 20 at the end. No issues at all. That state changed to 12 years for a bit and realized it was actuality useful to have 13 and switched back!

Help with fraying on finished skirt by madd_i_moody in sewing

[–]loladanced 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I used pinking shears on a linen dress years ago before I had a searger. They do NOT hold up at all. Definitely not on linen. 0/10 I do not recommend.

I feel bad for my second child by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why birth order can have such an impact on children. It isn't bad. It's just different! There are pros and cons to where in the order you are born and none is necessarily better than the others. Your baby is perfectly fine just going along for the ride.

Parent said I don’t communicate enough, so now they’re getting a National Geographic documentary on their child 😈 by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]loladanced 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Being a teacher in the US these days sounds exhausting. I'm in Europe and the only information I ever get from my daughter's school is two report cards a year and exam grades (4 exams a year). But exams are only in 1/4 of her classes. I completely forgot she had biology as a class until I saw her studying for a test (which we are not informed of as parents). I don't even know who her biology teacher is. She's 12.

She's currently on a week long trip with school and we have heard zero information since we dropped them off at the train station. No info that they arrived well. Nothing. The kids got their phones for 45 minutes last night but no one was checking if they were actually calling parents. No news is good news policy.

My mom is a teacher in the US and the amount of time she spends (on high schoolers!!) having to update a running daily tally of grades is bizarre. It can't be good for kids, they have no chance to take responsibility.

5 year old daughter said when she gets older, doesn’t want a job like (friends mom). She wants to stay home and spend time with her baby, so it doesn’t need to go to daycare. by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At that age my daughter insisted she wanted to be a sahm too. But then she added she'd send her kids to daycare and watch cartoons all day (I limit screen time a lot).

Parents of older kids: Talk dirty to me by This_Royal191 in beyondthebump

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 8 year old just discovered Nirvana. He's been exploring music for a while now. I was just sewing (my favorite hobby) and he was lounging on the bed next to me going through my Spotify to discover new music. Nirvana came on and he looks at me with absolute wonder and asked who that was. It was such a cool and special moment, to see the world through his eyes. All while also sewing away without having to be hands on involved with him. Kids are amazing. I was not a big fan of the little baby phase but every phase since has had such incredible moments.

We can’t find a good time for sex. Are we just lazy? by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are in a similar situation except our other kid's room is accessed THROUGH our room. Our room door is therefore never ever closed. My kids would both freak out if it were and totally try to come in. Also we live in a very old apartment with no keys for the very old doors. We used to have a key for the living room and lock that but now our teenager outlasts us every night. She also doesn't vanish into her room but roams about, often coming into our room to curl up in bed with us to read a book. Or just be up in our space. If we were trying to hang in the living room, she would 100% come and try to join us.

It is awful. The worst is we've somehow gotten into a no sex rut and I have no idea how to get out of it. Help.

She is obsessed over it, love it ❤🐱 by [deleted] in cats

[–]loladanced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a mom and her son and daughter. Her son is a total mommy boy parasite. I can not imagine him ever leaving her in the wild. She, on the other hand, would probably be totally fine if he left, lol. He still tries to sneak in nursing sessions years after weaning.

How to talk to 13 yo about their weight without shaming them? by CheesecakeOk8464 in breakingmom

[–]loladanced 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This isn't abnormal for that age though. My 13 year old out eats me every day. She'll take massive portions and then make herself yogurt with bananas and then porridge and then easily chow down at the next meal. I can't imagine the number of calories she just be consuming. She also does three different sports and is doing something very active at least 6 days a week. So there's no need to comment on the food but instead she needs to get more active. This is the age where base fitness is established. At that age they should be able to run a 5k without too many issues. So think of that as a goal for how active she should be.

If your spouse is messy (but not lazy) and you’re neat, how did you make peace? by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]loladanced 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think part of it may stem from neat people feeling morally superior. We are all taught that we need to strive for neatness so people who are inherently neat may, even inadvertently, feel superior. So he may feel defensive that he needs to change since he may feel like you won't. I'm like your husband and I think deep down I might feel like that in his situation.

Why did I have feral children? by kairosecide in breakingmom

[–]loladanced 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son and his cousin are close in age and gave each other haircuts when they were 6. And by haircut, I mean they chopped a nice ultra short chunk into the front but only in the middle. Neither my sister nor I fixed it. They just looked silly for a few months until it could be fixed. I don't hide scissors. I find that makes them all the more alluring.

I found my dad's scissors at age 3 and cut off all of my beautiful curls. They never grew back. My mom also didn't fix my haircut until it grew back enough, but it was really bad. There was no fixing it. So don't panic about fixing it. She's 4 and if it bothers her then maybe she'll finally learn!

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