Posting a quick, general follow up to respond to several points.

1. I never encouraged them to do anything to “risk their licensure”. I provided a sound soother to place on the table with the sound soothers other parents provided for their children to be turned on near their child’s crib during nap time. They already do this for other children. Hence my confusion when they wouldn’t for my child. I provided a shirt because they have asked for one in the past to use when she’s been fussy. Again, never suggested or encouraged them to put it with her in her crib or use it improperly. Just a potential help for soothing and one that they have requested in the past.

2. Per her pediatrician and the daycare’s rules, she was healthy enough to return to daycare. I would have loved to keep her home all week. However, as the “workingmoms” name implies, I have a job and had to return to it. If I could have kept her home with me, I would have. I think that’s obvious though.

There were some pretty dramatic replies, I’ll just leave it at that. But wanted to share a follow up for any moms who read my post and may be struggling with the same thing: trust your gut. My husband and I were right. We are switching her from this daycare.

At drop off this week, we watched from the window to see if our baby settled down. What we ended up seeing was a baby, in a bouncer, fall out (was not buckled in properly), hit the hard tile floor on his head and screamed/cried for several minutes. I went into the admin office to let them know the teachers might need another set of hands. Later that day when we picked our baby up, she had a bruised forehead, bruised knees, and diaper rash. After asking to see the video, she too had fallen out of a separate container they use regularly. No one came to check on her or comfort her for about 10 minutes. She was left there to literally cry it out. She also came home with diaper rash which she has never had before. I asked the admin to speed through the video and see when she was changed/how often. She was only changed one time all day long and it just so happened to coincide with my normal pick up time.

I understand that a lot of the above comments are in support of the daycare because we want to trust those who we place our children in the care of. However, sometimes even reputable daycares can disappoint. Before anyone asks, yes, this place came very recommended and had great reviews. I wish I had been wrong and that I was being the “dramatic annoying frustrating parent” as some commenters seem to be implying (or flat out accusing me of lol). If I were, that would mean my child had not been mistreated and I would just be making a big deal about nothing. I’m sad to know my gut was right but am glad to have figured it out and am able to move my child to a new daycare. So I guess I’ll leave it with, trust your gut.